Why are guys so selfish during sex?

Question

It seems to me that most guys are very selfish and are only trying to get themselves off

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Some guys are - but it's usually the guys that you pick.

Often, the more attractive/popular a guy is, the more he feels entitled to be selfish and self-centered. In his mind, he can replace you easily, so why should he care what you think?

Anyway, a selfish guy is rarely going to be selfish JUST in the bedroom - usually their selfish and self-centered about everything, and that makes such men easy to avoid. But, again, those men are often good-looking and popular, so women tend to put up with their selfishness - which only reinforces their point that they are attractive enough to get away with it.

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

I can't speak for most guys but those guys who focus on themselves first are missing a critical piece of the puzzle. I'm a Dom with a little sadist thrown in. I ask a lot from a woman. I reciprocate by putting her sexual needs first. My target is for her to have 10 or so orgasms as multiples and squirt at least once. Once she' good, then she will do almost ANYTHING I want or need her to do, even the nasty things. Are you like that or would you be if he put you first?

Breanna_nonbinary · Accepted Answer

It’s an age thing. Younger guys are fairly selfish with sex. Hopefully they grow out of that but sometimes they don’t. It’s one of the reasons I feel bad for girls your age. Sex with younger guys can be awful and generally turns girls off. I love teaching girls how wonderful it can be and making sure their experience doesn’t taint them. If you ask older women if they could go back in time and learn from an older guy that’s experienced or a younger guy with no experience they usually will answer the older guy because it was so bad with the younger guy.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Really? I’ve never had sex before but some guys I have spoken to always say they cared more about the woman’s pleasure. They said it turned them on more to know that she’s enjoying it and they were very giving people.

anupamagrawal · Answer

Yes, Most of the guys but not all.
Actually some have brains and some have dicks. Its a matter of which part controls them. If they have sense they would care for the girls' pleasure too, but when the blood stops rushing to the brain and target just the dick - the dick replaces his head and he just bang the girl to get off.

Thankfully I care to make her reach her orgasm or the highest level of pleasure that she can achieve. How much I succeed is other question.

skinnybilly · Answer

Cause like most guys they are dumb. They don't get that you need to please the girl or how to be intimate.

hsshannah96 · Answer

my second ex did try getting me off and he did DAMN GOOD  so that’s not true

manicmage42 · Answer

Seems preferable personally

Emily-Bunny · Answer

you need to take control girl you need to let them know that you won't let them cum until you are satisfied so make them go down on you make them finger you make them play with you until you feel you have had enough then let them go ham

Reaperbot666 · Answer

sounds like your hooking up with immature boys rather then mature men. who do what they can to insure both of you finish. could also be a lack of foreplay skill.

Dargil · Answer

More impatient than selfish.

0112358 · Answer

From your comments it sounds like you have a low drive partner which means you’re trying to impress them and they don’t care.  replace them with someone more enthusiastic.

minititan · Answer

a lot of the time its cause women won't voice what they want. Like if you like a position or spot then just saysomething. That's honestly why I got great at giving oral to women. So they could get theirs first before worrying about me.

JosyJosy · Answer

Because you sleep with the wrong guys

broken_heart_at_48 · Answer

Cause you're messing with the wrong guys your picker is broken

Browneye57 · Answer

Cuz you're dealing with BOYZ.

winterfox10 · Answer

Part of the issue is that most girls simply don't communicate what feels good for them. Another important thing is circumcision. Cut men require more aggressive sex to get stimulation; we just do.

KatherineJ · Answer

Because biologically they only have to “plant the seed”?

pleasestopthis · Answer

You haven't been with the right kind of guy.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Do you think that girls has sex for anybody else's pleasure? Everybody is selfish but also they do care for your orgasm but every women's body is so different it takes some people time to get the spot perhaps maybe

Pejtu · Answer

Thats called "he is not very experienced"  I always make my girlfriend orgasm once twice or sometimes three times before I cum

stickytoes · Answer

It’s not only the guys fault. Many women claim they don’t need to orgasm in order to be satisfied which leads them think all girls are like this.

TheFlak38 · Answer

sex is YOUR obligation as a woman. Literally every day all day we put up with your bullshit, nagging and irrational demands. Sex is the only thing you can give in return.