Why did my boyfriend all of a sudden stop going down on me?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year now and at the beginning of our relationship he would give me head all the time like I could barely return the favor cause he'd just do it 24/7 and it was fantastic he would always talk about how great I taste and all that. So as we kept dating he gave me less and less head but it was still a sufficient amount. However, about 2 or 3 months ago he completely stopped eating me out. It got me pretty annoyed since I always always give him a blowjob because I enjoy it and he asks for it all the time. I talked to him about it and asked him if there was something wrong with me and he made it pretty clear that there was nothing wrong with me and that he's just tired most of the time or he'd rather just finger me and have sex. He seemed like he understood I wanted it but STILL hasn't given me any! I'm a very clean person and I haven't changed any of my habits since when we were first intimate so I would like to know what you guys think changed. Could it be that at the beginning of our relationship he was trying to impress me by always eating me out? How do I get him to do it again? please leave your opinions or share any similar stories, thank you =)

[wysiwyg2525]

I got 3 well know reason that are true and correct. Guy code tells us guys not to say anython but i say fuk gug code. I am in it for me not them.
1. He is lazy
2. He got board with it
3. He doing it to someone else

Time to move on. If you like it and he don't return the favor then why be with him. Trust me I love going down on a woman. For the reason up above is the reason most guys stop performing sex in general. Ask a married couple how many times the have sry in one week. This may shock you buy it is zero in one week maybe 2 to 3 times a month. Married guys go back to masturbating or even cheating.

[Asker]

you make a very compelling argument, our sex life is great and we have fun but it's just that specific detail that bothers me. Thank you for sharing the guy code, definitely gave me a lot to consider.

[summiter]

Couples will see a small slowdown or change in their sex habits when the get married or move in together. It is not fair that you keep giving him great orgasms (blowjobs) and he does not return the favor, Yo have been honest with him. I would tell him that for every time he goes down on you that you will return the favor. Until then he will have to settle for handjobs or sex. How often are you two having sex? Do you orgasm from vaginal sex when he does not give you any oral?

[Asker]

Yea we have a good sex life. We are both really busy and don't live together but manage to have sex at least 2 or 3 times a week. Most of the time I'll orgasm through vaginal sex and if I don't he fingers me and stuff until I do. We have a pretty great relationship, I really have no complains besides the lack of oral.

[summiter]

Well I hope he gets the message and resumes giving you oral. Sex is a two way street if you are giving him head he should return the favor always!

[Anonymous]

Maybe its smelly. 😂

[OlderAndWiser]

Ask him if he believes in the Golden Rule.

[reptocarl]

You tell him to start licking your pussy or you’re going elsewhere

[AustinTXGuy]

It sounds like he's grown complacent in the relationship and is being lazy about it. I would let him know that you really like the way he does it and it's an important part of sex for you. I wouldn't with old bj for bow as that kind of tit-for-tat stuff really doesn't work long term, but it's an option if other things don't work. I think once you've gotten to that point though it's going to have been pretty blatant disregard for your desires and that's a major red flag in my opinion.

[Asker]

thank you for that opinion, yeah I tried not giving him oral but I caved because I genuinely enjoy it and it didn't seem like a good solution in the long term like you mentioned. I haven't gotten extremely mad to the point of breaking up because I don't want him to think our relationship is only about sex. Do you think it'd be a good idea to give him an ultimatum?

[AustinTXGuy]

Maybe, but just have a talk about it. Don't put him on the defensive, be super complimentary and genuine in your desire for it (shouldn't be hard ;) and just express to him that it's a really important part of sex for you and you need it to come back. Do this before sex or outside of sex because it will only sound like your complaining if you do it after sex.

[Asker]

thank you, very helpful I will definitely try that.

[AustinTXGuy]

You're welcome darlin. Good luck

[Anpu23]

One reason why I don't is if I have grown a cold sore. Afraid to share that.

[antithetical2]

Because you don't appreciate it the way used to.

[Asker]

No I always told him how good he was and how much I enjoyed myself

[gobsmacked3]

because he is a silly boy- giving women oral is the HUGEST turn on

[Kimikiwi]

Im sorry I got to say that it is not a big turn on for all women. I honestly prefer not to get one, not because im shy or dirty. It's just not My thing :) dont enjoy it at all

[gobsmacked3]

@Kimikiwi you are breaking my heart here, lol

most women deem me odd. for i wouldn't care if i ever got a blowjob but if i couldn't give her oral, it would KILL me

I wrote this a while ago about women and receiving oral sex;
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a22209-women-the-irony-of-receiving-oral-sex

[gobsmacked3]

@Kimikiwi As an aside, I see you are a Swede. i am a HUGE fan of cooking. have you any good recipes for Köttbullar?

[Kimikiwi]

Actually My parents are latinos so im not a blonde babe. I was bien and raised in Sweden thoXD thanks I Will read that

[ok604]

You're gaining weight and he doesn't have the heart to tell you, or, he feels like he's doing a shitty job

[countryboy94]

He was trying to impress you and the best way for him to start again is to just 69 so and lay down the law id u give him head he has to too or you will stop

[Asker]

wow what a great idea!

[frank0523]

He probably is tired of it. Did you talk to hin. Maybe he thinks you don't like it. Talk to him about more variaty. If he like to war you out try to sit in his face

[disgustingweebtrash]

You smell down there

[ZSean]

Maybe your puss smells bad

[CT_CD]

He got tired of it. Leave him alone

[Leonard58]

You’re going to have to change it up some kind away. Just hope he’s not going down on another lady.

[dementor29]

Maybe he is really tired of going down on you and just can't say!

[Anonymous]

Maybe it just isn’t as exciting as it used to be for him, things naturally slow down in a relationship, maybe start changing what you wear or you’r approach to him, maybe go away somewhere and try to have foreplay

[Anonymous]

A change in preference is not uncommon. The amount of time he was going down on you seem extreme. He may be just burned out for a while. Some changes are good to make you appreciate what yo have left.

[Anonymous]

Clean your pussy.

[Anonymous]

Amazing man!!