When you have BDSM fantasies, are you usually a sub or dom?

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Jaximus-Lion · Accepted Answer

D, 50/50 we like to switch things up. We try things after we watch some videos on pornhub, some things are nice so we keep it, somethings are a NO NO and we move on with other new things. So far few things are favorite for both are penis rings (i like some pain) dropping some hot wax on me, bondage (on both, we switch) no gagging, but all bondage and cuffs (no movement) blindfolded and some nice soft whip, ruined orgasms, pillow sex (the one that helps us to have new positions) and prostate vibrator. We both switch roles and it's fun.

Account2 · Accepted Answer

This is probably a stupid question but, by "fantasy" do you just mean like a dream/ image in your head? Or something more specific like a good dream or a nightmare? Or am I going in the wrong direction here? I've just heard that word used in a lot of different ways recently..

stardust101 · Accepted Answer

80% sub and 20% dom. For once I would like to be dominated without him practically killing me. Is that so hard to ask? I still have yet to experience this.

MissKittyz · Accepted Answer

I am always a sub. In my fantasies and with my partner :) that's just what I prefer. I'm not the dominant type at all and it doesn't turn me on either.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Always a Dom, never a Sub. it is what it is

Katie1964 · Answer

Hubby is always the dominate one and I am sub. That's just our preference, others may differ.

NightFlirt · Answer

I am a switch, so it really depends on my partner. I would gladly submit to You @mistix if You would have me (Curtsies, with head bowed)

vedu18 · Answer

I see guys voting for dominant and girls for submissive. I believe porn is the reason where often girls are portrayed to be submissive and guys to be dominant. Please think before you vote

ksmiller · Answer

I am 100% sub

mat_username · Answer

In most of my fantasies I am a sub. Totally submissive, with no control

Hamsteroids · Answer

Sub of course

WhatTheHellAmy2 · Answer

I used to like all of that.  I prefer to be a sub.

DevikaButts95 · Answer

Almost always domme.

hotfirework · Answer

Dom usually but sub often aswell

sawno · Answer

Its quite complicated, i am a switch so i love both. When masturbating the fantasies are always me being a sub since that translates well to the kind of play i am doing (Imagining someone teasing the way i tease myself). But when it comes to just fantasies outside of that i am typically the dom, and if i search for porn i search for porn where guy is the dom most often.

CubsterShura · Answer

Usually a dom. Sometimes a sub.

Lynx122 · Answer

I'm dominant. But wow I'm surprised at how much variety there is. I thought submissive men and dominant women were more of a minority than in this poll.

notthatgoodgrl · Answer

Most of mine play out as Domme. I’m Domme to my sub boyfriend.

Agape93 · Answer

50/50. I’m a switch

JacobRoto · Answer

I'm a switch, but I usually fantasize about being a sub because I never get to let that side out. Girls always want strong, dominant men and I don't always want to be that guy.

Ronald_25 · Answer

I like BDSM, no humiliation or pain. I like to be the Dominator and her the Dominatrix 😉 depending on how we're feeling 🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏻‍♀️

Bethr · Answer

Im a complete sub. I love having someone control me

humanearth · Answer

I have been having a lot of sub fantasies largely because of a lot of Dom leads in my marriage lately

Luna1998 · Answer

Probably a sub, but I dont know, might need to try

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