Any other men just don't like one night stands?

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I have had several in my life. Maybe 15 or so. I was young and I was afraid of women. But I guess I was good looking because I ended up having that many one night stands when I believed I would die a virgin.

But I never enjoyed them. Girls who do one night stands they're all the same. They Get on the bed face down ass up, and they want you to pound them doggystyle. They want to literally throw their ass back as well so you have to find this perfect rhythm.

I need more than that. I would rather just not have sex at all. I want to kiss and cuddle and fall in love AND fuck like animals. If the rest isn't there I can't do it.

If I don't feel some type of love from that girl it's just not happening. I feel like it's extremely bizarre the experiences I had with girls from bars and clubs and such. Absolutely bizarre and strange.

But I'm glad I did it. Why? So I could know it wasn't worth anything to do it. Because before that I had believed if I wasn't able to have one night stands, I wasn't a male who was worthy of female attention.

Whitewulf · Accepted Answer

Your story sounds a lot like mine. Always hated one night stands and never understood why a female would want one. I get that you have needs and some girls just don’t want a relationship. But let assume we both got off and it was satisfying for both.
the next day I want it even more now than I did before we had sex. So at the very least let’s do a friends with benefits kinda thing.
and yes I also need the foreplay and the warm up time. Any man older than 30 35 has seen or been with enough women that you dropping panties and expecting us to snap to an erection ain’t gonna work.
yeah when I was 17-25 just the smell of her perfume make a guy hard but not these days. Anyways I think women don’t feel like they need or want a man in general

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

One night stands are terrible. All the clingy stalking female with none of the good sex in exchange. Ell oh ell!
I’m only half joking. I eventually came to learn that i might actually be the only male who has ever lived who doesn’t have mind blowing climaxes whenever a woman looks at me sideways. I’ve never had good sex on a ONS, let alone great sex. I have to know a woman pretty well before sex is good. She has to know me very well before sex is great, AND she can’t be lazy or selfish sexually. I’ve had fourteen lovers. Only two offered great sex. Obviously they were not one night stands.

AviatorTom · Answer

I've only done a one-night stand once. It was fun while it lasted, but in hindsight, it was a pretty empty experience. Which Is probably why I've never done another one.

Tim2nice · Answer

You’re confusing sex with love. One nights are wild and naughty. If you want love get a girlfriend or wife

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I've never particularly enjoyed them.

David94358 · Answer

I was never into them, but mostly because I hate using condoms, and when you are fucking a stranger it's a big risk not to use them.

exitseven · Answer

I only did it once. I never cared to do it again.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

That said man - and despite all those health risks and emotional risks, not to mention pregnancy risks ; surely you weren't thinking much ever time the women in their 20s were on their all fours in their prime? Lol 🤣😆 each one nighter

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, boring men are everywhere.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Funny. I wish I had more NSA sex. I feel FOMO

Alex-Snow · Answer

While a relationship is better it is fun to get naked with someone new and share some fun orgasms!

LiamJHayden · Answer

Had my fill of those in my teens.

jahaims · Answer

I wouldn't have casual sex

Twalli · Answer

I never wanted any to start with. Never even tried. If I was to have sex, it would be with someone I was dating. That meant I didn't have sex until 27.5, but it was with someone I love (that's right we're still together).

Dongie · Answer

Yep, I've had a few too. For reasons I'll not go into, by the time I was 20 I couldn't cultivate an intimate relationship and just ended up picking up girls in club mostly. But some I met through friends and family. All told it is around about 35 give or take. Some a few times but never a relationship.