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Why are guys afraid of MMF?

I get why guys would love the idea of a FFM 3 way, but why are so many guys scared to reciprocate and give their woman a MMF?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • That is a bit sweeping. Not all guys are.

    Back in the day, my girlfriend and I had a fairly wild sex life. In that context, when I we did a MMF, it was an incredible turn on to see how aroused my girlfriend got watching me have sex with a guy. It was incredibly arousing to her and that would make me more horny.

    For me, it took a while to get used to it, but it was different and I won't lie, there were times when I enjoyed it. It was different and that made is very arousing.

    We realized that the sex we enjoyed was the sex we shared just the two of us, and I don't necessarily want to go back to "the good old days." However, on balance, I don't regret it and I certainly don't believe that EVERY guy is afraid of it.

  • I have never had a threesome and I doubt that I ever will. However, I can tell you that the idea of being in bed with another naked guy is repulsive. It is not scary; it is just disgusting.

    • But would you ask your woman to have a 3some with another woman?

    • No, I do not want to share my woman with another man and I do not want to share my woman with another woman. I want to honor my pledge of fidelity to my woman and I practice the Golden Rule. I have never had a threesome and I never will.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Cause they're afraid of being thought of as gay for having another dude present.

    I know, there's a girl there, but a lot of guys have a more black-and-white view on sexuality. Girls are "allowed" to be bisexual or experiment, but guys? No matter how many girls the guy has been with, if he so much as was in a MMF threesome, that meant he had sex with a guy and that means he's GAYYYYY!

    Add to it that "gay" is still used as a way to mock guys... yeah. It's kind of depressing, really.

  • I got a great group of guys inc hubby that enjoy mfm and gang bangs and sharing my pussy togther at the sametime..
    It took a while to build my group they are like gold to me. .. might sound selfish i dont want any of my guy friends in the group to get into a relationship so i can have their cocks without fear of jelous gfs or ruining a relationship

    • It's definitely selfish but also really sweet. Sounds like the happiest of times.

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  • Good luck with this here on GaG.

    I'll grab some popcorn.

  • Because their dicks might touch and they don't get more pussy.

  • Men tend to be more territorial, and bisexuality is quite common among women.

  • I have had 3 mmf and 1 ffm in my time. I really enjoyed it and the memories for the spank bank are awesome.

  • Its not fear related. Many, if not most guys just aren't turned on by the thought of another man fucking their partner.

  • Maybe you mean an MFM? And MMF implies a “man in the middle” meaning he’s fucking the woman and he’s receiving anal. MFM means the woman is in the middle and that is either double penetration (dp) one vaginal, one anal, or she sucks a dick while getting fucked. Most guy associate receiving anal with being gay. He’ll most guys are freaked out when their dicks are so close/touch with a dp.

  • It's kind of a hassle for a 100% truly straight guy to have to share and look at another naked dude. It's important to be a good boyfriend and spoil our girlfriends, of course, and I suppose it's a good way to establish trust between dudes--even a fun hangout if my best friends were involved--but all my fantasies are about women. They'll never involve another guy. So the only part I look forward to is my woman's glee (and the FFM I'll probably get as a thank you).

    That said, 100% straight dudes are rarer than guys who make the claim, so if you're good at navigating partners' fears and insecurities, you ladies face good odds at making MFMs happen, I'd say.

    Oh, and a friend couple has taught me a little scene nomenclature. MFM means the guys don't get involved--the [F]emale is between them. Eiffel tower high fives.
    MMF means the guys do get involved and put on a show. So lotsa luck.

  • Me n my ex did both MFM and FMF and loved them both. I do not see a prob with any threesome as long as everyone is happy

  • I tell you, seeing another dick would turn them off most probably, I don't know, maybe its just the idea of penetrating right after u watched someone else penetrate that I don't know I personally wouldn't do it

  • A guys life is based around him being A MAN!!! A MANLY man!!! Anything that could POSSIBLY suggest he even MIGHT be even the SLIGHTEST bit gay, like, accidentally looking at another guy's dick for more than half a nano-second is a HUGE tabu in guy-world so, he want's NO sexual contact of ANY kind with another guy!!

  • These never turn out like you would like or hope they would. And consider you'll likely implode your primary relationship as well.
    Unless a guy is gay, he's not going to be into another naked guy. Period.

    It really sounds like you've been watching a little too much porn. Which is a giant fail for a lot of reasons. Gives you stupid ideas like this.

    • you'll likely implode your primary relationship as well <this right here is why i would never have someone added to the bedroom, personally

    • @LegateLanius - Yes, it's a cardinal rule for a successful marriage - "NEVER bring a third party into the marital bed! EVER!!" This is not to say that people don't wonder, and think about it. Out of all the women I've been with over all the years, I've always wanted to bed a gorgeous black woman. Wife of 25 years (the second one) have discussed a MFF with a young woman - she likes to look at girls, but is not at all lesbian. We just never really put effort into making it happen. And that's probably a really good thing, as we've been together for almost thirty years, and still very much in love. We feel fortunate to have kept it together for this long. If you bring a third party into your bed you risk irreparable damage to the primary relationship. Someone is ALWAYS going to get some feelings hurt. It's impossible not to.

  • Most dudes are absolutely horrified by the thought of their dick touching another dude's dick. Also there's jealousy and a bit of territorialness over the thought of your woman getting railed by another dude while she's also getting railed by you.

  • I’ve participated in a few FFM and MMF, I’ve even done a few gang bangs. In my experience it comes down to insecurity, selfishness, and homophobia. Are you interesting in a three way?

    • I have some experience I was just pointing out how hypocritical guys can be sometimes.

    • Some say I’m pretty open as a straight male. I just enjoy sex lol. I know a lot of guys have the same issues as girls, their afraid the other partner will be better than them

  • May be guys dont like sharing his girl.
    I dont like 3's.

  • For male to male sex but I think it's sexy

  • Not all guys are

  • I would do the mmf if my girlfriend wanted it but i dont want to see his dick i dont want our dicks touching and tbh i dont want his in her at all. But i would if she gave me the ffm

  • I don’t know why.. I love it when I’ve done this with my girlfriends it’s more pleasure for her

  • we aren't?

  • Personally I would love mmf, but where I'm just watching my girlfriend with the other guy

    • So you're a cuck

    • Yup haha

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