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Sexual Health Why do some married men prefer porn over their wives?
Anonymous
I have been married to my husband for almost 11 years. We have 2 kids. He is 37 and I am 33. We are very happy. He watches porn everyday, I don't know if he masturbates everytime. We both work but he just seems to have no time for me anymore. We use to have sex multiple times a week, now I'm lucky if I get it once a week. Somebody please help me understand. Thanks.
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What Girls & Guys Said
3 45I don’t watch porn unless I’m going to masturbate but if I was married and they were always there for me for that I wouldn’t watch porn. I’m thinking he feels it’s too much like work to have sex and maybe it’s just boring. Maybe try initiating and taking charge in the bed
Porn can be a problem if it takes away from their partner. Guys like to masturbate, and they like porn. Do what my wife and I did- make a rule that y’all can only watch porn together.
That is a great idea. Thank you so much.
Because it's nice to have a bit of variety.
I understand that. He has an assortment. I'm willing to try and do anything but it doesn't seem like it's enough for him.
You can't simply say you'll do anything and have that be enough. Porn itself is a different experience, it's more private, there's no pressure, the visuals have a wide variety albeit a heavily dampened experience due to just looking at a screen. What if I want to see lesbian sex? You can't just make that happen on your own. What if I want to see a huge insertion but don't actually want you to do it because I know it destroys your body? What if I want to see some ridiculous time stop scenario? See? Porn has a lot of things *unique* to it. You'd have to offer something enticing to overpower it's uniqueness. Personally, I'd be invigorated by the promise of a threesome. I've had girls encourage me to get with other girls and it makes me want to get with the first girl more. Very hot.
I have been with another female in front of him. I have done some things people would look down on me for to be honest.
I mean, if you say you're happy and that he's busy then maybe that's just the extent of it and there's nothing to worry about.
This may sound harsh and don't take it the wrong way.
Married for 11 years with 2 kids, your husband sees you as a wife and the mother of his kids. He's probably not seeing you as attractive ( in a sexual sense) anymore. Some people by nature get too comfortable in relationships and the sparks go. So don't be the mom or wife around him , be the woman he dated.
* This goes for men too