Why do some guys skip foreplay and just go straight to sex?

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wingattebaby16 · Accepted Answer

Guys that skip foreplay (my current boyfriend is that way big time) are self absorbed, selfish, and only care about their own pleasure. To them, a girl is nothing more than a hole to masturbate themselves with.

This is the number one reason I stopped dating guys my own age a long time ago.

Older men are mature, and know foreplay is 100% important if me as a girl is going to enjoy sex with them AND KEEP dating them.

My boyfriend is 23 yo, im 22yo. He is into Xbox games and online games like WoW, etc.

Most the time I go over to see him, he makes me play Xbox with him. I like playing, but we only get to see each other like 2 days a week.

So I play a while, flirting with him the entire time. I have even stripped down to my bra and panties or even totally naked, and kiss him and even have giving him head, but he gets mad and tells me I am messing him up being in the Zone!

When I can finally get him to pause the game, his idea of foreplay is to make me give him head til he cums, or he will drag me to the bed, kiss me 5 or 6 times, then roll me on my tummy, pull my jeans down, and ride me hard and fast from behind. Soon as he is done, he rolls off, pulls his shorts back up, and is back on the Xbox.

I am left laying there having to ride my own hand AND 99% of the time, he is totally oblivious I still need to have an orgasm.

I am "between" older men and dating Joey is starting to get old... I work 6 days a week and just haven't had much time to go out by myself to look for a new, mature, older boyfriend...

The only thing keeping me sane, is my older friends with benefits finally apologized to me for majorly screwing up our friends with benefits time after the super bowl. We are back to having sex for just sex probably 5 or 6 days a week now.

Anyway, Guys reading this you really need to understand we girls need to have at least 1 or 2 good O's during foreplay for us to WANT you to have sex with us. Plus, for me at least, i like making a guy cum hard during foreplay, then spending more time in foreplay getting him hard again so when we do fuck, he can last more than a couple of seconds.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend seems to think that the way to turn me on is to immediately stick a hand between my legs. Like no, there are other places to tough or caress to get me going.
He cares about my pleasure, and almost always doesn't let himself cum until I have but somtimes its difficult when you haven't had proper foreplay.

ObviouslyBored · Accepted Answer

They have no concept of not being instantly ready for sex. All 3 of the partners I had needed to be taught how to do foreplay and what it is. Men can be very impatient. Be clear on foreplay being a requirement and not an option. If he gives you attitude leave him. I have had many a torn privates because he rushed it.

teawrecks · Accepted Answer

Just LOL at all the guys saying "why do women waste time with foreplay"

Because if we aren't aroused your dry ass dicks are gonna fucking hurt. And sorry, just staring at mr tiny winky pee isn't gonna get our juices flowing.

burlen · Accepted Answer

Some guy's think or assume the sexual excitement that rushes through them is identical to that of women. To an extent, guys can be forgiving for thinking that way.

It's like if a man slaps a woman, the man can relate with the pain because the sensation of slapping someone is identical whether you're a man or woman.

Unfortunately, guys cannot relate to the sexual need or deprivation of women in the same measure just as women cannot relate to the sexual excitement of guys in the same measure.

This problem is compounded by some men who do not have an intimate understanding of female sexuality, including pleasure, arousal, and orgasm.

Another reason for this unfortunate behaviour is the imbalance of power between men and women when it comes to sex. Women including assertive women tend to prefer the man should be the GPS.

By nature, every human has a dose of unconscious selfishness. The chances are the guy would inadvertently overlook what the woman really wants in bed.

Women need to sometimes reclaim the sexual GPS—hold the reign of sex—by leading the guy to what you want before the actual penile-vaginal sex. Do not let the guy to be fully in charge even though sexual submission could be a turn on for some women.

EpicDweeb · Accepted Answer

Many guys don't understand the importance of foreplay. Guys find penetration to be one of, if not the most pleasurable part of sex, so they want to get to it as quickly as possible. I think a lot of guys are also under the impression that climax usually happens through penetrative sex and don't know just how few women actually get off that way. When it comes to sex it can be assumed that, "if it feels good to me, it feels good to you." Obviously this is not always the case, but, like many misconceptions, it has been an idea that's stuck.

MrWolf · Answer

It's that animal part of us that goes wild. Some, most of the woman have this effect on us. Who says we don't enjoy foreplay! We enjoy in fact do enjoy it & love it.

Either we are drawn, like a lot or we don't have time for it. It's simple.
If it's a person who we wish to please we go with the foreplay!
Kind depends on the day or how we feel about it.
Or a random hit.
Still there are to many things to count for this!

Paris13 · Answer

Selfish, this is Why, no Lie. Welcome to Gag Town. Meet the Master Here, dear. xx

PlacentaSalad · Answer

Some of the girls I have slept with with have never been interested in foreplay unless it was myself who was doing all the work, i. e. "going down on them" either with my tongue or a finger or something. They wouldn't want to give a blowjob, not even 69, but expected me to orally service them. Why? If you're sitting on my face, the least you can do is turn around and suck me off as well.

I get that foreplay is important for many women and that it increases their arousal for penetration, but some guys are unsure if they're even going to get anything out of it themselves. Women could easily just pull away once they came to orgasm from cunnilingus, for example, and leave the guy with blue balls.

There's plenty of selfish women out there just as there are men. In the case of one night stands, it's much less about the other person and more about themselves. In a committed relationship, I don't know any guy who would skip out on foreplay unless it's just a "quickie."

Tdieseler · Answer

its better that way? you have to define foreplay though

1988fido · Answer

too horn and impatience.

:/ so that's why, we also don't need foreplay as long as girls but we do enjoy it, at least i do :D i dont mind to keep eating her till she orgasm before we even have sex hhh ;) then round 2 will be intercourse orgasm

bop82 · Answer

most men don't understand what foreplay is and what it can do to a woman especially the men who watch a lot of porn which is horrible

Hidden_P · Answer

Because foreplay is boring for a lot of men.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Because they are short-sighted idiots. Women need more arousal to orgasm, so they get lots of foreplay first. Then when we get to the featured attraction, she orgasms also. Then she thinks to herself, "Thank God you're not one of the selfish bastards," and she starts looking forward to our next time together.

madhatters4 · Answer

guys don't need to sort of warm up as much as women do. so many men may selfishly just want to jump into stuff. additionally foreplay may reduce the endurance a man will have once sex occurs so they may avoid it so they can last longer

Alej27 · Answer

From our perspective it is strange as it is a big turn on. It feels like they are selfish or have no experience with our feelings or what butting to press to turn us on. Hence the preference for more mature man. When I asked my guy friends I got the explanation that they are so turned on that they get impatient or can't hold on... Today not sure if it is that bad or more that I should take it as a compliment

ItsAMeWeirdo · Answer

What exactly is foreplay

godfatherfan · Answer

they are young males, of course they don't know what they are doing. And since they are not women, they don't know what women need. How do you expect them to know that stuff? we know what men need. Did you communicate with him your needs? Sex is a lot of trial and error and learning on the job. Until men get a lot more experienced, they don't know what women need. You need to communicate your needs and help him. Just like he can help you get better at blow jobs and such by communicating what he likes. Although guys are different and what one guy likes, another might not, just like women...

Gonetowardthewind · Answer

Wow your 19 and already having sex? That's better than I am doing right now🙃

PrincessPie · Answer

Impatient they want to get down to it lol.

UnknownXYZ · Answer

If you are guy who gets regular sex, you don't need to care so much about "satisfying" your sexual partner. They can afford to get away with it. Read this article... Although Cosmo are absolute twats, this story kind of summarises how much hot guys can get away with being assholes.

JimRSmith · Answer

Generally, because they're either ignorant, stupid or selfish.

nnapmas · Answer

A combination of being selfish and not knowing what exactly to do with our bodies aside from sticking their dick in a hole.

Blonde401 · Answer

Because they're shit in bed.

SovereignessofVamps · Answer

Either they're selfish or clueless.

Levin · Answer

Because they're totally inept lovers ruled by their cocks?

RedHood7 · Answer

Foreplay isn't that fun for most men, and we mostly do it for you. Men generally dont want to spend even more time just to make the woman get there and actually want to have sex. Plus, we dont usually need the foreplay, so we have to contain our urge to keep you satisfied...

pujan26 · Answer

don't know... actually I love foreplay for a long time.

beautifulangel76 · Answer

Some guys don't really pay attention to the woman's needs before their own. And some of us females don't really need much foreplay anyway.

HonestGirlAlways · Answer

They either don't care whether you're comfortable/enjoying it or are stupid as fuck. Also, why is the girl in the picture's panties so damn big?

glitterberryalisa · Answer

Because they don't know what the f*ck they are doing... girls aren't that hard to figure out but for some guys they just don't pay attention to minor details lol

mattmanyah · Answer

we tend to get excited off sight and the moment so we don't need a warm up... while women need feelings (emotional and physical) and the moment

TripleAce · Answer

Because unlike women a penis is ready to burst the second it goes in... A women needs this and that... complicated in personality and complicated down here too. How fitting

reptocarl · Answer

Because some are insensitive piss poor selfish lovers

rjroy3 · Answer

Because sometimes you just want to get it in and fuck her hard. But I think most guys still do foreplay. Just every so often you want to just get right to it.

Apope16 · Answer

Because they aren't patient enough to connect with you on a personal level. They can't control their impulses. These types of guys can't last long and cum early. I love foreplay, it my favorite part. Waiting to cum makes the orgasm more intense.

ubilockon · Answer

I honestly do it all the time... I get so excited to fuck.

TurnTable_Microphone · Answer

Because men have the need to pass their seed.

SamMatthew · Answer

because they are fools. They don't know you can make women crazy with foreplay and then you will see her crazy good side in bed.

JustinTheGreat · Answer

Probably cause they're too impatient and want to skip to the best part i think foreplay is really important though

tyber1 · Answer

Because they don't know how to have a good time, they just rush to the end.

PropagandaMinister · Answer

because guys are more flexible. we dont need foreplay for sex and if a guy has enough sex he can enjoy "foreplay" (heavy cuddling, kissing, oral...) and doesn't need sex after it.
we are able to have 15min sex so we doesn't want to always add 2 more hours of foreplay, because sex and "foreplay" is something different for us.

front2back · Answer

Because they don't know what they are doing.

CasaNorba · Answer

some women do this as well, my ex was a perfect example.

but I don't see why some guys would skip foreplay, I actually love foreplaying. its fun and it makes the actual sex even more amazing in the end. but to answer your question I think guys that do this are just desperate, they want to eat the dessert before the actual support I guess.

genericname85 · Answer

cause the pornos they watch go like this. they don´t know better. you have to teach them what you like best or else they just do what they like best.

Unit1 · Answer

Because that is exactly always what we want.

akadatank44 · Answer

Because sometimes a quickie is all I got time for.

catelyntje · Answer

Because he's a dick who only cares about him

Robin48 · Answer

That is what females do a lot. Their whole reason for dating is to meet their sexual needs. Then the male gets the blame for it. You males try of being boys around female? Are you ready to be real men?

soschris · Answer

Men are build differently and their sexual response usually is different (faster and more automatic) than women, especially young men. Although there is nothing wrong with foreplay, in strict biological terms most men dont need it to perform. Women do.
Having said that everyone has to take responsibility for what they want/need and explain it to their partner.
Explain it in a way that makes him feel like a better lover if he follows your advice, so there's something in it for him.

Bilo007 · Answer

Foreplay > intercourse

COCOCHANEL · Answer

they don't care

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

Because we want to fuck you and invade your body.

datgirl · Answer

I think its cause women need it more than men. Cause if they're not wet enough down their it will hurt.

chrisbigman · Answer

Because they are TOO impatient.

sp33d · Answer

Is there always time for it or do we live in a perfect world where we always have time for everything?

dolemite68 · Answer

cuz we don't need foreplay like women do, guys should still do it to get her ready tho

lord_chilled · Answer

Well, most guys dont need much of that to get hard and get going. And our lessons in porn taught us that foreplay is 2 minutes, if we dont skip it, then 5 min bj, 10 min doggy, 5 min cowgirl,5 min reverse cowgirl, bj, anal , and facial.
You wouldn't believe it, but a lot of young men, prior to having sex, think thats how it goes.. And even the ones who dont watch porn (pretty much an endangered species) dont know about prolongued foreplay...
Once you start having sex, you get the hang of it tough.. I really came to enjoy foreplay. And it does helo, if you love the girl you are with..

IAmCluelessToo · Answer

because hammering you is the best bit

clampfan101 · Answer

I would always want it first. More guys need to be patient and have super sexy fun to start the mood. I'm virgin, but am sure skipping it wouldn't been as good. I wouldn't want to just cum in her and be done. Sounds boring compared to starting slow before continuously advancing over time. Breast sucking looks like the most fun part.

zagor · Answer

Because they're horny and want to get off - now.

DirtyGuy · Answer

Because they are lazy dumb idiots. The best part of sex is making a woman so horny that she will do whatever you.

neoagent1 · Answer

Because we're guys. If we're hard that's enough for us.

Tomsta · Answer

Cos the guy is an arse and doens't understand that the girls needs warming up first

Bleepasaurus_RexEwww · Answer

Because they're idiots

gemgem · Answer

I love the foreplay, it's amazing to me anyone would skip it

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