Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health What is wrong with hooking up?
Anonymous
If two single people are open minded and using and end uo in bed through an app like tinder, at least one of them will feel less of a person and ashamed and guilt because of the society around them. a lot of people look down for some reason at the "hook up culture". Why call people things like "slut", "whore" or "fuckboy" when they are enjoying their lives?
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What Girls & Guys Said
71 114And they might as well keep it to themselves. If you hook up with somebody keep it to yourself you don't have to tell everybody in the world that you've looked up. And if you feel bad about what you did then you really probably shouldn't have done it. Everyone has their own life to live it has to live with the choices they make. You want to go out and just have sex and have sex to have sex go ahead. Those definitions you're talking about or for people who sleep around a lot. And if you decide to change that then I would not tell my partner about how many people you had actually slept with because it shows the kind of person you actually are. I'm sorry if it comes out a little harsh but that is the reality of it.
It's disgusting, going from person to person
That’s what condoms are for.
@Meninist it's still disgusting
Think what you think, but the majority of us don't seem to have a problem with it.
@ExtraSpicyMemes that's completely fine. It's your body. Other people's lifestyle choices are not my problem. This is just my opinion.
The problem is not directly hooking up but how hooking up can and will affect your future relationships. For example if a girl has a one night stand with a guy and he doesn’t call her back or want a relationship, she should not be surprised or upset about it because thats how it works.
Who wants to buy the cow when your giving away the milk for free?
But if a one night stand is what she is looking for, then she does not want a relationship. So she actually gets what she is wanting.
Good point
Ok good point. But what if she has say 30 one night stands. The next guy that comes along is gonna get the impression that she's just gonna put out and not want a relationship (even if she does)
The hook up culture is okay. Enjoy sex as much as you like. BUT.. Don't start a relationship knowing you just want to tap that ass frequently but can't stay committed.. That's when you hear these terms thrown around.
Because it's irresponsible and makes you look like your desires have control over you.
It's another form of gluttony or overindulgence.
the thing is... people are free to do whatever they want of their lives... as long as its not harming anyone
To each their own. Hookup culture isn't for me. I prefer emotional connection. I do feel like it fits this generation tho. They want everything quick. No one wants to take the time to build anything real anymore. Nothing is private anymore either. Hookup culture wouldn't be as big of a thing if people would keep their sex lives to themselves. Slut shaming and all of that wouldn't be an issue if you didn't have guys that bragged about the girls they bagged.
Should be for emotionally detached people only. If not, just get a fleslight or vibrator.
Just because someone wants something different to you doesn’t make them emotionally detached. Seems a big ignorant to me.
@Meninist Just because someone thinks something different to you doesn't make them any wrong than your own opinion. You're too ignorant.
Both yah are cause your both saying that because you don't agree with you 🎭 then its not right, when in fact as long as the people involved are happy with it then what's wrong with it, if you never tried it don't Knock it, if you have and didn't like it then you can say nope no thanks not for me been there done that and this is why I didn't like it, If you have done it and enjoyed it do it again.
@i_am_me_you_see good luck living with herpes
If both parts wants and take the responsibility of their actions why not. It is not my concern.
Nothing wrong with it
In my opinion, everything. What's right with it?
That doesn't make any sense. Killing someone else is bad because that person doesn't want to die nor feel pain. Having sex with someone who also wants to have sex doesn't hurt anyone. At all.
@Agent Tell your daughter that when she's 14.
That didn't even mean anything. Matter of fact, lemme pull this up: "Appeal to emotion or 'argumentum ad passiones' is a logical fallacy characterized by the manipulation of the recipient's emotions in order to win an argument, especially in the absence of factual evidence".
@Agent **yawn**
Tell you what, just explicitly state that you're aware your opinion is predominantly emotional but you won't renounce it, and we're good. Then we won't have to 1v1 irl.
@Agent. Since you are convinced you are right, why would you care about an opposing view point. I don't. You know mine.
Nothing, people just don't want to get tricked into hooking up.
To be honest this also upsets me
Nobody should give a fuck about others businesses
You can do what you want and they can think what they want of it. Most people think "whore" and "fuckboys" and much more likely to be unfaithful so it aren't surprising most people don't like this kind of behavior.
Also this kind of sex create a lot of IST and unwanted pregnancy since some people doesn't use condom.
And if they use a condom? They are called differently?
@kitty71 I think people would respect them more because they're being more responsible but majority of people wouldn't date someone who do that because they're afraid people who do one night stand are more likely to be unfaithful. They're not called differently though.
I think the people that have a problem with it are those that are more conservative and traditional. Hooking up with randoms may have some kind of connotation that you don't have morals.
I don't think that, though. Do what you want to do just use protection!
Hooking up isn't wrong. It's doing it irresponsibly that is wrong
There's nothing interesting wrong with a hookup. The problem with hookup culture is that it makes it so that hookups are the goal. And if all you're looking for is a hookup, the odds that you're actually going to respect the person you're hooking up with go way down. It creates a huge divide between the sexes where men are seen as predators and women as prey. They no longer see each other as people but as sex objects. That mentality seeps into many more aspects of society than just people's sex lives.
That's the popular opinion, now let me give you my opinion. I personally believe that hookup culture isn't really any worse than "marriage culture". At least in hookup culture, there's a certain sense of freedom when the opposite sex thinks of you as a sex object. I think that in marriage culture, there's still the same dynamic with men as predators and women as prey, except instead of thinking of women as sex objects, men would think of women as baby makers. Still not individuals. A whole new culture needs to be developed where we can see each other as friends and individuals.
As long as both of them aren't in a serious relationship and feeling the urge it's ok
I don't look down on hookup culture. I just don't want to hear bitching and complaining about the repercussions of doing so.
For example,
if a woman is agonizing about who the father is to her unborn baby,
or
if a man gets turned down by a woman he really digs because she finds out about his player reputation...
... my ears are deaf to all of that.
If two people consent to do something, they should be able to do it. Two guys wanna fuck, let them fuck. Two random people want to fuck, let the two people fuck. As long as it's voluntary and no one is coerced then it should be allowed to occur.
However, that does not mean others have to agree with your decision. We are allowed to criticize and believe your choices are flawed and unintelligent.