Why do some girls like giving blow jobs?

[Anonymous]

So I've never been into blow jobs... I find them degrading and just all around not fun. But a few of my friends claim to love them. Why is this? What about blow jobs could possibly be desirable for women?

[NexAngelus]

umm not a chick so no scientist, but:
***the oral fixation thing does come up a lot
***everyone knows it is an extremely easy way to make a guy extremely happy pretty fucking easily... not a bad deal
***some either like the flavor of cum because they have had guys with good diets or took things to make their cum taste better, OR they themselves dont have much taste in their own mouths. but a good diet and or a lot of fruit can make cum taste fruity, adds an extra layer of fun if u get a little candy snack at the end ;). i have heard a lot of people mention salt taffy, no idea how true that is though.
***i know past gfs always just like to go to town and keep going till they get their surprise snack. its good bonding. both of u laying there, just sitting watching ur girlfriend have fun and enjoying herself, lightly petting her hair or looking into her eyes when she wants to look up.
***i know for girls that can deep throat, again they always loved how much it turned me on so much, and they themselves got a kick out of how it felt in their throat. not to mention when u cum. their mouth and throat get to feel all those musles and veins spaz and all the hot cum go down their throat. i have not met a chick that didn't like that.
*** WHY DO GUYS LIKE SUCKING ON BOOBS? lol cause they are boobies lol. i always felt it was the same answer.

[AustinMan]

I can just relate what my ladies have told me. They don't see my cock or cum as at all dirty or nasty. They see my cock as one of their best friends and my cum as my very precious gift to them. They see my cock as I see their entire body, something to be treasured and sort of worshiped. They see going down on me as an extension of intercourse, sort of making love or lust to my cock and thereby to me.

Does that answer your question?

[Asker]

Yes. It's just hard to believe that there are women who feel that way

[AustinMan]

Most women feel that way. I just had a dialog with a woman who detested them but she has grown to love them. If you want to change, you can.

[Asker]

I know this happens when people "fall in love" but I'm not currently in a relationship so. Who knows, maybe one day I will look back on this post and laugh at myself. But right now this is how I feel...

[kaylaS91]

A blowjob is degrading only if the receiving guy is actively telling you that you're a slut and good for nothing but sucking dick while you're on your knees.
.. which obviously is not the case for most of the women who say oral (strictly giving, of course) is degrading.

I love giving head to my boyfriend because it makes me happy as well as turns me on to be able to do something that he enjoys so much, with very minimal discomfort or whatever at my end.

[Anonymous]

I dislike facials and such, but do enjoy giving oral. Touching the penis of a guy I'm attracted to is just very exciting! Putting it in your mouth gives many sensations and you can move your tongue around it in different ways. Sometimes your jaw gets tired and semen tastes kind of bad sometimes, but really that's the only drawback to me. The rest is just a fun way to explore your partners sexy bod!

[Anonymous]

I don't find it degrading at all, if anything it's empowering. You literally have a man by the balls while making him weak in the knees with pleasure. His orgasm is completely at my discretion and i can stop when I want to.
Not to mention when you make eye contact and he strokes your cheek and hair, it's an amazing emotional connection as well.

[Asker]

... wow

[Opinion Owner]

*shrugs* you asked for opinions on why women enjoy doing it

[Asker]

Sorry it wasn't negative. Just interesting to hear different views.

[LittleLila]

It's only degrading if he treats you like some whore, and face fucks you, makes you gag etc. Otherwise, it just plain isn't. It's ok for you to not like doing it, but some girls genuinely do, and there's nothing degrading about it. It just feels good to make someone you love feel good.

[Asker]

That's what makes YOU feel like they're degrading. To me the act of simply putting a penis in my mouth it degrading. Just because someone views something differently than you, doesn't make then wrong.

[LittleLila]

Hahaha, ok. Someone who gets that defensive over blowjobs obviously has some deeper issues bubbling away. Have a good night sweetheart.

[Asker]

I don't feel that strongly about it. But I don't appreciate someone telling me that my opinion of something it wrong. Doesn't really make sense. And opinion isn't wrong it's just a different way of viewing things. Some women LIKE being face fucked, gagged, etc. so they'd disagree with you saying that's degrading. But that doesn't make you wrong... I don't know. Whatever.

[Cerate]

Did she even say that "your opinion is wrong"? I didn't see this phrase anywhere. Chillax girl. It's ok if it doesn't make sense to you, because we all have different mindset. My boyfriend has the same mindset as you: feeling it's degrading. Whereas I feel that it's disgusting but not really degrading. I won't say your opinion is wrong, not my bf's too, and not mine too. There's nothing wrong about it. you have to quit thinking about people judging you, because some commenters here are not judging you, just voicing their opinions. Hope you differentiate. :)

[Asker]

@Cerate she said my opinion was wrong on someone else's reply to this question.

[Cerate]

I apologise because I roughly skimmed through everything. For those who said that people's opinions are wrong, please stop saying it. Because people have the entitlement to what they said. Now I get why each reply you posted here have some frustrations. I understand now.

[LittleLila]

Haha I never said your opinion was wrong, girl. Grow up.

[Asker]

Yes you did, but that's fine. I'm perfectly grown, thanks.

[LittleLila]

I don't think I've ever seen someone get so defensive over nothing, so quickly on here before.

[LittleLila]

You remind me of the kind of girls I used to hate in school. Always mincing people's words to cause trouble 😂 I never said your opinion is wrong. That's a fact. You feel degraded when you suck dick. That's fine. That's YOUR opinion. But that doesn't mean it's degrading for everyone. You're twisting my words to make it sound like I'm denying you your opinion, when you're trying to shove it down my throat like it's fact. That's what I was saying.

[Asker]

The fact that you keep replying is hilarious.

[LittleLila]

If that's the best reply you have, it just shows that you know you're wrong. Sorry for hurting your feelings, "anon". Maybe try not to get so worked up when other people have a differing opinion to yours. And I'm replying because you're replying. That's kinda how this whole chat thing works. It's not a one way street. So if that was supposed to be an insult, then you kinda made yourself look like an idiot.

[Asker]

No. I'm not wrong. My feelings are valid. Everyone's are. :)

[LittleLila]

👍 .

[Cerate]

after i posted the previous comment i went back to look carefully through the rest of the posts, and I realise that @littleliila did not say ur (asker) opinion is wrong. I don't know how you even SEE this phrase which wasn't even here.

[Cerate]

but it's fine. we should all just chill out and skip this topic.

[Cerate]

To conclude, I won't ask you to grow up, because I don't feel that it's related to growing up, more of like trying to think different perspectives (like think out of the box?) on why people think this way, not keeping ur brain of thoughts in a small tiny box. Most likely you are not as open minded as some people. If others like blowjobs, let them do, we have no rights to say. But if you meet a guy you love who wants a bj, just kindly tell him that you don't like it rather than judging him or not, because a guy who truly loves a girl will not force her to do things she doesn't like. Just some words that I said here, hope you can take it. :) If you can't then I also cannot do anything, we all we still live our own lives separately. Have a blessed day asker!

[tinyclit]

Oh gee, what about men's body parts could possibly be desirable to women, hmm. /sarcasm Young ladies, if you're not into men, hard cocks and cum, then just that means there's more for the rest of us who are. Yum, yum. :)

[JulieXO]

I like to make my man happy. It's super hot for me to see that he's enjoying what I'm doing. Also the act alone is really fun, I guess I just like sucking on things :D

[goldfinch23]

😂😂😂

[JulieXO]

@goldfinch23 <3

[hollygoeslightly]

Giving someone else immense pleasure is a massive turn on. You might find you enjoy it more with age.

[Berethor]

Well quite many girls are having some submissive and masochistic tendencies.

[NJ_Casanova]

Some girls like giving their men pleasure.
Some enjoy to control.
Some just like the feel of it in their mouth.

[SovereignessofVamps]

They feel in control, because they control his pleasure! You can feel dom giving a bj srsly.

[ThisDudeHere]

But do you expect guys to go down on you?

[Asker]

What does that have to do with anything?

[ThisDudeHere]

In the realm of objective reality, that will help determine whether you're a hypocrite or not.

[Asker]

I never said I didn't give blow jobs. I just said that I didn't like them.

[Bananaman177]

Let me ask you this, do you feel like it's degrading for a man to eat a girl out?

[Asker]

A little, yes. Putting your mouth on someone's genitals is degrading no matter what gender you are.

[LittleLila]

Thats a very old fashioned way of looking at it. There's nothing degrading about pleasing someone you love in the privacy of your bedroom, no matter how you do it.

[Asker]

@LittleLila whatever. Everyone has an opinion. I'm entitled to mine

[LittleLila]

Your opinion is that you don't like them. That's fine. But saying it's degrading just isn't true. Sorry.

[Asker]

@LittleLila I said that I find them degrading. That's how I FEEL about giving blow jobs. That's my opinion. I'm entitled to it.

[Bananaman177]

I swear I don't feel degraded. I find it a privilege. It denotes incredible trust. Especially the first time. It's a unique bonding experience. Maybe that's what the girls get off on, the fact that the man is showing vulnerability, giving her total control over his most important and delicate equipment, literally, and she validates his trust by taking him for a wild ride. Maybe the reason you don't like blowjobs is that you're seeing it (and performing it) as a sex act and not as a way to make love to your man. Maybe you're not letting it be something special.

[Asker]

It's never going to be special to me. A penis wasn't really made to go into a mouth, but whatever.

[Bananaman177]

Okay, so let me ask you one more thing: Is there a physical reason why you find blowjobs difficult? Do you have a small, shallow mouth? An overactive gag reflex, or maybe you're just dating guys with massive, gigantic units and it hurts your jaw? I'm not asking to be nasty, but I'm wondering if this might be a sour grapes situation. In other words, could it be that part of what makes you hate blowjobs is insecurity about your ability to do a good job? Again, sorry, I don't mean this in a crude or insulting way. You asked for opinions.

[Asker]

I just find them all around annoying. I'm not sure specifically why. It hurts my jaw. It's extremely repetitive and boring. I expect sex to be fun and exciting and giving a blow job just isn't. Then if you're extremely unlucky you run into a guy who expects you to make him cum with your mouth, which is ridiculous. I don't know.

[Bananaman177]

Okay, so why don't you make it more exciting by varying your technique? Instead of just throat-fucking yourself (sorry, don't know a nicer way to say it) you could use more licking and tonguing and kissing, caressing with your hands, learning to massage different parts of the penis, I'm just saying, you've got options, you don't have to do something if it hurts your jaw, I wouldn't take pleasure in that. But you can still use your mouth to make love. And assuming your man goes down on you, he might grow to feel that you're a selfish lover, but there are some guys who would care more and some who would care less.

[Asker]

Yeah I'm just not interested, sorry. I don't want to make love to someone with my mouth... like that's just not fun to me. Anyways I'm single so I guess it doesn't really matter. Maybe one day when I fall in love or whatever I'll change my mind, but I doubt it.

[Bananaman177]

Well, don't feel too bad. I won't do anal, but I've heard there are girls who love it. Everybody is allowed to have boundaries, you know? If doing something is physically painful or psychologically damaging, then yeah, don't do it. But I do feel that you should be upfront about this to any potential partner you may meet, right around the time you two are starting to get intimate, you should probably have a conversation about it. And quite frankly, if he doesn't take it well, and he says it's a deal-breaker, guess what? You're better off with a more understanding lover.

[Cerate]

He's just explaining WHY it is enjoyable, and you seem upset. Why even ask this qns? But anyway I'm with you too: I find it disgusting too. Just different people different perspectives.

[Cerate]

@Bananaman177 and yes I agree with him. You post this qns to ask for opinions, so people give their opinions, so please don't get upset over it.

[Asker]

@Cerate I'm literally not upset.

[Bananaman177]

Just a discussion.

[tinyclit]

" Then if you're extremely unlucky you run into a guy who expects you to make him cum with your mouth..." I call getting a guy like that LUCKY. :)

[Asker]

@tinyclit you are absolutely ridiculous. Your oral fixation is almost scary. Chill.

[Cerate]

u are asking for opinions and now you are judging her opinions. Just close this qns.

[Intraluminal]

I can't answer why some girls like to give blowjobs, but as a man I love eating the V, so I can relate. For me, being able to give a woman pleasure is sexy. Being able to please someone I love is close and intimate, and Being able to control someone's sexual reactions is hot. I also love the taste and scent, so...

[Intraluminal]

Have you considered that perhaps you're not attracted to men? I mean, you feel degraded by men, and apparently you don't find the penis sexy, so... Really, going with women might address your feelings of degradation and not having to deal with men or the D might make you feel happier.

[Asker]

I am most certainly not a lesbian.

[Intraluminal]

I'm not making an accusation of any type. I'm just thinking that you might feel less degraded with a woman - just a thought.

[Asker]

Well... that may be true but I'm not attracted to any women so... that's kind of a problem.

[Intraluminal]

I'm not suggesting that you have to. It just seemed to be a way of helping you to feel better. I see that you're single, and maybe this degradation you feel is an unconscious message that you don't like men. Perhaps you see them as disgusting? That would certainly explain your feeling of degradation.

[Intraluminal]

While SOME men do degrade women, just as some women degrade men, most men do not. If your overall opinion is that you're being degraded by men, then the answer may be that you are simply not attracted to them.

[Asker]

Well if I'm not attracted the men then I must be asexual. Because I'm definitely not attracted to women.

[Intraluminal]

Well, that's also a choice. You shouldn't have to be in a relationship where you feel degraded. You can choose. That's the great part.

[Asker]

I know that. Hence why I'm not in one currently

[vampireelf]

girls who doesn't like blowjobs are hot, really :) I'm kind of bored by girls who like to give blowjobs. Its like a guy begging to have sex with you

[Ripper_E]

How is a blowjob degrading? It's something you chose to do for him, just as he can chose to perform oral sex on you as well.

[Asker]

To me it's degrading, I don't know just my opinion. Not trying to upset anyone.

[Ripper_E]

I'm not upset nor trying to correct you opinion. I just don't understand it because you did not explain your statement. Do you believe it's degrading because you woke up one day and without reason you decided it was degrading or is there a reason behind your opinion?

[Asker]

I just think that getting on your knees and shoving someone's genitals in your mouth is degrading? I can't explain how I came to this conclusion, I don't really remember. But that's just honestly how I feel. I don't know.

[Ripper_E]

do you believe a man sucking on a woman's breasts is degrading?

[Asker]

Hm... no. But I think it's incomparable to sucking a dick. Like I would say going down on a woman is degrading...

[Ripper_E]

We feel pleasure from oral, just as we would from masturbation or sexual intercourse. In all those acts, our genitals are stimulated. Our genitals are just a part of our body, just like any other parts. Lips, cheeks, breasts, neck, thighs, feet, etc. If both individuals are comfortable with it, there is nothing wrong with pleasing them in whatever way you so choose. Again, I'm not trying to correct you. You are entitled to your own opinion. That's just how I see it.

[Asker]

Yeah I can understand. If there are nonnegative feelings associated with it then it's fine.

[JustinTheGreat]

It's mostly pleasing the guy that's the most enjoyable

[Paultripp]

Giving pleasure... taking this guy who she couldn't physically control otherwise, and being able to control him with the tip of her tongue... it's a power thing on both sides when giving oral. Make ur partner have a crazy orgasm and see them being so happy. There is nothing degrading about it. Do you still want oral? Probably... get what you give

[AhGojira]

Well they enjoy pleasing their sexual partner and making them squirm. They like to get their partner off because it's part of the excitement. You on the other hand seem to see sex as a burden you do occasionally with guys and you think you are a victim that is being degraded because someone else feels good. Maybe you should sleep with women instead since you don't seem to like men.

[Asker]

That's not the case at all. But ok.

[AhGojira]

Not at all ok so lets quote you "I find them degrading"

[Asker]

I was referring to the part where you said I don't like men.

[AhGojira]

Well if you feel degraded by having sex with men you choose to have sex with then something is wrong with you. Feeling degraded come from feeling powerless, but when you're giving a blow job you're the one with all the control.

[Asker]

It's just my opinion on the matter. No need to get personally offended. It'll be ok.

[AhGojira]

Offended? How so? :s You're the one that's feeling degraded. I'm eating a sandwich and am feeling good.

[Asker]

Same, honestly. I'm pretty happy currently.

[jacquesvol]

-Submission
-Oral fixation
-Desire to please/keep a guy without risking a pregnancy

-Because all others do it or say they do it.

[badboy666]

I don't find it at all degrading when I go down on my girlfriend, nor does she find it so when she does to on me. What a peculiar concept that making someone you care about feel good is degrading.

Pleasing their partner. The sensuous feeling of a cock sliding in and out of their mouths.

[Jayded1]

Some people enjoying causing pleasure for the person they love? Frankly I can;t imagine NOT wanting to perform oral when I know how much it pleases a girlfriend.

[jjesica346]

It is degrading. I've known women to do this for guys they aren't even in a relationship with. I've always thought of these woman as attention seekers.

[ThatBritishLad]

Probably similar to how some people like being called names and junk, more of a psychological side to it.

[datgirl]

I feel ya.