What do Christians do when it comes to being horny?

[Anonymous]

I'm a Christian myself (I'm 16 btw) but I masturbate. Ik some people say that it's ok to masturbate if you're Christian but others say that you shouldn't. But, I mean I do because, I don't know. I obviously can't have sex yet but I'm horny all the time and I don't really know what else to do. But even masturbating doesn't even feel like enough. Ik a lot of people say to distract yourself but that doesn't work for me at all. So, what do other Christians do about this?

[tupperware]

tl;dr - Jesus said nothing on the subject of masturbation, and if he cared enough to say it's wrong, he would have. Catholics do, but they say lots of things Jesus never said. For women, masturbation is a wide world - there's probably something out there that will scratch the itch.

The Bible doesn't explicitly forbid masturbation anywhere. There is no commandment saying "Thou shalt not get thyself off" and Jesus never said "Beat not thy meat, for it is a sin and will lead you astray like a lost shepherd" or anything like that. Of course masturbation existed when each of the various parts of the Bible were written, and it would say so if there were some problem. Catholics don't like masturbation, but... at the risk of ruffling some feathers, is the Catholic church really a church of Jesus, or or is it a church based on what Paul the Apostle thought about things?

There's stuff about adultery and adulterous thoughts, and adultery does include premarital sex. So based on the bible, I'd say the solution is to get better at/more creative with your "skills" and try not to think about any particular guys while you're... at it. If you're Catholic, confess every Sunday and call it good. I'm kidding. If you're Catholic, I guess hands off, and sorry about the Paul thing.

There are some Christians who say fingering and oral and even anal don't count as sex, but really... do you think you're gonna slip a technicality past God? I don't, for one.

Beyond whatever you're currently doing, there's the shower head. I've heard that can be "friendly." Also there are um... props. For women. That go buzz. I'm told they're thorough. There's certainly nothing in the Bible about vibrators, and again... if Jesus had a problem with people getting themselves off, he probably would have said something about it to one of the gospel writers. I'd recommend one of those. With the internet being what it is, you should be able to get your hands on one. If not, back massager. The companies that make them know damn well what women use them for and they're designed with that in mind.

You'll be alright. Sex is 100x better when it's with someone you love, and if that's only gonna happen when you're married, it's worth it.

And obviously, whatever a girl has to say on this subject is probably far more sensical and informed. Definitely check with them before you run off and spend money on a sybian. (Don't start with a sybian.)

[Asker]

Thorough answer! Thanks!

[Anonymous]

First of all you have to stop watching porn if you are. It's a HUGE problem in society today because it's so easily accessible. I'm a Christian and I got a little bit addicted to it once. I knew it was wrong but I got used to clicking on some when I felt a little bit horny. I'm not perfect and I admit I looked at some recently but I know I shouldn't. But I went through a faze when I was regularly watching it all the time and I found myself like you when I was doing it. I was feeling constantly horny and wanting more and more sexually. Like a drug. It's a dangerous situation to get into really. But I stopped watching it all the time and I found I wasn't horny all the time and could focus better on daily life. I'm not addicted like I was but I've still got some work to do too. And I don't wanna fall into that trap again. Because it is a trap and a bad one to be in.
I'm a virgin and I still masturbate. I don't think I could give that away to be honest. We're still human. I feel ridiculously horny sometimes. I believe it's ok to do it as a way of sexual release and there's nothing specific in the bible saying it's a sin. But don't let it rule your life. If you can't leave the house or get through a normal day because you have to masturbate then it's becoming a problem. Start by giving away porn if that's your situation. It's the best decision you'll ever make to help calm down those hormones. You'll find you'll have a clearer mind and you won't be constantly horny all day. I still believe it's ok to masturbate or you'll go crazy. But most of the time imagination instead of porn is enough for me to get the job done and calm down my hormones lol. Also would you ever dream of looking up porn in the middle of a church service? I don't think so lol. Think about that the next time you feel like looking at it. So start by making a quality decision. No more porn. As soon as the desire is there to search for it stop yourself. Tell yourself no! The power is in your hands. And of course we have God to call on for help. It's the best decision you'll ever make. And I'm speaking from experience.

[Asker]

Thanks for the thorough answer😊

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome! And I hope it helps with whatever you're struggling with 🙂

[slatyb]

How do you know it is wrong to watch porn? And why do you believe it is a HUGE problem? Climate change is a HUGE problem. Here are some other problems in the US that are huge compared to porn: Homelessness, lack of access to medical care, abusive and racist policing, hunger, the impoverishment of the middle class, all much bigger problems than porn. Sociologically, porn is a complete non-problem. Kind of like marijuana. People pretend that it's a problem, but they really can't point to anything specific except that they think it's yucky.

[Opinion Owner]

@slatyb people fall into this trap without even realising it. It's a bad addiction and I've had it before. It subtly grows and grows until your mind becomes so perverted it affects your daily life, your thought patterns, enters into your dreams and even can change your behaviour. But anyway this answer wasn't for you so I'm not gonna try and make you understand anything you're not open to.

[Opinion Owner]

Question asker? Can you please watch this? I just feel you've been struggling with this and I really wanna help you. Because I've been in your situation before and I know what it's like. Hundreds of people will give you all sorts of advice and it can get confusing. But really seek God. He will help you and tell you what to do

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Fjm1GHal7kY

[Asker]

This does make sense, but my thing is, I feel like lately no matter what's going on or what problems I have or whatever, God is silent. Like he's not answering any of my questions about anything. I don't know what's going on. Like even in church I feel so disconnected, it's like I'm just going because it's a habit. This makes me question everything.

[Opinion Owner]

Please don't lose sight of God though. It's so important in these times. But I really feel that porn comes into this situation we're talking about. As I said I've been there myself. People will tell you "it's fine", "everyone does it", "It's not harmful", "just do it". But the truth is it's poison. It's like drinking a cup of poison each day and then saying "why am I sick?" "I don't understand". It will cloud your mind. It will affect your daily life without even realising it. It'll creep in and keep you away from God thus preventing you from hearing him. I'm not perfect and I'm the first to put up my hand and admit it. I've had a few times when I've caved again and watched it. But I'm not where I used to be with it. I was so badly addicted once. But God spoke to me one day and told me to stop. How do you hear from him? It's that little check inside. That's God talking to you. You don't have to get down on your knees and say please please God. Just be still and you'll hear him.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHG. I hope it really does help you. I love Joyce Meyer. Watching her has helped me with so many situations in my life. Try clicking on that if you're ever struggling. All the best :)

[Asker]

Thanks so much. You really helped.

[slatyb]

Asker, maybe you should watch this. Julia Sweeney had the same feelings you are having. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KiU5ht5W_lk

[Anonymous]

Your going to have the feeling to have sex. God made us sexual humans to become one with your spouse and multiply. Not to just give in to the flesh an jus be having sex jus cause. Yes its hard to fight off that sexual "want" but you have to pass the test to not fall into temptation. Thats not God wants you to do. you have to come to him and pray that he remove that sexual spirit off you that you will do things to please him. Gods is watching you while you do it every time disappointed. If you could see him and he walked in on you would you stop and feel bad or keep going? If it doesn't seem right then its not. Stick to your beliefs and focus on doing things to please God not you. Fight off that feeling you can.

[FrenchyRomain]

so having sex without procreating is a bad thing? masturbating is a bad thing? feeling lust makes me evil? you believe that "God" watches you at every single second of your entire life? at all times? and judges you? and at the second you step out of line you are damned to hell?

[Opinion Owner]

@FrenchyRomain yes it's bad to masturbate. you're acting on lust which is a sin. you're pleasing the Flesh and not the spirit. lust doesn't make you evil but acting on your lustful thinking is wrong. which is like saying you're not strong enough or weak minded to not fight off the want to have sex... you are falling into temptation.. instead of standing fast on God. God watches you everyday all day throughout your life. yes he judges you. are you going to do the right thing or not? are you going to pass his test or fail? are you doing things to please others and do what they say or are you doing things to please God and do what his word says? you are not damned to hell every time you step out of line but you will be held accountable for all the wrong doings

[Asker]

Ok. Well, what did you do when you were younger? Was this ever a problem for you?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I was the same way but I just found other things to do clean up work out take shower listen to music not sexual tho. just do something else and I kept asking God to help me stop take that feeling of I need it right now away. I felt like me praying bout it didn't work but one day I realized I didn't have the want to do it any more and if I did have that feeling it wasn't as strong and it easily went a way

[FrenchyRomain]

i want to please myself not God : "The God of the Old Testament is arguably the most unpleasant character in all fiction: jealous and proud of it; a petty, unjust, unforgiving control-freak; a vindictive, bloodthirsty ethnic cleanser; a misogynistic, homophobic, racist, infanticidal, genocidal, filicidal, pestilential, megalomaniacal, sadomasochistic, capriciously malevolent bully." Besides I don't believe in God myself, I was raised without him in my life and i have my own morals : sex and lust are not a bad thing, they become so when dogma and brainwashing tell you it is.

[Opinion Owner]

@FrenchyRomain will if you don't believe in God then why did you comment on this question about what Christians do if you're not a Christian nor do you believe in God

[FrenchyRomain]

because she is conflicted as to what she should do... and what she should do is LISTEN to her body and her desires not some fictional entity dictating her life. God gave us free will? yet you don't fucking use it you blindly follow a 2000 year old book like sheep... you have the biggest brain of the food chain and you don't use it... you contradict yourself ! xD pathetic

[Opinion Owner]

@FrenchyRomain no I think you're the one that's confused on life and maybe one day you'll be able to find yourself in a God and not your own rules for life

[FrenchyRomain]

i'm a scientist... i need proof to believe in something : faith is belief based on an ABSENCE of data. It invites disaster

[Lemoon]

@FrenchyRomain Science is only skin deep. Science and religion do not mix. They are completely different things it is like comparing a phone to television.

[realerthanreal]

First of all, you're a kid. So I find answering this question a bit disturbing. However, I will say this further proves how nuts and maniacal this dumbass god is. Anything that brings us any sort of pleasure in life is a threat to this insecure nutjob's ego and thereby considered a sin. So why do Christians continue to worship him/it? What kind of life are you living with your hands constantly tied? With a question like this, you are not enjoying your life and in constant worry. And yes, masturbation is a sin, because it has to do with lust.

[Lemoon]

@realerthanreal maybe we are worshipping and becoming slaves to this finite world rather than God, God who must be addressed with honour.

[Drooogie4]

Sex isn't evil, masturbation isn't wrong. Don't repress everything. That never does anyone any good, psychologically.

[Realistic07]

They have sex just to give you a blunt and honest answer and yes before marriage.

[Hannah591]

I went to a Christian school. The majority just had sex when they were ready - that's what modern religious people do now anyway.

[Curmudgeon]

Consider yourself lucky. What do Muslims do when it comes to being horny?

[Asker]

That I don't know.

[Curmudgeon]

Their religion is a lot stricter. I am sure your pastor or youth group church leader will at least understand your feelings.

[shy_girl96]

Real Christians don't have that problem

[Drooogie4]

Lololol Brainwashed out of normal human function

[Asker]

😂are you being serious? Are you Christian by any chance?

[shy_girl96]

Indeed I am a Christian

[Asker]

So, you don't ever get turned on? Or think about sexual things?

[shy_girl96]

Never

[Asker]

Not even in your teen years? That's kinda weird. I mean, even being a Christian I don't think it's abnormal to get turned on...

[Drooogie4]

@Asker Because she's lying. Or just messing with you, not quite sure.

[Asker]

@Drooogie4 Yea. It has to be one of the two, because that makes no sense😂

[shy_girl96]

No I'm not. I have never been turned on because it has never been something I'm interested in.

[Asker]

So I'm guessing you're one of the few asexual people.

[shy_girl96]

correct

[Drooogie4]

Well then you dont have the problem because you're asexual. Not because you're some "superior christian"

[Asker]

@Drooogie4 Yea. It's because you're asexual. Not because you're Christian. Even Christians get turned on, otherwise Christians wouldn't reproduce.

[slatyb]

Everyone masturbates. It's fine. What Christians and everyone else used to do is marry early. Now what everyone does (at least in Western countries) is have sex before marriage. That's fine too. Your parents probably did.

[cth96190]

For Christians, pre-marital or extra-martial sex is not an option. That is either fornication or adultery, both of which are hell-worthy sins. It is all in the Bible. Makes me glad that I am a Wodanist. We celebrate sex.

[slatyb]

@cth96190 There's like everything in the bible. All modern Christians just pick the stuff they like and ignore the rest, even the ones who claim they don't. I don't see anyone forcing their daughter to marry a rapist. Anyway, it's very possible to be Christian without believing that every word of the bible is from God.

[1ian20]

Masturbation is a sin because there is not a pro creative or unitive aspect. Sex is giving yourself to someone else as an act of love/self gift. When you masturbate you are doing it out of pleasure for yourself.

[Asker]

Yea, and I mean I realize that, which is why I've tried to hold out but ever since I've become a teenager I'm really horny all the time. I don't know how people can hold out without any sort of pleasure. I mean, you're a 16 year old guy, what do you do?

[cth96190]

Scriptural reference required to support that statement, please. I have read the Bible cover to cover several times and, to the best of my recollection, there is NOTHING in it about masturbation. This is as close as it gets, which as nothing to do with masturbation, but sexually-repressed Christians cite these passages in an attempt to say that masturbation is a sin. Genesis 38:8-10King James Version (KJV) 8 And Judah said unto Onan, Go in unto thy brother's wife, and marry her, and raise up seed to thy brother. 9 And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother's wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother. 10 And the thing which he did displeased the Lord: wherefore he slew him also.

[slatyb]

Christians do things out of pleasure for themselves literally all the time. They drink, gamble, dance, play music, listen to music, play video games, and masturbate. Most sects of Christianity are not ascetic.

[1ian20]

I never said I didn't do it. (: There's been times when I've been able to restrain myself but it's very difficult. You can PM me if you have any other questions.

[1ian20]

@cth96190 Its not from scripture, it's from the Magisterium.

[cth96190]

If it is not in the Bible, it is a doctrine of man and therefore heretical and anti-Christian. The Bible says so.

[1ian20]

@slatyb It's not a sin to do things that bring you pleasure. That is not what is sinful about masturbation.

[1ian20]

@cth96190 The Magisterium is the teaching office of the Catholic Church. The Magisterium is infallible because it is guided by the Holy Spirit.

[cth96190]

Keep drinking the Kool-Aid. Would that be the same Magisterium that approved the selling of indulgences? Or that decreed that the Earth was flat? Or that decreed that the Sun went around the Earth? Or that decided that it was God's work to torture and burn alive anyone who was accused of following the pre-Christian religions?

[1ian20]

@cth96190 Believe what you want, and I'll believe what I want. (:

[slatyb]

"Sex is giving yourself to someone else as an act of love/self gift." Have you actually had sex? Mostly sex is taking turns giving and getting. Anyway, you didn't give any backup for your belief that masturbation is sinful. Almost no human can abstain from masturbation. in my opinion telling young people masturbation is a sin is abusive.

[1ian20]

@slatyb Sex is self gift. You are giving yourself to someone completely when you have sex. Sex should be an act of love and unity, not lust. I've never had sex, no. The physical expression of human sexuality is innately "other-centered" and "new-life-centered", not "self centered". In the case of masturbation, the individual misuses his or her sexuality by focusing this gift only on himself or herself, completely separated from its purpose. Masturbation can become addicting and lead to sexual obsession. Masturbation also leads to lustful thoughts about others.

[slatyb]

"Masturbation can become addicting" "Masturbation leads to lustful thougts about others". This is dogma, not facts. Anyway, God made us to have lustful thoughts about others. Not having lustful thoughts about others is abnormal.

[1ian20]

@slatyb Can you prove that what I said is dogma? As far as I'm aware it's reasonable and factual. In Matthew 5:28, Jesus says that, 'Anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.' This here is proof that your statement is incorrect.

[slatyb]

That biblical quote says nothing to support your claim that "Masturbation can become addicting". You have made a claim about the consequences of human behavior -- that people who masturbate "become addicted" to something, which you seem to believe has some negative consequences. That is a testable claim. Do people who abstain from masturbation do better in life in any measurable way? There's no point in consulting the Bible to answer questions about real life, we can either search published studies or do such a study ourselves. Even anecdotal evidence is better than a quote from the Bible.

[slatyb]

When I was a 16-year-old guy I masturbated literally morning and night. Afternoons too sometimes. I managed to graduate college and am happily married now and earning a relatively high wage, so I don't seem to have suffered all that much. There are actual studies that suggest that regular ejaculation is good for men. in my opinion masturbating is much healthier than attempting to abstain.

[1ian20]

@slatyb You do what you'd like. I have presented clear evidence that lust and masturbation are both sins. Just because it's good for you doesn't mean you should set aside the word of God and do it. Masturbation addictions are very prevalent in today's society especially since porn can be accessed with just a few thumb taps. Addictions become compulsive and interfere with ordinary life responsibilities. I'm not saying that if you masturbate your life is ruined. All I'm saying is that it is morally wrong.

[reptocarl]

I jerk it or get laid

[26ukdude]

I think you should continue to masturbate. What you do with your own body is no ones busniness but your own. Like I say so many times, you can use "but religion says this" for anything, or against anything.

[Dargil]

The Bible is mute on masturbation. Churches contrive prohibitions. Use masturbation to slake off what you can. You will have to wait for raging hormones to subside... and they will. You really want to feel loved. Sex lies to you into believing you are loved. Wait for true love to come before you reward it with your treasure.

[cth96190]

If you do not have sexual release you will go insane.
In the absence of a partner, masturbation is the only option.

[genericname85]

it´s perfectly healthy to masturbate. guess what you can be a christian and not be completely ignorant. the bible telling people to not have sex out of marriage was written in a time where people married at 13... so at that time it was of course outrageous to have sex before marriage. nowadays it´s totally fine, as long as you´re still a decent person, not lying or trying to hurt people doing it.

[TheFlak36]

I don't know if there is anything allowed by Christians except praying. Whatever you do, you're guilty so it doesn't matter that much. The religion preaches apathy and self destruction. It will be better if you get rid of religion in your life.

[Milesjoe]

Keep doing What. your doing nothing is. wrong ! Get a guy get laid have fun . You can still say your prays . You must enjoy this life time goes fast so stop the thinking and get out there

[lopflodin]

You have sinned now c u in hell

[BusinessBasketball]

Have sex. Sex is normal human nature.

[IceEverest]

Masturbation is not mentioned in any religion directly. Its people who use their logic...

[sad_si]

I spend many hours masturbating to try and get over it.

[Benk111]

I thought you guys were supposed to prey on those situations?

[Asker]

Yea. I do but I feel like I'm not getting answers and nothing is changing.

[Sosyopat]

To the religion of Islam is very welcome. This is what we we're staying away from events like this

[Anonymous]

Some people do have sex even tho Christian. Maybe just oral sex.

[Anonymous]

Christians are very diverse racially, they generally follow the prevailing culture in their country. I'd advice you to do what you feel good about doing. :)

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I felt guilty for masturbating for a while, but not anymore. Grew up in a religious household. I'm a virgin, so that's all I got. I don't think masturbating is bad.

[Anonymous]

i pray. and i fast from foods but mainly from thoughts. its easier than it seems.

[Opinion Owner]

its not like fighting an enemy. think of it in terms of love. why exercise my lust when i have a greater love for God. my heart already belongs somewhere... .

[Anonymous]

Go to conversion therapy.

[Anonymous]

The pastors usually fondle some little boys.

[Anonymous]

Get a boyfriend get married? Or just think about jesus looking at you while you do your business.

[FrenchyRomain]

you believe Jesus watches you at all times in your life and if you step out of line you go to hell?

[slatyb]

She's WAY too young to get married.

[FrenchyRomain]

@slatyb dude forget it... she is a devout christian, sense and logic don't apply to them