What do Christians do when it comes to being horny?

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I'm a Christian myself (I'm 16 btw) but I masturbate. Ik some people say that it's ok to masturbate if you're Christian but others say that you shouldn't. But, I mean I do because, I don't know. I obviously can't have sex yet but I'm horny all the time and I don't really know what else to do. But even masturbating doesn't even feel like enough. Ik a lot of people say to distract yourself but that doesn't work for me at all. So, what do other Christians do about this?

tupperware · Accepted Answer

tl;dr - Jesus said nothing on the subject of masturbation, and if he cared enough to say it's wrong, he would have. Catholics do, but they say lots of things Jesus never said. For women, masturbation is a wide world - there's probably something out there that will scratch the itch.

The Bible doesn't explicitly forbid masturbation anywhere. There is no commandment saying "Thou shalt not get thyself off" and Jesus never said "Beat not thy meat, for it is a sin and will lead you astray like a lost shepherd" or anything like that. Of course masturbation existed when each of the various parts of the Bible were written, and it would say so if there were some problem. Catholics don't like masturbation, but... at the risk of ruffling some feathers, is the Catholic church really a church of Jesus, or or is it a church based on what Paul the Apostle thought about things?

There's stuff about adultery and adulterous thoughts, and adultery does include premarital sex. So based on the bible, I'd say the solution is to get better at/more creative with your "skills" and try not to think about any particular guys while you're... at it. If you're Catholic, confess every Sunday and call it good. I'm kidding. If you're Catholic, I guess hands off, and sorry about the Paul thing.

There are some Christians who say fingering and oral and even anal don't count as sex, but really... do you think you're gonna slip a technicality past God? I don't, for one.

Beyond whatever you're currently doing, there's the shower head. I've heard that can be "friendly." Also there are um... props. For women. That go buzz. I'm told they're thorough. There's certainly nothing in the Bible about vibrators, and again... if Jesus had a problem with people getting themselves off, he probably would have said something about it to one of the gospel writers. I'd recommend one of those. With the internet being what it is, you should be able to get your hands on one. If not, back massager. The companies that make them know damn well what women use them for and they're designed with that in mind.

You'll be alright. Sex is 100x better when it's with someone you love, and if that's only gonna happen when you're married, it's worth it.

And obviously, whatever a girl has to say on this subject is probably far more sensical and informed. Definitely check with them before you run off and spend money on a sybian. (Don't start with a sybian.)

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

First of all you have to stop watching porn if you are. It's a HUGE problem in society today because it's so easily accessible. I'm a Christian and I got a little bit addicted to it once. I knew it was wrong but I got used to clicking on some when I felt a little bit horny. I'm not perfect and I admit I looked at some recently but I know I shouldn't. But I went through a faze when I was regularly watching it all the time and I found myself like you when I was doing it. I was feeling constantly horny and wanting more and more sexually. Like a drug. It's a dangerous situation to get into really. But I stopped watching it all the time and I found I wasn't horny all the time and could focus better on daily life. I'm not addicted like I was but I've still got some work to do too. And I don't wanna fall into that trap again. Because it is a trap and a bad one to be in.
I'm a virgin and I still masturbate. I don't think I could give that away to be honest. We're still human. I feel ridiculously horny sometimes. I believe it's ok to do it as a way of sexual release and there's nothing specific in the bible saying it's a sin. But don't let it rule your life. If you can't leave the house or get through a normal day because you have to masturbate then it's becoming a problem. Start by giving away porn if that's your situation. It's the best decision you'll ever make to help calm down those hormones. You'll find you'll have a clearer mind and you won't be constantly horny all day. I still believe it's ok to masturbate or you'll go crazy. But most of the time imagination instead of porn is enough for me to get the job done and calm down my hormones lol. Also would you ever dream of looking up porn in the middle of a church service? I don't think so lol. Think about that the next time you feel like looking at it. So start by making a quality decision. No more porn. As soon as the desire is there to search for it stop yourself. Tell yourself no! The power is in your hands. And of course we have God to call on for help. It's the best decision you'll ever make. And I'm speaking from experience.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Your going to have the feeling to have sex. God made us sexual humans to become one with your spouse and multiply. Not to just give in to the flesh an jus be having sex jus cause. Yes its hard to fight off that sexual "want" but you have to pass the test to not fall into temptation. Thats not God wants you to do. you have to come to him and pray that he remove that sexual spirit off you that you will do things to please him. Gods is watching you while you do it every time disappointed. If you could see him and he walked in on you would you stop and feel bad or keep going? If it doesn't seem right then its not. Stick to your beliefs and focus on doing things to please God not you. Fight off that feeling you can.

realerthanreal · Accepted Answer

First of all, you're a kid. So I find answering this question a bit disturbing. However, I will say this further proves how nuts and maniacal this dumbass god is. Anything that brings us any sort of pleasure in life is a threat to this insecure nutjob's ego and thereby considered a sin. So why do Christians continue to worship him/it? What kind of life are you living with your hands constantly tied? With a question like this, you are not enjoying your life and in constant worry. And yes, masturbation is a sin, because it has to do with lust.

Drooogie4 · Accepted Answer

Sex isn't evil, masturbation isn't wrong. Don't repress everything. That never does anyone any good, psychologically.

Realistic07 · Answer

They have sex just to give you a blunt and honest answer and yes before marriage.

Hannah591 · Answer

I went to a Christian school. The majority just had sex when they were ready - that's what modern religious people do now anyway.

Curmudgeon · Answer

Consider yourself lucky. What do Muslims do when it comes to being horny?

shy_girl96 · Answer

Real Christians don't have that problem

slatyb · Answer

Everyone masturbates. It's fine. What Christians and everyone else used to do is marry early. Now what everyone does (at least in Western countries) is have sex before marriage. That's fine too. Your parents probably did.

1ian20 · Answer

Masturbation is a sin because there is not a pro creative or unitive aspect. Sex is giving yourself to someone else as an act of love/self gift. When you masturbate you are doing it out of pleasure for yourself.

reptocarl · Answer

I jerk it or get laid

Dargil · Answer

The Bible is mute on masturbation. Churches contrive prohibitions. Use masturbation to slake off what you can. You will have to wait for raging hormones to subside... and they will. You really want to feel loved. Sex lies to you into believing you are loved. Wait for true love to come before you reward it with your treasure.

26ukdude · Answer

I think you should continue to masturbate. What you do with your own body is no ones busniness but your own. Like I say so many times, you can use "but religion says this" for anything, or against anything.

cth96190 · Answer

If you do not have sexual release you will go insane. In the absence of a partner, masturbation is the only option.

genericname85 · Answer

it´s perfectly healthy to masturbate. guess what you can be a christian and not be completely ignorant. the bible telling people to not have sex out of marriage was written in a time where people married at 13... so at that time it was of course outrageous to have sex before marriage. nowadays it´s totally fine, as long as you´re still a decent person, not lying or trying to hurt people doing it.

TheFlak36 · Answer

I don't know if there is anything allowed by Christians except praying. Whatever you do, you're guilty so it doesn't matter that much. The religion preaches apathy and self destruction. It will be better if you get rid of religion in your life.

Milesjoe · Answer

Keep doing What. your doing nothing is. wrong ! Get a guy get laid have fun . You can still say your prays . You must enjoy this life time goes fast so stop the thinking and get out there