Why are men so crazy about FMF threesomes and so against MFM?

[LeleBR]

I don't get it. Men say that they don't want MFM threesomes because they don't want to share their girlfriends with another guy, because they're not gay to have another men in bed and many other things. But when we are talking about an FMF, almost every guy wants it, like, they don't even seem to care that their girlfriends might also not want to share them with another girl or that they don't want another girl involved because they are not lesbians.

[Herbert_Hoover]

Some guys are open to MFM three ways. I am not one of them and for the reason you mentioned.

The reason I say some men are open to them is I used to bartend a few nights each week. I'd say on average, 2x a week, a Man would approach me and tell me his girlfriend/date/wife likes me and would ask if I would be open to having a three way with them or fucking the girl while they watched. I never did it, but another guy I worked with got similar offers probably more often than I did and acted on them. We'd sometimes have girls ask us both to fuck them as well.

[Anonymous]

I don't see it as a double standard, it's a personal preference. Your complaint certainly applies to me. (It's fantasy only; I definitely do not want a 3some in real life).

That said, a guy shouldn't be the least bit surprised if his girlfriend insists on an MFM if she agrees to his FMF. Any guy who would be upset at such a counteroffer has zero ability to empathize with her and has no conception of what he's asking.

[LeleBR]

I like the way you think. It's ok to have a personal preference, but my problem is that they are against MFM because it would be gay but the girls have to be ok with FMF? Doesn't make sense.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you We are in agreement, but it does make sense in the minds of guys who think like that. There are a lot of reasons. A lot of guys (here at GAG especially) assert that all women are at least a little bisexual. I think that's bullshit. Bisexuality *might* be more common in women. It's also more accepted and less stigmatized and perhaps that's part of the perception. Most women I know get the willies thinking about being with another woman. But the guys who hold the all-women-are-bi belief just don't take their word for it. Guys are afraid of being judged by other guys. If guys didn't secretly think a woman being fucked airtight was totally hot, there would be a lot less of that in porn. If a guy even says he likes to watch porn of it, his friends might say he's gay. And, of course, that's the worst thing ever. So they don't even allow themselves to say (or think) it's hot.

[Opinion Owner]

Guys don't think about what an FMF would really be like. They don't consider that their girlfriends might be faking their orgasms half the time or more. If the two women aren't into each other, he's got his work cut out. The women aren't going to be like in FMF porn where he fucks one while the other shakes her ass for the camera and waits patiently for a turn to lick him clean. They'll want to be as separate as possible and it'll be just as awkward as if he was with another guy. If he's going to please two women at once, that means one rides his cock and the other rides his face.

[Opinion Owner]

That's fun to think about, but distracting in practice. The closest you'll ever get to that with only one partner is a 69. With that, you have to split your attention between enjoying your pleasure and giving your partner pleasure. One of two things tend to happen. You're overwhelmed by the experience and it's over quickly and/or you're not getting her off properly OR you're concentrating on her and not enjoying yourself as much as you ordinarily would. Neither option is ideal sex for me. If the women are into each other, the couple that went into the FMF isn't necessarily the couple that's coming out. Also, he might suddenly realize he's doing less than 1/3 of the work if they please each other. Being the third wheel instead of the center of attention might be unexpectedly emasculating to a lot of guys.

[Opinion Owner]

Guys do, however, spend plenty of time imagining how gross an MFM would be. Another guy's scrotum smacking on him. Possibly getting the other guy's cum on him. Feeling the other guy thrusting through the thin tissue separating the rectum and vagina. Comparing himself and his performance to the other guy, or worse, *being* compared. Even being naked with another dude. That's a lot to get over. And the guys aren't putting themselves in their girlfriend's place with an FMF, because that, too, would be gay. All of this is speaking in generalities, of course. We're not all that unthinking.

[strangytie]

Straight guys who are into threesomes are more likely to want to see two girls because they are strictly attracted to women and another guy would make it "gay". I don't get it either, and for many girls interested in group sex who aren't into women, it puts them in a difficult position.

[modeve]

While agreeing to your view point, it is also true that most of the guys fantasize FMF seldom wish for MFM. Also keep in mind that some partners willing agree to either of the two arrangements to add variety in their sex life.

[LeleBR]

Totally agree with you. I'm very lucky that my boyfriend likes both types =)

[modeve]

And what about you? Do you also like both?

[LeleBR]

I'm bi so I like both =)

[modeve]

Very nice. Enjoy dear.

[enjoyturk]

To me a FMF is ok but I only think about sharing her with another guy. If she was interested in exploring this I would enjoy experiencing that "with her". If not that is ok with me. It all depends on her only, if she wants to try it very cool and if she does I would be very excited to watch her have fun. I think talking to her after and hearing she says and what she liked would be very cool. A great experience for us both together.

[Anonymous]

Because someone might think they are gay. And being called gay is almost as bad as being called a girl.

[This_is_my_username]

Its a fantasy. But if my man wants a FMF he can gtFO

[MrMysteryMan]

More pussy, less dick. Plain and simple.

[advaj98]

Well I'd be up for anything tbh because spicing it up in the bedroom is good but us guys are doomed if you feel another guys dick and it happens to be bigger than the guy you're originally with

[wicket]

lol that would be horrible for real

[advaj98]

Yea and since I'm Asian and we typically have the smallest of the small I'm not to hyphy about an mfm 3 some unless I'm the extra guy

[SOUTHofZERO]

@advaj98 good answer bro. But there's no reason to feel bad if the other dude is bigger n you. I'm bi n I did mmf 3ways with my girlfriend with 3 different dude ( all 3 are my friends that I've known for years. Anyway so me n my girl are in 3ways with anotber dude. I'm an American living in Ecuador... land of the second largest dicks in the world n I'm above average for an American n just one fourth of an inch of the average Ecuadorian dude. In 2 of the 3ways I was bigger than the Ecuadorian dudes. One was about an inch n 1/2 smaller than mine n the other was just a bit shorter. But my other friend is about an inch bigger than me. But none of the dudes stressed about anything we all just had a good time. Only thi g my girlfriend didn't do much with thother dudes... they didn't fuck... just a lotta kissin n licking grinding touchin... n me n her fucked... n i kissed did oral mutual j/o grindin with the dudes... sorry i dont do anal... none of the dudes i know do cept a few gay friends. Y not try it bro?

[Dinotracks]

We want FMF first, but we're also turned on by MFM. MFM is almost more arousing especially if the girl is young because it is the destruction of the girl's frailty in a gangbang. Gangbangs are also more primal, as they revert the woman into her natural helpless state. Some girls get overwhelmed by the orgasms MFM causes particularly if the men share without shame.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

MMF is not a threesome, it's a gangbang.

[Andy872]

Why?
Sexism

[AleDeEurope]

Simple common sense. If a guy is attracted to women, he's gonna like seeing two women naked and playing with him. Straight men get nothing out of a naked man.
Common sense.

[LeleBR]

If a girl is attracted to men, she's gonna like seeing two men naked playing with her. Straight women get nothing out of a naked woman. Common sense.

[AleDeEurope]

So you get the point. Don't ask pointless questions.

[LeleBR]

But that's exactly my point! Guys use this common sense when talking about a MFM threesome, but when we are talking about a FMF threesome the same common sense doesn't apply, they always think that the girls should be ok with interacting with other girls.

[AleDeEurope]

Yeah, that's not true.

[LeleBR]

Just read a couple of answers in this question, you'll see that it is.

[AleDeEurope]

Oh yeah, cause there's nothing better than listen to virgins and trolls talk about sex.

[akadatank44]

Oh Ale😂😂😂 I can just see your eyes roll with that last comment

[AleDeEurope]

@akadatank44 I saw the back of my head lmao

[BertMacklinFBI]

because most guys wouldn't care if their girlfriend kissed another girl.

most guys will be pissed if their girlfriend kissed another guy.

[Texian]

Because if you have sex with a guy then you are being gay. But sex with a gal isn't, and it is double the action in a threesome.

[tetris]

because its more common for girls to be bisexual than guys are. plus girls are not into guys as much as guys are into girls.

[LeleBR]

Please, explain me why.

[tetris]

no one really knows we just do... girls are the attractive gender they have a lot of physical features, curves boobs pretty face etc. that guys naturally go crazy for. guys dont have features therefore girls are not going to be interested in us. being the opposite gender when your a guy doesn't help... guys and girls were meant for each other but something went wrong... thats the best i can explain it. and i wish i can explain it better 100%

[brooks21]

being naked with another naked man is gay. plain and simple. this really isn't that hard to grasp.

[unique490]

Honestly I'd much rather an MMF, I would love seeing how much she was enjoying herself. It's all about her.

[Bandit74]

I don't care about having a threesome, its just that if I had to pick the only one I would be interested in is FMF. I am content with never having a threesome as long as I can date a girl who has never had one either.

[qwert1234]

It's because I would really like to avoid seeing someone else's dick if I can.

[ActaNonVerba98]

I'm not into it. That type of shit makes my skin crawl.

[Mickbert]

Give me a MFM and we’ll all have a great time!

[JSmuve]

Guys don't really care about the girl's opinion in this. Having a MFF threesome is an opportunity to dominate two girls where both girls are interested in pleasing the guy.

[LeleBR]

I see your point. Most guys don't care about the girl's opinion, that's why most guys don't get to have threesomes. And let's be honest, probably 1 out of 100 guys would be able to dominate two girls, most guys can't even handle one ;)

[JSmuve]

Maybe those other 99 just need more practice 😉

[anonyms483]

@LeleBr if u look into our history, many Kings used have such things...

[eros343]

For the most part it's just an unreasonable phobia of homosexuality usually stemming from insecurity.. me personally. I think it would be really very erotic, to be seduced by a man into a kinky sexy threesome with her and another man

[UltraGamer]

Usually guys can go limp when they see another guys dick, and other times it may be awkward. So most guys think that 2 girls are better than 2 guys in the threesome

[LeleBR]

And why do you think that a girl wouldn't be turned off when she saw another girl naked?

[UltraGamer]

Never said she would or wouldn't be, I'm not a girl so I don't have a right to have say on the girls side.

[raj2022]

I'm very much into mfm & mmf

[Dumbbong]

All fantacies dear. We grow up watching porns and try to simulate the same in real life.