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What would you think of a guy who’s 25 years old and has only been sexually active with 4 girls including girlfriends?

Is that a lot? Or would you think that’s being selective?
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  • The question is what is your sexual morals. Do you think it's okay to have premarital sex outside of marriage? If so? Do you have the right to judge? I know for myself I'm a virgin for a reason and I believe that saving yourself for marriage is exactly what God commands us to do. The moment you have sex, especially with somebody who had more than one partner, you're not just having sex with that person, you having sex with every person they slept with, and every person the other person that they slept with stuff with. So think about it. You're not just having sex with him which is one person already. We having sex with four more which is the women he slept with. That's five people you're sleeping with all in one body that you'll become a woman with. Are you comfortable with seeing things like that spiritually and visions of what he's done in the things they you may have done he has to live with and see? It's a serious matter? And it's a serious thing. You may say you not religious and you don't believe in that. But remember it has nothing to do with religion or not. We are talking about the matters That is very serious. The thing is, they are the ones that made their choices. They don't want to have to live with it. They cannot force you to live with their decisions. But it's up to you to either allow it or not. Seriously think about this. It's not about what I think. It's about what I know. I know for a fact somebody who have premarital sex not somebody I would look for. I'm pretty sure like everybody else had an opportunity to wait. He made his decision, you made your decision. Especially if you yourself as a virgin like me. You need to really ask yourself is this something you want to do? Because the moment you'd make that decision, you can't turn back. And you can't blame him for the things that you already know. Really ask yourself why you interested in this individual? Get deep with this, because again, you don't want to have sex with a person who has this, and refuses to change and it's bad enough this is something that's still been recent.

    at this point I don't care how attractive, how amazing a person makes me feel, I care about morals. I will politely decline the person and they are free to make their own decisions with whomever is willing to have sex with them. I know for myself that's not something I'm going to do. Again everybody have choices. he was a teenager, but at the end of the day you need to know where his mindset isn't who he truly is as a person. Because the past does matter. If it bever mattered then why people have geberational curses, experiencing hardships that is forced on them becaise what somebody else did.

    If criminal history matters, everything matters.

    • Is less to do About what it's just normal. It's about sexual morals, because what the person do, is who they become as a person. If they don't want to be that kind of person, they got to make a decision to change. And it's about the intent. Because how he handles his sexual history and how he handles himself, it's how he's going to handle you. The same applies for you as well. What you do is what's going to affect you and others around not just him. That's why you need to question yourself, and your motives, and you need to question the person and their Motors. Because if you say you don't care then don't expect the other person to care. If you think this is okay, then don't be shocked at the person thinks other things you think that isn't okay it's okay. Find out what's within yourself. Because as much as I can love a person that doesn't mean I have to date them. At the end of the day I got to look out for myself, if the person is going to look out for themselves and care about me the same way I would care about them. It is better to do what is right than compromise your morals. Again people have choices. That's what life is about. Choices.

Most Helpful Girl

  • I think you’re over thinking things. The number of sexual partners should be important. What should be important is the skill and amount of pleasure one can give to their partner. If you have 4 lovers but each one he only lasts 5 mins, I’d say he’s really awful at sex and probably selfish. If you have four lovers but each one was sexually satisfied because he knew how to really please his partner then your in for a treat.
    I’d rather have sex with someone who had multiple partners and learned the tricks of the trade to satisfy me than a virgin guy who knew nothing and wanted only to cum.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Tell me maybe I'm missing something out didn't get the memo, but who said that by 25 you must i repeat must have slept with X amount of girls or young ladies, i call a guy like that responsible, with std, s on the rise sand I'm not talking about Maybe just going blind these are life takers, here no cure, why would anyone who is in their right mind roll the dice and hope they don't crap out, it's not worth it And b neither is condoms i mean these std, s just burn right through it, so it's nothing wrong with dude only experiencing 4 little ladies and live to tell about it that's being careful you should too

    • Oh no I know that! I am too, never slept with anyone actually and I’m 22 only made out with a few guys nothing deep. I’m just asking to understand what that says about someone. I know people who already slept with 12 guys so there you go... I think people should definitely be selective but it’s rare. But I don't know some people could consider 4 a lot (a fuckboy type) or not

    • WTF? STDs on the rise? I agree that people need to be more responsible. But there are treatments and cures for many STDs.

    • Your right a cure for some STD, S you really want to be taking that chance that you won't get one of the incurable ones, now i was not saying anything negative, just pointing out what can happen by being so carefree about who you have sex with is all and i admire the fact that you want to wait till your married , your one in a gazillion that still has those morals i can only admire you for that And hope you never do compromise your morals ethics or integrity for no one or anything

  • For some guys he's doing well! lol. Women don't seem to get that it's not easy "getting" a woman, and definitely not as "easy" as it is for you to get a guy. A lot of you don't even have to "work" or do anything for them either, not like we do.

    But to answer, I wouldn't care, it's not my business lol. But could be any number of reasons why. Maybe "availability" (ie only 4 women have wanted to sleep with him, and most likely this is the case), could be he's "selective", could be other personal reasons like his views on sex in general.

    • Why do some boys make out like it is easy as hell to change women? I have even seen boys go from one to another. Bu the time I was 16 boys my age had slept with at least five girls. I am a virgin at 23 by choice. I don’t want to lose something so special to people who are so frivolous.

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  • Isn't the supposed average over a lifetime something like 7? Now obviously there are extreme values in both directions, but it stands to reason that to make up for the people above 7 many would be below. He is technically ahead.

    • What are you trying to say then?

    • That it is very well within the norms you would expect. In fact if you were to map it all out this guy would probably land right in a respectable middle.

  • It's really none of your business. Just make a decision based on your mutual chemistry.

  • Who cares? Do you like him? Do you feel chemistry with him? That’s all that matters.

  • Not a problem, he may have had a single long term girlfriend from 12 to 18 and then couple between then and 25.

    • I know he had at least 2 girlfriends. One when he was 16/17 and the last one who lasted for 2 years (they started dating when he was 22)

    • It’s really just normal if there is actually a normal. It’s history, it’s the person that counts and is the most Important

  • 4 girls are only a number. It is the guy and his values that are important. 4 is definitely not a lot

  • I am a virgin at 23 by choice. Didn’t want to give up something so precious to frivolous people. Most boys I knew of had slept with multiple girls by age 16. Four is not exactly a lot at 25 but it isn’t very little either. I mean if he started having relationships from 16 then that is on average two years per relationship. If he had sex only with girlfriends then it is OK but if he had one night stands or flings it is a red flag which shows loose character.

  • Compare his four, with whatever your number is. It's the differential that matters, more than the number.

  • What are u asking?

    • Whether this shows if he’s selective or a fuckboy? Is a guy who got with 4 girls selective or a fuckboy?

    • Um no to be a fuckboy you need more then four? But thats not what your asking at all? I think you trying to justify somthing to yourself? A decision you made most likely... humm?

  • Normal amount

  • That sounds like me the day I got married.

  • Sounds really common, but virgins come with a lot less baggage. I’ve personally slept with a lot more than that and have had no issues in regards to loyalty. Given my history, it’s a normal. Having said that, I’ve brought some baggage into the table and just realize you are increasing your odds of divorce and being cheated on later on down the road.

  • Seems about normal to me

  • I would say that's being selective

  • He’s selective

  • Not much. I was probably about that at that age but I always had gfs. So I didn’t sleep around through college like most. Certainly way higher now but still I’m probably low for a social fairly good looking guy. But again, always have gfs.

  • What age did he lose his virginity?

  • Being selective

  • He admitted to 4 girls so it’s probably closer to 15.

  • Depends on when he started having sex

  • I am 53 and I have only been with 7 women my entire life.

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