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Why are most guys so obsessed with the size of their dick?

Honestly most women don’t care. 95% of guys have normal dick sizes.
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  • Because most women won't sleep with a guy that has an inadequate dick size, and will mock him (to his face, or other girls, or both) if his dick size and/or sexual performance is lacking. And as another guy said, women remember their biggest/best, and only a small percentage of women can climax through penetration, and the ones who do definitely AREN'T doing so with dicks under 7 inches (small).

    I do have a small penis, and while I'm kinda insecure about it (because I had NO say-so in its size, and that kind of "this is what you get" lack of choice infuriates me). However, I am a million times more insecure about being short. So much so, in fact, that having a small penis is nothing by comparison. What do women see more, how small your dick is, or how small your entire body is?

    SHORT STORY TIME:
    When I was 26, I was really hesitant to have sex with a girl. I had just lose my virginity not too earlier than that (only a few months ago), and had been told I had a small dick (especially for my ethnicity) and that the last girl wanted 8" or more. I told this girl I was briefly dating I wasn't comfortable with sex yet and didn't have "the goods" to get the job done. After a couple weeks, she insisted I sleep with her after a night out, where she really made me feel loved and appreciated (for as brief of a time that was). Feeling grateful and wanted, I finally agreed to have sex with her. I warned her beforehand that I wasn't packing much. She said it would be okay. So we finally undressed and she saw it. Her reaction was, "Oh, that's... Not bad. That's... Sure. That's okay. Yeah, sure!" I strongly chose to just ignore that comment, and we proceeded anyway. I legit gave my ALL in that performance! I did everything that not only would previous women have wanted, but that she claimed she wanted in bed, as well. I listened to her 100% and was fully focused on pleasing her, giving it my all. When it was all said and done, I asked how was it. She looked over to me and told me, "That was; good!" Just like that. Like a bad unconvincing lie. I legit almost felt like crying.

    I didn't talk to that bitch after that, and effectively dumped her. She pressured me into having sex with her, and give it my all, only for her to not be satisfied, in the end. I regret not listening to my gut, like I should have.

    So I know from personal, first-hand experience (not just anecdotal, but supported by what tons of other woman have said, as well) that size, one-hundred-f*cking-percent, matters to women! Don't gimme that sh*t that it doesn't! And while performance also matters, it's simply just a fact that a penis that isn't the right size, won't give her the right performance. Just like if an athlete is too short or too fat, he won't give a proper performance on the field/court to win the game.

    I'm only 6.5" (by 5.5" circumference), by the way. Yeah, that's small and lacking, but some men are even smaller than THAT! Like only 4" fully erect, or something. Micro-penis level. So don't tell me "size doesn't matter." Until 4" men stop being sh*t on by women, we all know that won't ever be the truth.

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  • Pragmatically the male penis is nothing more than a biological hydraulic 'syringe' endowed with copious nerve endings evolved to respond enthusiastically pleasurably to compression & friction until ejackulation triggering the neurological release of addictive Dopamine, Oxytocin and Serotonin. Early in life you learn through experience that is impossible to 'tickle' YOUR self and yet the anticipated uncertainty of the tactile sensitivity imparts a special evolved value to foreplay.

    Western culture equates size with implied potential prowess, just as with female breasts

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  • I feel like women assume that if a man has a big dick then he's good in bed. I've had sex with a guy with a huge dick and it wasn't even great. Maybe he thought that there was no need to put in any effort coz having a big dick inside me would satisfy me. That was the worst sex I've ever had. I've also had sex with a man who had an average size dick and it was one of the best sex I've ever had or would probably ever have. He took his time made sure i felt every single inch. Omg that sex was fire i even fell in love with him just because of the sex😹. But he wasn't looking for anything serious so that's that😅. Back to the topic "size does not matter, it's literally how good you are at fucking that matters "🤎

    • Exactly. Now correct me if I wrong, but I've read many articles claiming that only a very small percentage of women (I think 10-14%) can actually climax through intercourse. Most women however can only climax through direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris. Do you think that this is accurate?

    • It's super accurate. Speaking from experience... and don't forget the nippleessssssss

    • Oh believe me when I say that I give a woman's nipples PLENTY of attention. Foreplay is afterall pretty important. You've got to pre-heat the oven before putting the turkey in : )

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  • Your statements are correct.

    However, your question could be applied to both men and women. Why men obsessed with the size of their dick, most are normal and women don't care? Why are women so obsessed with the size shape of their boobs and/or ass, most are normal and men don't care?

    Or whatever body part on whatever gender.

    Everyone has insecurities and we, as humans, seem to focus on comparing and being self-critical of the parts that make us different as men and women.

    • I agree except the question about duck size is asked 5-10x as frequently

    • I see both. I also see women spending lots more money on changing our appearance than men. Think make-up, clothing cost and how much more clothing we have than our significant other, boob jobs, hair... I for instance ask my husband how I look and like his validation of my appearance, he never asks for validation.

    • @Katie1964 Oh my god, this is DEFINITELY Most Helpful Answer on here!

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  • i am one of them. would like to feel safe and secure that i can please the woman i care about (once i find my soul mate anyway)

  • internet Porn really. Also social media allows all guys to add 5 inches to their manhood.

    I never really knew measuring your cock was so important

    I’ve seen guys on here doing 8.75 I mean wtf

    surely you just go, yeah it’s about 8 inches

    ..

  • I'm not... I am a normal size... never had any complaints and I have had tons of great sex/orgasms

  • Because I'm terrified of choking her!! Wait, are you asking because guys say they are too small or too big?

  • Lol, I'm not.

    I think someone else makes a good point though about porn, it probably makes them think that is the reality for everyone.

  • Only younger men are that worried. I was when I was a virgin and when I just started having sex... after a bit you get comfortable with your body and understand... if god didn’t give ya enough he gave you fingers and a tongue... besides. My 6 inches has never failed me.

  • It's just life. People have insecurities.

  • Same reason so many women on here ask about there breasts or discolouration off there vaginas

    • That’s equally dumb

    • I totally agree people are insecure and like validation so they ask

  • Same reason why women are "obsessed" with their bodies. Breasts, butt. And yes, it's just as bad. Worse even in my opinion lol

  • You should know, you're a guy too, @oralqueen.

  • I mean it's always nice to be told you have a big/nice dick but I think for a lot of guys it's some mix of arrogance and insecurity that makes them obsessed with dick size

  • A girlfriend told me that every penis she ever saw looked big to her.

  • They think the bigger the dick the more manly they are

  • Girls on gag ask this question far more than guys actually ask questions of their penises.

  • Everyone seems to think bigger is always better. I think most of the females on this site say that size is less important than how you use it.

  • We think women care about size because of how women in porn behave. Some women joke about size, so we believe there must be some element of truth to caring about size.

  • Porn is the main reason.
    In porn, a lot of men have big dicks, but that's why they do porn. And those men make up a small pool of men. Doesn't mean that is normal.

  • A lot of women actually prefer a bigger cock though lol. When I was on tinder, a common question I got was how big are you?

    • Are you sure that they weren't referring to your height? Many women seem to be obsessed with this.

  • Actually I’m always seeing women post about or make jokes about it on social media so that’s what gets into men’s minds it’s the females fault just like it’s a mans fault for women’s insecurities about body figures

  • I'm not obsessed with it. I am of small stature (155cm tall) and my penis is probably relative in size. Though I've had women tell me that it was a good size and shape. Maybe they were just being nice, but in all honesty, I don't really care. If women have a problem with what I am packing, well that is their problem not mine.

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