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Sexual Health Why do some married men prefer porn over their wives?
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I have been married to my husband for almost 11 years. We have 2 kids. He is 37 and I am 33. We are very happy. He watches porn everyday, I don't know if he masturbates everytime. We both work but he just seems to have no time for me anymore. We use to have sex multiple times a week, now I'm lucky if I get it once a week. Somebody please help me understand. Thanks.
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3 45do you know what kind of porn that he watch?
He likes to watch black and Asian women. He says it's something he has always wanted to do. He likes watching anal. He loves watching girls give guys head. Bad thing is, I am more than willing to do all of that for him but i don't look like those girls so I'm at a loss here.
I have no idea why he would like porn over the real thing. I would suggest offering to watch porn with him and offer him a handjob while you two watch. That way, it is something you can do together. Good luck.
I have asked him numerous times. That is his "me" time as he calls it. He wants to do that alone. I have given him a blowjob while he watched porn. I have let him do whatever he wants to to me. I just don't understand what would make him just stop all of a sudden. I tease him, walk around the house almost naked, play with him, etc.
Oh wow. You sound like the perfect wife. Maybe try talking to him again and telling him that he is hurting you like this and you really want to be with him. You might want to call a marriage counselor. Good luck.
I am the only one in this marriage that is willing to seek help. My husband is not interested at all. Oh and thank you
I'm so sorry. I guess you are going to have to decide if the good outweighs the bad.
Its an addiction. They are stuck in fantasy world. Guys love how females look. Men are so more visual than women are. When we see what we like we get hooked.
Some guys use it to self medicate themselves.
Sometimes having sex with a women isn't any fun, try spicing things up
Well are you fat and ugly now?
No I'm not. I look the same as when we first got together. My hips, thighs, and tits are bigger now though.
he's got a porn addiction.
Porn doesn’t talk back or be a pain in the ass!
Have you talked to him about it? What happened? This seems like the result of poor communication
Oh I have talked my head off to him. He just got pissed off and wouldn't talk to me about anything. He just ignored me.
That's a bold statement in itself. Might be time to seek professional help
I wish that would happen. I am more than willing to go seek help for our marriage but he isn't interested at all.
If he's not willing, then the next steps become evidently clear
It’s addictive. Sometimes their libido gets tied to it. That’s called paraphilic.
He had high sex drive clearly
No I think having a high sex drive would make you want to fuck your wife instead of satisfying yourself. I have to beg for it sometimes because he is always tired. He has a piece of ass, pussy, and mouth on tap 24-7. So I don't see what the problem is.
Ooooh thought you might not be in the mood so he taken care of himself.
Ass pussy and mouth lucky guy should be playing with you in that case maybe it's bad habit he got in too. Or maybe next time he goes to do it go in and sit on his dick or suck it
Anything is worth a shot. Thanks
No problem any time
Easier.
May be he needs me time as substitute for realthing with other women. Monogamy is unnatural, so he compensates this way in his fantasy world. Sexless marriage is scary, i hope you can keep him interested somehow...
I don't understand that either. His excuse is that he is always tired and doesn't have the energy. He has the energy to masturbate and watch porn everyday but not fuck his wife? What am I missing? His words are "I'm not gonna live in a sexless marriage." This was right after my mom died and I lost my sex drive. He has said that to me numerous times. I'm just so frustrated. 2 months ago, 3 or 4 times a week. Now, I'm lucky if I get it once a week.
So you lost your sex drive, that made him addicted to masturbating and now you got it back but he enjoy the lazy selfpleassuring more. Well, you better act fast before it gets worse and you loose your drive forever. Seems like you need to seduce him every day or suggest to him if he doesn't want yo fuck you somebody else will.
We like sex and we like variety. Modern society does not allow us either. Too much pressure on wives too. Hope there are better outlets for men and women.
Maybe You should speak to him and tell him how you feel about it and what exactly you want and what can be done on both sides so that both are happy in this marriage.
Because Girls in porn are doing everything, because porn doesn't want to be pleased too, because you can watch porn Girls that Look exactly like you want it and the wife is Always the same person, becaus it's not awkward to watch what you like and some things are realy kinky and it's awkward to ask the wife for that, because porn doesn't get old, has no headage and Always want to be watched, because porn doesn't want you to last as long as possible, porn isn't Jealous, If something at a porn movie doesn't fit your expectations you can choose another one,...
Because porn actresses don't bitch like girlfriends/wives do. They don't say "oh, that's for exit only" when we wanna do them in their ass, or they don't say "oh, feet are gross" when we wanna satisfy our foot-fetish with them, or they don't say "oh, you're gross" if we wanna cum on their face... etc. etc.
I do all of that for him so I'm having a hard time seeing where the problem is.
set the parental controls on your computer
It's all on his phone. I don't go through his phone or anything but his ass can't listen to it without sound so that all i hear every morning.
Do you mean you want more sex?
Basically yes. 2 months ago we were having sex 3 or 4 times a week. Now all he says is he is tired and doesn't have the energy. He has the energy to watch porn and masturbate everyday but doesn't have the energy to fuck his wife? What's up with that?
Maybe you need to give him some break or let him miss sex with you, reason is if you push him to do sex with you maybe that is making him turn off but if you don't give your pussy to him that is definetly drives him crazy ☺️ don't give your pussy to him, let him crave for your pussy ☺️
the taste of the forbidden fruit
Have you asked him. Maybe he is bored of the sex. That’s along time with the same person. Maybe you need to watch together and go from there
I think lack odf intrest