Weird comment from boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

the other day I mentioned I wanted to buy new underwear since the pairs I have now are mostly older ones (keep in mind I wear normal cheeky ones or bikini style undies) my boyfriend mentioned I should wear more “attractive” underwear like Victoria secret and/or lace thongs…
I’ve never worn anything Victoria secret and I do own a few pairs of thongs but I hate the feeling of it being up my butt honestly. I only wear them when im wearing leggings/fitted dresses. Also they aren’t lace they’re just normal cotton material.
it’s bugging me because why did he mention specific things for me to wear? it grossed me out if we’re being honest & NO our sex life isn’t bad, we honestly have sex just about every night if not every other night. I am basically 4 months post partum from having a baby as well if that means anything?
im just getting a weird feeling from that comment.

[integrale77]

He's probably just quoting brand names he knows... Us guys know little about women's underwear apart from how to take them off.

Next time he starts quoting brands ask him to wear barbed wire boxers, when he says what your on about say "clearly I know as much about men's underwear at you know about women's underwear!"

I tell my fiancé to wear what she is comfortable with.

[Asker]

im not 100% comfortable with wearing lace thongs on a daily bases, im not against putting on a set, fishnets, etc when we’re getting down to business but for everyday use it’s not my thing.

[integrale77]

That's understandable your comfort shouldn't suffer for his occasional glimpse at your underwear

[Gent207-2]

Ex girlfriend or possible mistress or porn

Congratulations on your baby

My wife is 7 months post-partum, breastfeeding and her sex drive is non-existent. Long-story short if there was a chance to die as a hero, I'd take it right now. But I have never made a negative comment on her body or what Lind of underwear she should wear. She had bought sexy stuff in the past before kids. But I wouldn't ask her to wear it now especially if she wasn't comfortable

[Asker]

Thank you! Congratulations on yours as well. I will say this, this is where my mind is going to. I don’t mind him watching porn and have even watched it with him (before and during pregnancy). He says he doesn’t watch it now because we do have sex often now (our baby sleeps in their room/crib with no issue). The only reason I say ex girlfriend or mistress is because the specifics mentioned, also in the past he’s said he likes glasses and messy bun I’ve never had that look and only just started wearing glasses because my insurance doesn’t cover my contacts anymore. Little things made me think the comment was weird.

[Gent207-2]

Thank you So you suspect he may be trying to replicate the past relations he had with an ex?

[Asker]

maybe that or trying to get me to do things from previous relationships.. either way it’s weird to ask when i haven’t really worn lace ever in our relationship.

[Rebecca08]

I would go for it if I were you, you won't regret it. Gis who find thongs uncomfortable don't wear them often enough, that's the problem.

If you just wear them for 1-2 weeks in a row I guarantee you won't regret it. Afterall our buttocks are not different from any other part of our body. If we can wear clothes anywhere else I don't see why not also in our buttcrack.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Let's look at the brighter side: he's actually helping to bring more excitement in your relationship. A little suggestion won't hurt and he's not trying to force you. It actually will benefit both of you. However, if you don't like his suggestion, just directly tell him.

[DaveJord]

Sounds like a woman problem. Dude, probably doesn't give a damn what type of underwear you wear. He just gave an opinion, and you are the one making it weird now, not him.

[Asker]

that’s what im thinking because when we do have sex he doesn’t even want me to have any type of clothing on

[DaveJord]

Exactly

[DaveJord]

I am just saying most guys would not be able to comprehend the problem with his statement and why that should bother you. I mean you wear what you wear every day, so if busted out in Vicky's shit that would mean there is a special occasion in store for him... and yup, it all ends up on the floor.

[DaveJord]

But you want him to care, and honestly, he doesn't care what underwear you wear, because that is not what made him care about you in the first place. And honestly that should be all there is to it, and that should be good enough for you.

[Asker]

yeah I’ve never worn that type of stuff before anyways just due to my own personal insecurities and what not.. I guess what stuck with me was that he named specific things that he said looks nice or whatever.. that I’ve never worn before.

[DaveJord]

You said, "Due to my own personal insecurities"... so it's possible that it's not about him at all. Just consider that... that all I am saying,

[Asker]

true which is why im overthinking stuff

[DaveJord]

Yup, maybe.

[CrabCakes11]

Just tell him you’re going to wear what makes you comfortable. If he pushes the issue, reevaluate your relationship

[DrPepper12]

Just him being insensitive. Tell him and explain your reasons. He sounds like he just made an error.

[mistershy94]

lingerie and underwear are two different things in my opinion, i would consider Victoria's secret lingerie and just plain panties underwear, one has a visual function and the other is more just for show, so... maybe he just made a dumb comment cuz he didn't know better?

[Asker]

i can see that, when i did mention why Victoria secret he mentioned it’s the only place he knows that sell underwear like “that”

[LEGENDARY4200]

Probably didn't mean anything bad about it just a suggestion. Maybe he thought it'd help you to feel more sexy to yourself

[CubaPirate]

He probably just wants to spice things up a little and make you feel good. Nothing to worry about imao

[MasterKS]

He may want you to look more sexy and appealing.

[AnAmazingGuy]

the answer is hidden in how do you look in that

[Asker]

I would say he might want me to put effort in? but it just bugged me that he named specifics.. maybe I’m overthinking