Why do most people never admit how many sexual partners they've had?

[Anonymous]

[Jani1234]

Because they might be embarrassed, some people can be judgmental towards others actions, I mean, you can have your opinion and speak your truth, but if something isn't for you it just isn't but it doesn't mean you have to bash others for it, generally speaking

[Anoniemus]

It turns people off or makes them seem like a risk (which is true).

[AbleLearner]

Because every human being is born with a certain moral conscience, and they are ashamed to admit publicly that they live like a complete whore/whoremonger.

[bamesjond0069]

Because most men won't marry sluts.

[PurpleStorm]

Because it's personal

[Asker]

Time of the month is personal. Taking a shit is personal. Visiting the doctor is personal. Testing for STD is personal. But if someone is to marry you, your sexual history isn't personal unless you want the marriqge built on lies

[PurpleStorm]

I wouldn't lie, I would simply say it's personal and just forget it. I don't want to know how many girls he had either. Our past should be left in the past, our future is what matters. I was with only one guy before, so you probably think only girls with high body count want to hide it, but that's not always true.

[Asker]

High or low body count. I think there should be no secrets when it comes to marriage. At least both men and women know where to stand. Sometimes past can come back to hunt you...

[PurpleStorm]

how would that come back to bite me? you also wouldn't want to know all the kinky things the guy did to your current wife, there is just no point and you do not need those images in your head. I understand keeping things honest is the best way, but some things happen between the sheets and should stay there.

[Asker]

Not you personally lol in general. It's best coming from a partners wife than a stranger wish can be a big backlash. And past sexual disclosure doesn't have to be detailed. Noone wanna know yhe nastiness every girl let men do to her...

[PurpleStorm]

well I think everyone is different in this department. I really look up to one married couple I know, they are happily married almost two decades now and still don't know and don't want to know their body counts, they are honest about everything else, so just because your partner doesn't share every excrutiating detail of her life before she met you does not mean you can't trust her. I don't have a high body count but there are some things about my past that I never want to share. I'm just a different person. I don't want to lie either, just keep some things quiet

[Bee-Hatch]

Because sexual politics depend on a fairy tale of bullshit.

Men must be experienced with a trail of lovers in their past.

Women must be ladylike with one or two treasured romances to their name.

The basic maths of this doesn't add up.

There's also the current trend for "slur shaming" of anyone who is a women being themselves often without having done anything. It's a hateful thing and some of the biggest perpetrators are women. There's very little solidarity in the sisterhood because we are all too busy being bitchy about each other.

[octoberbabe]

I honestly don’t know how many... is that a bad thing? Maybe around 40. Now I’m a lot more settled one guy at a time but I had some crazy fun back in college and have had my share of hookups/short relationships while traveling. 2 different 3 ways too. But yeah I think I don’t bring any of that up right away, I only tell people that won’t judge. The people that don’t judge are the kinda I want to date/be friends with anyways. There’s nothing wrong with liking to have sex, especially if you are safe/smart about it. Don’t be ashamed whatever your “#” is whether that be 0 or 1000!!

[19magic]

Mines 11 so that ain't bad

[hellionthesagereborn]

I don't know, probably because they know its going to be a lot and it will look bad (and I think understandably so). Inversely I think some guys don't want to say because it will be "too few" and both men and women will look down on them for it. Personally I have never been ashamed of my partner count, which is one, because I don't like hiding who I am or my values (I think sex is not something that should be done casually and I'm not ashamed to admit that).

[OlderAndWiser]

Gee, you posted this anonymously and you didn't tell us your number. You haven't set much of an example, have you?

[Asker]

Ha ha. I'm asking why I'm not asking how many lol

[OlderAndWiser]

Okay. Same reason most people don't come to me to make a will. They don't want to confront the reality that they will eventually die. Reality can be depressing! Most people think they have an extremely low number, making them uncool, or they have a high number and don't want to be thought of as a slut. Who wants to confront that reality?

[HOAAH]

I am reading that people judge for havibg had too many partners but it's also true people judge for having too few numbers. People just fear being judged. That is sad. I tried not to fear being judged and told my now husband my number was zero, i had never had sex. He made fun of me and laughed at me. How sad.

[Jamie05rhs]

@HOAAH That's f*cked up. He shouldn't have done that. (Hopefully he apologized.)

[SarahsSummer]

people dont judgement

[SarahsSummer]

dont like judgement

[FictionalCharacter]

I’ve had👌🏻 zero 👌🏻

[Lynx122]

Well you're a fictional character so you could have just made that up :P

[FictionalCharacter]

Funny joke, but no.

[Lyndsielee666]

Because people are judgmental

[Pamina]

But how do you even know that "most people" lie about it?

[WhiteShoulder]

Embarrassed

[Miristheiss]

So the person doesn't walk out.

[ImagineSketchy]

I personally don't even remember. It isn't something I view as important.
I'm assuming a lot of people don't like it when others are promiscuous. It leaves a feeling that a person is harder to satisfy sexually if they've had so many which is very rarely the case.

[Alpha09]

Because some people are judgmental pricks. But if they have a problem with the number they aren't worth it to begin with, might as well move on to someone who doesn't have an issue.

[Mickey9999]

Judgement. No one wants to be judged for their decisions. It goes both ways too, men and women both bitch about their partners having been with too many or too little so it just comes down to interpretation and judgement

[Agape93]

Because it’s nobodies business except the person in question.

[Purplemonkey24]

Worried about getting judged.

[4mazing]

You used the word "admit" about it. Kind of answers your question.

[Asker]

Didn't know selective reading was a thing lol

[4mazing]

What do you mean?

[Lily-bardot]

Iv had 25, if that makes someone think less of me that's their problem, my happiness isn't based on other people's opinions.

[bamesjond0069]

Eww thats gross.