Why do most virgins feel like they’re not experienced enough to answer even a simple sexual question?

[DizzyDesii]

I’ve seen it a lot on GAG bt in person many showed confidence in the skills they’d use in future sex life. A lot of virgins are good at sexting, kissing, fingering, cuddling, oral and should continue to use their words/actions to show thats also considered experience. My ex was a virgin bt porn taught him a lot. We were nervous our first time in the sack bt we fcked like porn stars because we were confident in our freaky sides. Virgins, take pride in what porn has taught you (and if you dont watch porn then take pride in the advice given from others) and put it to good use when its time to get down/dirty, whether physically or verbally. Use your imagination for goodness sake. Dont get cocky with it but show virgins and nonvirgins that you believe in your skillset when the time comes. When i was a virgin, my mind ran wild and i did lots of research. When it came down to blowjobs, my two exes felt i was a pro. When it came down to handjobs, my 2 crushes felt i was a pro. When it came down to sex with the 2 exes, i was def not a pro at all lmao but i took that dck like a pro and went numerous rounds like a pro 😂👌 Yea i still dont feel experienced at times in terms of sex cause everytime feels new all over again and nerves return bt i dont let the guy see that. Thanks to porn and advice, I eventually learned how to rock that shit. Either way, I love learning together and thats one thing that turns me on about virgins or those who’ve had few sex partners. Get you someone willing to not only teach you but grow with you. Honestly, I’m not into super experienced men because i dont feel they’d learn anything from me (that they haven't already done before) and plus they often come across as cocky having done it with numerous others. Also, i was never one to say confidence matters in a man in general, but for me, it def matters when it comes to the sex life. So start reading/watching BOYS!! 👌 #FeelFreeToList #ConfidentVirgins #PepTalk

[MaximisPryme]

Would you feel experienced in martial arts, if you have never tried it? That's how we feel. We do not know what feels best for us, and we only had 'theoretical' experience... You can learn how to cook in a class lecture, but until you get down to the kitchen, and know how to properly cook a dark roux, or fry an egg, you would feel so inexperienced.

As for the porn thing, yes, you can learn some basics from it, but do not expect it to be the same... It is like watching a Bruce Lee film, and learning Kung Fu... Yes, you can try to imitate what he does, but you lack the knowledge and discipline behind it. Martial arts takes years of dedication, and discipline to properly respect the art (I had dome martial arts for 6 years... Gave up on it, because it became very boring, as well as stressful)

This is coming from a virgin. I am no way experienced, nor do I claim to be. All I know, is what sex isn't like, as to how it is REALLY like... I know it isn't much like porn, but that's really what I know... I know you cannot do sex without foreplay. But to really know how to have good foreplay skills, I totally lack that, as much I do believe it is quite important... Just never had a woman give me the time to figure it out.

Just my thoughts on the matter.

[DizzyDesii]

I was once a virgin too and even then i was confident. I never said porn will make u a pro. Im just saying take something and learn from it and gain some confidence in your abilities

[MaximisPryme]

Well, for a woman, it is a little different. A man has to put in a lot of work to get a woman to like him, and if he does, there has to be a lot for him to live up to. If a woman climaxes quickly, good on him. If he climaxes early, then he'd be ashamed.

[MaximisPryme]

Simply put, I do not like to practice being a charlatan.

[DizzyDesii]

You got it all wrong. Being confident is different from being a charlatan. If you're truly insecure about your learned skills and pretend to be confident, then you’d be a char. But that was not the point of the question. You’re going down a diff path, straying further away from the true meaning of the topic

[MaximisPryme]

Fair enough. However, I just cannot answer a question with little knowledge I know. If I came up to you, and asked you anything about you had little knowledge in, naturally I think you wouldn't give too much of an answer outside of what you would know. Same goes for virgins... They would be confident in knowing that sex would feel good, but outside of that, they would NOT know the principles/rules of sex, even the basics. I know a few things about cars, but if someone asked a question about it, I wouldn't answer, because I am sure that other people would know more than I do, and my opinion may not be worth anything to go by. I am confident in my knowledge, in that it is true, but I know my knowledge is minimal, and it would waste my time to tell what little I know.

[DizzyDesii]

This isn't a quiz of getting the answers right. The point was give an opinion of what you feel you’re good at and a lot of GaG virgins doubt themselves and act like they’re not good at anything sexually. Like if you’ve kissed before and exes loved it, then thats your key in bed until you learn other things. If you’re good at fingering, so be it. Not having had sex doesn't mean u haven't done anything in general. So people should show confidence in the little they know

[MaximisPryme]

Well, you are absolutely right in that regard, but for me, and this is a VERY subjective/rare case, where I do not know what I am good at, since in my 25 years of being on this earth, I can count on ONE hand, as to how many women my age would find me sexually appealing. I could be good at something, I just do not know what it is xD

[ManOnFire]

Good points. I think a lot of virgins feel like they're not in a position to answer anything about sex since they haven't had it, and because if they already announce that they're a virgin then people are going to treat them like one and feel like they shouldn't be having anything to say about sex when they haven't done it.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea they shouldn't doubt themselves. Thats the one thing i like about mistix is that she isn't afraid to ask although people say crap like she must not really be a virgin since she's so sexually curious

[ManOnFire]

I think she is an absolute joke.

[DizzyDesii]

I wouldn't say that. I just get annoyed that she asks the same question in different wording repeatedly. But i like that she's confident in her questions

[ManOnFire]

She and I have tussled about this in the past. I suppose you COULD say that her asking questions about sex does make more sense than her pretending to be an expert on sex, yeah.

[ultimega]

Not a virgin but there's definitely much more I would like to experience and learn.
However I will only with someone I love and trust.
Then my nympho side will come out... that's for sure.

[DizzyDesii]

I agree. Like i said above i may not be a virgin but im clueless about a lot but in bed im gonna try to show that i know what im doin lol. And yea it has to be a longterm relationship for me. I want my 3rd to be my forever and last

[justcurious2019]

@DizzyDesii just curious what would i have to do for to mine?

[DizzyDesii]

@justcurious2019 give up please

[ultimega]

This dude stalking you?

[justcurious2019]

No I'm not

[ultimega]

Dude stop hijacking my opinion. She is NOT interested in you

[ashley1996]

I've noticed that a lot. I also like virgins, train them how you want them 😛

[DizzyDesii]

Yasssssss!! See guys we love you 👌 they really need to read my peptalk above

[justcurious2019]

@DizzyDesii i know girls like virgins because then you can teach us how to please you ever woman is difftent

[DizzyDesii]

@justcurious2019 yea a majority may not like virgins but some of us do

[justcurious2019]

your a fan of them dizzy right?

[DizzyDesii]

@justcurious2019 did u not read the paragraph i wrote above the poll

[justcurious2019]

@DizzyDesii i did read the paragraph i just asked because i know some women say they like virgins to be nice

[DizzyDesii]

@justcurious2019 i like any man to be goodhearted and respectful in general regardless of virginity

[justcurious2019]

@DizzyDesii i could have not said it better myself

[Ceasar97]

I think for me personally, it is more that I don't want to force myself into a certain mindset before having sex. I do watch/read porn, lot of it lol, but I won't know how it feels until I actually have sex. I might think that I love to eat a girl out, but when I actually lick her I might not like it. I try to use what little I know to help people, but on somethings I just don't think I know enough about myself and what I like to answer somethings.

[DizzyDesii]

I mean you won't know if u like it til u try it. BUT you could at least show confidence going into the act ya know

[Ceasar97]

for sure; when the time comes, I will definitely be confident in trying everything I can. But when it comes to answering some questions on GAG, I feel like somebody else might be able to answer certain questions "better."

[DizzyDesii]

Dont let competition slow u down

[Ceasar97]

Fair enough

[Lliam]

That was absolutely brilliant, DizzyDesii! Kudos!

This isn't exactly related, but I was reminded of the scene in Woody Allen's Love and Death when he says "Well, I practice a lot when I'm alone."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ah7VxQHs-gI

[DizzyDesii]

😂😂😂👌

[Lliam]

That's you destroying the room, right? hahahaha

[DizzyDesii]

Yes haha

[Hans222]

Voted A Desi, did my homework but never did "it"...

[SirRexington]

Im not a virgin but I don't much experience. I've only slept with two people. The last time was years ago.

[DizzyDesii]

Same here. Only two for me too but regardless of how many, you could still feel inexperienced

[SirRexington]

I first girl it was one time and we didn't finish... My first was awful and j wish I could take it back.

[Ronald_25]

I have HSD (Hypersexualty Disorder) which means lack of regular sex will cause mood swings, stress, depression and suicidal thoughts. Unfortunately, it is just how I'm wired 🤷🏽‍♂️.

This also means losing my virginity at 15 by a 17 year old girl, I've been having sex for 11 years now. There is so much to sex that the more experienced you become, the more it'll blow your mind.

But virgins should be able to speculate the basics. But when asked questions about the karma sutra etc, best leave those to sexual guidance advisors like myself 👍🏼

[Phoenix98]

I don't feel that way at all, I answer those kinds of questions all the time.

[Grond21]

That's good advice. I am relatively confident that my skills would be enough to make her happy, or be a decent foundation to start on as we learn to be sex experts together

[Titanic1912]

I voted A.

[TyPilot]

Thank you so much, @DizzyDesii!
Although I'm a Virgin, I often impress myself with how much I know! You're absolutely right! It's all thanks to... Um... "Research". Yes, porn.

[DizzyDesii]

HAHA good

[poneglyphs]

As a virgin a myself I think that watching porn and reading guides are not making become amazing at sex. The guides are good points that I should know, and see if they work or not in practice. There is a difference between the real thing and watching it. I think i can be confident doing oral or moving positions.

[DizzyDesii]

I didn't say it will make u good. I said u should build confidence and believe that u will be

[poneglyphs]

Oh, well I think gonna be confident even if its fake confidence

[justcurious2019]

i dont know why most virgins feel like they’re not experienced enough answer even a simple sexual question i'm a virgin but i would answer any sexual questions

[DizzyDesii]

Yea like you talk like a freak in the sheets even though you’re a virgin and that can be hot. Now dont take that out of context. Lol im not tryna DM/talk on disc

[justcurious2019]

i understand i just wish i did not miss up my chance with you and i want to be friends with you

[justcurious2019]

me talking like a freak in the sheets is hot?

[JKingOff]

Because they're not.

[morganlove]

What questions won't they answer?

[DWornock]

Experience is over-rated. If you are young attractive and inexperienced, it doesn't matter what you, it will all be fun. and, learning something for the first time is exciting.

[DizzyDesii]

Thats what i said

[DWornock]

Yes, you did.

[Belfast34]

Most guys like a girl who's a virgin but these days not many about

[DizzyDesii]

Yea that wasn't the point of the question

[Belfast34]

I got that lol

[Belfast34]

What I'm saying is that I couldn't have sex with a virgin.

[DizzyDesii]

But the point was that u were once a virgin

[Belfast34]

That's very true and I was shaking so bad my first time. She was very experienced and I wasn't.

[Belfast34]

I wouldn't turn down a virgin girl as my girlfriend but having sex with her first time will be very sire for both of us. I've done it before with a virgin girl and she never came near me again.

[COMMODOREII]

Porn worked for me on my first time. My lover had no idea i was a virgin till i told her after a few nights of trying all sorts of positions and making her multiorgasm. 😎👌

[DizzyDesii]

Yea same for my ex lol

[COMMODOREII]

I find porn to better materials in sex education than what they showed at school. Lol

[DizzyDesii]

School was meant to teach and scare u. Porn was meant to teach and entertain lol

[COMMODOREII]

I guess you are right. Lol

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Yea I guess porn taught me a lot too

[DizzyDesii]

Ikrr

[Gsm24diecast]

I'm glad I'm a virgin, and its from choice and medical issues as well. (: I could care less about sex, or what people think of me lol. never had a date, never will get married, that my choice, I could care less of what society thinks, and I understand your question, but I had to say where I'm coming from.

[Bismarck_96]

Shit._. Ik im late but...

School counselor: you need sexed in order to graduate

Me: no I don’t i took that class already

School counselor: when?

Me: yesterday

School counselor: what teacher?

Me: Porn hub._.

[farhaan7]

Exactly but am an opposite case