What do you think about virgins?

Question

I'm a 28 year old and I'm still virgin because it's a big deal for me to lose my virginity before marriage. So, is it weird for you that I'm only want to lose it on my wedding night?

WalterRadio · Accepted Answer

You are awfully old to have that attitude. If you wanted to save sex for your wedding night, you should have gotten married when you were 18 or 19. In the US, women who have not had sex by the time they are 26 are statistically indistinguishable from those who never will have sex. Only about 2.5% of marriages in the US are virgin (female) marriages, but the average age of a virgin at marriage is 19, whereas the average age for marriage overall is 27. Contrary to popular belief, virgins do not delay having sex by all that much; they merely get married much earlier (and have very high divorce rates).

"is it weird for you that I'm only want to lose it on my wedding night?"
I have heard that a couple of times and within two dates, the girls forgot about it and we were having sex.

It was really easy for them to keep that promise to themselves when they had never been aroused and alone with a guy. As soon as they were aroused and alone, their desire to have sex overcame their inhibition. With one of them, she was in woman on top and I asked her, "I thought you were saving yourself for your husband?" She answered, "Oh, forget it!"

The oldest virgin I was ever with was 27. She was not "saving herself", she just didn't know how to date, but wanted to have sex without regard to marriage.

Interestingly, every virgin I've ever gone out with (whether sex was involved or not) is Asian.

If you are in the Philippines, Singapore, Taiwan, China, or Japan, you might still have a chance. If you are most anywhere else in the world, you've probably wasted your opportunity for marriage.

EmbraceThePain · Accepted Answer

Look at my one and only MyTake on my page. I talk about the percentages of successful marriages and relationships being correlated to less sex partner count. In other words, a person, woman specifically to my knowledge, with a smaller sexual partner count, the more happy and successful marriage and relationships appear to be. I also believe the same applies for men, although the effect is disproportionately greater for women. Now, I may be getting some of this slightly wrong, so consult my page for the MyTake to see the facts there

erandal · Accepted Answer

They are ideal candidates for ritual sacrifice?

In all seriousness, good for you. It is worthwhile to have morals such as saving your virginity for marriage. However, I would probably recommend you do masturbate if you don't already to help you understand how your body responds to stimulation and find out what you do and don't like. I consider virginity as not having sex with another person and personal discovery doesn't count.

Cactusqueen · Accepted Answer

Personally I enjoy an active and exciting sex life. It’s a part of my life I fully enjoy and explore. I don’t see it as a bad thing. For those like you who keep your body locked away for one special person... I truly hope it turns out to be everything you’ve dreamed it up to be.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I find the ones waiting for the right person attractive. The desperate ones begging someone to take their virginity are annoying. I’d take a virgin over a hoe anyday

bixystars · Answer

This does not seem weird at all. You have respect for your body and stick to your values. Not many people care about this anymore. I would consider this attractive.

purplepoppy · Answer

He's not going to believe you anyway.

Psychoanalytical · Answer

I'm a virgin and if I ever have intimacy then it will be with the woman I will consecrate my heart, body and mind for.

If I get married, it would be optimal if my wife never had sex before me as well. If she did and she genuinely regrets it, I would give up that condition.

I'm a man and I don't think you are WEIRD!

Enpassant · Answer

I think that is awesome! Your future husband will be a very lucky man.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

you are so right ! it is a big deal to be a virgin until you are on your honeymoon with your opposite sex spouse

ushagomez · Answer

Unusual, but not weird. It is your personal choice snd I respect your decision, despite thinking it rather strange.

Liz_thorne · Answer

You do you boo

SarahsSummer · Answer

If it’s a big deal to save your virginity for marriage, don’t ask randoms their opinion of such.  Stand for something or fall for anything.

godfatherfan · Answer

Why would you want to ruin your wedding night? one of the worst possbile things you can wait to do. And at 28, I would really be worried if I found out my partner was a virgin. Unfortunately, women have really screwy views on sex. I get it if you want to wait until late teens, or 20/21. But honestly, after that, it just makes you seem way too high maintenance. in my opinion, it is a huge huge mistake to wait until marriage. You can't "learn" sexual compatibility. You are or your not.

spartan55 · Answer

Honestly, yes, it's very weird.

ZackBan · Answer

Virginity is overrated these days.  I mean after you marry someone what does it matter if you had sex befor or not.  The point is not to have sex with another man after the fact

Berethor · Answer

It's rare nowadays, there is a lot of sluts nowadays, and you got my respect. :)

markscott · Answer

There is nothing weird about you being a virgin. We both lost our virginity on our honeymoon. It was well worth the wait.

Aethereal · Answer

The fact that a girl is a virgin suggests to me that she is a quality woman with good self-control and commendable values who sees sex more as an act of intimacy than a fun activity. These are very attractive qualities to me.

LogicIsKey · Answer

It's not weird. But you might find that some men just might not be willing to wait that long to be intimate with you. So you just lower the pool of people that you can find is all.

Elliegirl · Answer

Good for you girl! I don’t think that’s weird at all. I had sex before I was married, and I don’t regret it, but I think it’s honorable that you’re making that choice for yourself and sticking to what you believe is right for you!