What do you think about sex on a first date?

[MandaFanta]

Should it be the 2nd or 3rd? Even further in?

[BrianTG78]

Kinda depends on the situation, and what the two parties are looking for. Where and how I meet someone plays a part in how serious I'll take the relationship. I'm sure it's about the same for everyone. There are spells where I want to find someone to be with forever, then times I can't stand relationships and only want the flirtation and physical relationship.
With you referring to it as the first date, though, I presume there are hopes for future dates with some potential for a more exclusive relationship if all goes well. If I want to be respectful of the potential future I'd pass on being too physical the first few dates. Maybe even the first few weeks. I'd flirt. At this point in my life I'd try to lock the relationship in after an open discussion about our wants, needs and expectations if it was appropriate. If it felt right. Then I'd get right at it, head to toe. You already know.

Real talk? In general, I don't feel too great after sex on the first date. But I also have very little faith in relationships anymore, so might have to take advantage of an opportunity should it present itself.

[MrOracle]

As much as I'm a guy and I would love to say "yes, go for it", the truth is that MOST of the time it's going to work against you ASSUMING you are hoping to have a real romantic relationship with the guy. If you're just looking for some fun casual sex, then there's no problem, but guys looking for a relationship are going to be looking for girls who know how to set and observe boundaries, because they can't trust the ones who don't with their emotions. Guys rarely allow themselves to be emotionally vulnerable, and they're VERY protective about doing so, and if they don't feel they can trust the girl, then they simply won't do it.

in my opinion, the "third date rule" is a reasonable threshold for active daters who don't want to wait too long, but still hope for a real relationship.

[laurieluvsit]

It all depends on the chemistry, location, etc.

And then you need to be good at discerning as to how truthful he is... lol

[Capes]

Agreed!

[katiesmuff]

First date 10th date any date it is okay in my book. It is all about how you personally think about it and no firm rule exists.

[AustinMan]

I wait until we have a strong emotional connection and I don't feel like that happens on the first date.

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[Being_a_good_Indian]

If you want to have sex on the first date, you have every right to finish your pinot and do the d*mn thing.

Unless you’ve made the personal choice to hold out until you a hit a specific dating milestone (maybe you've heard of the Three-Date Rule? **rolls eyes**) for your own reasons, you’re under no obligation to keep your sexuality on lockdown. That should go without saying, but many women these days refrain from first-date sex to avoid being "tainted." It's an awful word and promotes an antiquated societal pressure that somehow (how?) still exists in 2020.

[NamerOfStars]

It's not for me. But if it works for you, it works for you.

[Quackthulu]

Typically I shoot for the 3rd date. But hey, things happen.

[centerline]

depends on the person and the situation, but normally the 3rd date is a make or break deal...

[Red_Arrow]

If you enjoy the person and are just looking to enjoy the sex, not expecting a long term relationship, then why not, as long as you are cautious about std’s.

[ohshee]

It depends on what you mean as first date,,, most of the time when I go on a first date that can mean I know you and this is our first time out together or one day I say hi to someone I say would u like to go on a date. Well the first o e if I know you if we make love first date I love it
The second one if there is a bond happening you both know it and feel it yes but if you don't think it's going to go anywhere don't use the person. Just hug and say thank you goid night

[JackSmy]

No set time-table!! What kind of crap is that? Every woman is different, and it is when we both feel ready, not some calendar event!!
Who came up with that nonsense?

[Raph37]

Sex on the first date means she's easy.
Sex on the first date can be a 1 night stand.
Sex on the first date can get you in trouble.
Sex on the first date means she needs someone desperately to be with. Which talks a lot about her.
Sex in the first date doesn't mean she likes you. But that she was desperately in need.
Sex on the first date means she doesn't have any morals.

I didn't know i was my girlfriends boyfriend right after. She told everyone. I was Tick Tock about it. So I just played with it like if i was. Good girl. But the way i got to know her made me belief she had no principles. So, that was obvious after our first date. It was really hard for me not to say no when she became completely naked in front of me. I did try to be a Christian at that time. But not many girls look like that girl.

[Rocco7070]

I just go with the flow, if she wants Ill work my ass off to make her get off several times always once before me, then another run, its important to work real good, rock her world, or his.

[BCA6010]

It should be as late as it takes for both parties to be in agreement.

Personally, I won't have sex anywhere near the first date. I don't go out with women just for sex, nor is it a big motivating factor; I want to get to know her and figure out if there's a good chance at a future together first.

[VanillaSalt]

It really depends on what you want from this date. If its a hookup then duh go for it... If your very a very sensual or have a high libido then sex and physical contacts probably gonna be important to your relationship. In both cases first is fine but some guys don’t want it to be super easy.


I think most important is not to go into a relationship thinking when to give sex... you’ll be all overly sexual the whole time and then at the end he’ll expect it... just feel the date out and if the man does a good job give him a lick. Could be fun to lead him on first date and show him what’s at stake. Dress showing neck, shoulders, skirt showing legs. Nice kiss at then end and remind him how much fun next time will be with a hint... you’ll drive him mad way more doing this than just giving it up...


The buildups everything. Yes all men want is sex... but any woman, or hole, can give this. What’s important is the buildup.

[slatyb]

Its fine. If a guy is going to judge women for having sex too early , he deserves to be trapped in a sexless marriage with children.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

If there's chemistry, then go for it.

[jkm1864]

I prefer to wait a few months until I know they will be a good fit for My personality.

[Reaperbot666]

I have some rules regarding sexual interactions.

• must be in a exclusive relationship
• must have dated for at least 90 days
• must both get tested for nasty things. to prove we're both clean.

if she can't follow those. she's not worth my time. not into hookup and one night stand cultures.

[Ripper_E]

Whenever you feel comfortable, but are actions have consequences.

[Makeushiver]

I think it depends on how the evening goes. If a degree intimacy seems to exist and the time and place are good, I've done it and it's never been any coerced thing. In other cases, I've waited. Probably not much longer than 3rd date as it's an important issue and I'd want to be as sure about sexual compatibility before investing too much time and energy. That's from the perspective of someone who doesn't need to worry about place

[Browneye57]

I'm buck enough if you're doe enough. ;)

[The_Sal]

Honestly I never had a 1st date where sex wasn't involved. I wouldn't even make the first move.
But I'd say 2nd or 3rd.

[_SOARER]

Sure fire way to have a failed relationship
Too soon is never good

[Sparda20xx]

If y'all both feeling each other, go for it.

[user45663789]

I don't have a set rule of when sex should happen. I don't try to initiate sex on a first date, but I wouldn't turn it down either. I want a meaningful relationship and I want a connection with whoever I am dating before we have sex.

[douride2]

Sex on the first date? will never happen.

[RHK36]

I don't think there's a set amount just enough that you trust each other I'd imagine.

[NYCQuestions1976]

It depends on chemistry.

[coolaboola]

I dont see what the problem is.

[AmeerX]

Personality and bonding before everything else

[jb12358]

Usually third

[RyanK9b]

If the chemistry is super why not.

[Tunasub]

It depends on the connection one has with the person.

[DiversityHire]

I'm of two very conflicting opinions on this.

[Wise4myage]

Its best to avoid such thoughts till you get to know the person better.

[Wise4myage]

But at the same time, If its what both people want, then its fine in my opinion.

[crmoore]

Mine would be way later

[dudeinohio]

No later than third date.

[AlwaysBelieving]

What @reaperbot666 said.

[COMMODOREII]

I think it depends on the person you are with. If you both want to wait or it's more about getting to know that person a little better than go for it. If you click right away and you don't want to wait for dessert then go for it. Human biology and human sociology is very fluid and not exact, it is not logical to try to implement unnatural conditions on yourself or on someone just to be approvable in society's eyes.

[jahaims]

Too soon for me

[Twalli]

I will do it no earlier than 3 months for a nonvirgin. No earlier than y months for a virgin

[GreenGold1992]

Very bad idea, I wouldn't do sex til after 4th or 5th.

[YHL6965]

Personally, I think it would be a bit too soon but it depends on the feeling I get for her. For example, if we had been talking for a while now, that we really get along well and that this date was an opportunity to meet in person, to make this relationship more real, I would not mind it, specially if we kind of "played around" the topic of sex.

If we don't know each other much though, I would honestly feel a bit meh or uncomfortable about it. If I accept, it would probably not feel as nice since there would not be all the feelings of love behind it and it would probably be mostly physical.

[bamesjond0069]

Wait for marriage. Only sluts do that.

[jmstarling]

Personally, I'd need to be close and comfortable with someone.

[Jerre]

1st date is good for me

[Paul09]

If you are looking for a fuck, then perfect. But if you are looking for a serious relationship, then most likely not a great idea.

[asshole_]

always 3rd

[venomhbk1313]

I've done that but it's always led to problems later on

[Torari]

Asap. Sex is what dating is all about. Why delay the inevitable? Feels good whether it's the 1st or 5th date.

[Sylvanas_Windrunner]

in my opinion, it makes no sense and I would never do it. But, people can do what they want.

[not329446]

Interesting comments.
Experience tells me that sex on a first date is better than sex on a last date.

[ttnnkkrr]

there really isn't right answer to this. I mean you could apply any arbitrary social or moral standard to this question. but at the end of the day expecting every relation to be a complete failure or permanent instead of the reality of we just never know? we dot know. so the only real right answer is as soon as the mood takes for both and then as often as it follows

[khaleen]

I don't see why not 😁

[In_Trance]

whatever works for ya

[888theGreat]

Nope, try like 6 months. People are married for years and realize they don't really know the other person. People can hide stuff for long periods of time. Maybe not from me, because I check people out.

[andy530]

When it’s right it’s right

[_DARKNESS_]

Yea, should be way further into the relationship. Definitely too sudden for first date

[Matt3]

it's like someone dates a bitch

[bananathunder]

do it whenever it feels right... i don't like to set rules like that personally

[Mehzmeh]

It all depends on how everything is going. If you feel that you have that connection and they are not going to think you are easy. Then go for it. Is what I say. Ot if you are just horny. And you don't think it will be a second date. And, you just want to give them a good bye present. Then do so. Lol

[prakhindev92]

You should wait , unless it is a one time