Why do women think they should orgasm before the man?
CT_CDMaster
Why do they think they deserve to orgasm first? Why do women put their pleasure before the guys? Why do so many women believe the man should give her an orgasm or even multiple orgasms before he even has one?
Because after he comes it's over since he goes limp or becomes drained and too tired to give her hers. It's simple accounts, that's why a woman should have multiple dicks.
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CT_CD
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Only if she's a ho
DinaMYoda
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Does any woman think that? I don't think that.
Sure, I vastly prefer it if the guy actually bothers to think beyond his own pleasure... it's not very fun when he just whams it into you and doesn't care about how you feel... but I'm not a "me first" type of girl.
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victoriaxoxoXper 6
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IF ANYTHING it is for practical reasons because if he comes it is over but if I get there first we can always continue without even a pause.
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BOUNTYGUY9
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l love to please a girl always self control think of other things in your mind guys when making love dont think of sex think of a brick wall and you will last longer go on give it a go
michellebrown48Editor
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umm well this is rude. after a guy cums its all over because his dick isn't hard anymore. also can't guys only orgasm once? girls can multiple times no problem. dont u think there is a reason so many girls fake-orgasm lol you have noooo idea man. you must be very inexperienced. go out and LEARN something before coming here and making the only choice selfishness
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Fauzillic_Bolt
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He didn't make that the only choice. He made they don't care about the man's pleasure and I'm asexual as choices too.
michellebrown48
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@Fauzillic_Bolt not caring about the man is selfishness and being asexual isn't an opinion
Fauzillic_Bolt
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Choice D was I'm asexual so it was an option he listed.
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michellebrown48
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@Fauzillic_Bolt omg you're slow. being asexual is not a REASON. it is a LACK OF REASON. therefore the only choice that actually matters are the other choices. which are the same. SELFISHNESS.
Fauzillic_Bolt
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Yes but he named it as an option.
michellebrown48
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@Fauzillic_Bolt sigh
Fauzillic_Bolt
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Oh, okay.
BOUNTYGUY9
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l will never let you down honest
michellebrown48
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also that book was written by ian kerner. a man
EckyxXper 5
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Because when a guy cums, he's usually done. He rolls over and goes to sleep.
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SarahsSummerMaster
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You’ve got issues and must be a Virgin.
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CT_CD
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Why?
SarahsSummer
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Because if you had a clue about sexuality, the show is usually over after the man cums. Most guys can’t maintain an erection and continue to penetrate a girl after he’s finished. If he doesn’t help to give her an orgasm first, she’s going to have to do it herself or be left wanting. My guy always makes sure I O before him, sometimes multiply. Your poll choices are either ignorant or naive. I ether way, that’s why I’ll assume Virgin.
CT_CD
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Do you ever give your boyfriend multiple orgasms before you orgasm?
Cam Newton’s season is over. Brady’s is not. Brady>cam.
BOUNTYGUY9
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so true
mistixsInfluencer
+1 y
1) that book was written by a man
2) it's because many (not All) MEN are too Selfish to make sure the woman orgasms after they themselves do. sure they go flaccid but it is no excuse. fingers and tongue exist.
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GoodwifieGuru
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Not all of them take forever 😂
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Goodwifie
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Seriously it feels so good for the guy when his woman has an orgasm
GracefulCharm
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I can confirm this. It feels good, the only thing better is when it happens together at the same time.
i1T2datyYoda
+1 y
Getting her off orally is something I have done w/ 90% of lovers. I never know how long its going to take me to get back in the saddle, esp. if 1st was very intense. There is nothing more of a turn than watching (tasting, feeling hearing) a girl coming. It turns me on to the extent that I become a more ferocious lover.
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TheCunningLinguistExplorer
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Because for most men, his clumax is a given. A lot of men are selfish lovers. And usually after he has cum, her changes of getting one are nil.
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markscottMaster
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It's because once the man cums, they often don't get what they need.
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AlessusGuru
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I figure it's more a sort of insurance for her, so that both get off, instead of the man cumming and then not being interested in finishing her, since women more often than not are more complicated and thus take longer to cum.
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chris1984Xper 6
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i prefer to make a girl come first, then i can focus on cumming rather than lasting until she does. otherwise anything is fair game.
that book looks crap though.
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CrapuluxXper 6
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If she doesn't have multiples before you come, you're not doing your job properly. Besides, getting her off is at least half the fun.
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AlisonCrystalXper 4
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The survey didn't have opinion on both sides so that's why the majority chose "I'm asexual''
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BuckzorYoda
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You're looking too much into the title and assuming that it's sexist. It just appears that way to use due to not having any context. It's a book illustrating ways HOW a man can get a woman to orgasm, not that "She has to come first", it's a witty title and you're just assuming sexism. I don't think one or the other should orgasm first, I just think both should orgasm. women generally find it harder to orgasm, and it generally takes longer for them, coupled with the fact some guys don't give a fuck about their partner as long as they get off, women are generally left "orgasmless".
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DodgersGMMaster
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Granted, it's a really small sample size, but...
I've only been with one woman who was a selfish lover. And even then, she wasn't insistent that she orgasmed first (or even at all).
Other women I've been with (and again, pretty small sample) were concerned with my pleasure above their own. And of course, I placed their pleasure above my own as well, which lead to the best sex I've ever had.
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raspberry0416
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I don't think it matters if a woman is "selfish" or not in bed. If she lets you fuck her, you're going to cum. Not much else is required.
DodgersGM
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@raspberry0416 That may be true for some men, but I guarantee you there's a good percentage who require wayyyyy more than a warm body to get off.
MlleCake
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Dodgers is right also. Not every man just wants a warm hole to stick it in or whatever. Plenty of men have different ways they reach orgasm, and it's wonderful if both partners are flexible and caring enough to learn each other, without prejudice, and just experiment and play until they find the magic combination that makes them both delighted with the experience.
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raspberry0416
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@MlleCake I've never met such a man, and I've been with a lot of them. Usually if the guy can't perform or orgasm it's because he drank too much or is on anti-depressants or something. I think physically it's supposed to be easy for a man to cum. That's how they are designed.
DodgersGM
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@raspberry0416 Yes, there are cases where the dude is physically incapable. That's true. But that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about men who aren't interested in fucking someone if that person isn't into it, too. I mean, we're not robots. Even the most sexually promiscuous, emotionally detached men still want their sex partners to be enthusiastic; to be desirous; to be human. Outside of the physical pleasure we experience, the best part about sex is that someone else invites us into their most personal, most private space. They've chosen us; they want us. And that invitation is even more meaningful when you're sleeping with a woman, as she's got a hell of a lot more at stake than we men do. TLDR version: go find a dude who'll just lay there completely expressionless as you fuck him. Do you imagine that being a fulfilling -- or even exciting -- experience? Because it sounds boring as fuck to me, and I don't need boring sex.
raspberry0416
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Ok I see what you're saying, but that doesn't mean the woman is a selfish lover. It just means she's inhibited or not enjoying the experience. Men who want to have sex with women who don't like it are rapists, and I would hope that most men aren't rapists.
MlleCake
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@raspberry0416, I appreciate what you're saying. Most men can and do orgasm from vaginal intercourse, but not all of them. Different men like different things too.
DodgersGM
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@raspberry0416 "Ok I see what you're saying, but that doesn't mean the woman is a selfish lover. It just means she's inhibited or not enjoying the experience." It doesn't always boil down to these two choices. There are, in fact, selfish lovers who also happen to be women.
raspberry0416
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I just don't see why lying there and not responding is a selfish thing to do. If she is experiencing pleasure she will show it. But maybe you're right. I can't say since I don't have sex with women.
MlleCake
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@raspberry0416 It may or may not be selfish. It can be, if she's not taking any action to really improve the pleasure of her partner. But at the same time, if he didn't offer her pleasure with enough foreplay and the right kind of touching, I also don't see why she would be motivated to do more.
DodgersGM
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@raspberry0416 Unfortunately, there are plenty of selfish lovers who enjoy the sex without making an effort to please their partner. And of course, it's not just women either -- I'm definitely not claiming that at all. I'm well aware that men are the typical culprits.
PersonontheinternetXper 6
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Can someone explain why this is important?
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Anon-ymous1
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Because sex is important to the vast majority of people.
BOUNTYGUY9
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very
Personontheinternet
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@BOUNTYGUY9 I get that, it's just the orgasming first part. Like if you both orgasm on that night, then is it really important?
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BOUNTYGUY9
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its very nice if the two people orgasam together but you have to get the timing right wich is not easey l love to make the girl cum with lots of forplay l always like to please the girl always before my self what a turn on that is for the both of us lots of guys only use the girl for what they want as they dont know or dont care about what the girl likes girls have wants as well and needs just like us guys god l love girls l wish l had a girl with me right now to plese
Personontheinternet
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@BOUNTYGUY9 o ok
BOUNTYGUY9
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cool with that lol
Jaximus-LionGuru
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Deserve? What? Who ever finishes first, there is no deserve! If you finish first, finish her off second. If she finishes first she can finish you off second. You have sex, you ejaculate, if you just go with out finishing her off that's selfish, as selfish as she finishes off and let you and your hard on and go. Plus women/female orgasm is majestic and powerful in sex so i love to make my partner reach orgasm when and where ever she wants.
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GingerGuyMaster
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I've never really heard a woman say this, but what I have heard A LOT of women say is that for a lot of guys, once they orgasm, it's over and they are done! Like I'm sure if the guy continued to please her afterwards, she wouldn't care. But a lot of guys don't do this. They leave, go shower, whatever. They've orgasmed so it's over. I'm not like this, but a lot of guys are apparently.
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43 52Because after he comes it's over since he goes limp or becomes drained and too tired to give her hers. It's simple accounts, that's why a woman should have multiple dicks.
Only if she's a ho
Does any woman think that? I don't think that.
Sure, I vastly prefer it if the guy actually bothers to think beyond his own pleasure... it's not very fun when he just whams it into you and doesn't care about how you feel... but I'm not a "me first" type of girl.
IF ANYTHING it is for practical reasons because if he comes it is over but if I get there first we can always continue without even a pause.
l love to please a girl always self control think of other things in your mind guys when making love dont think of sex think of a brick wall and you will last longer go on give it a go
umm well this is rude. after a guy cums its all over because his dick isn't hard anymore. also can't guys only orgasm once? girls can multiple times no problem.
dont u think there is a reason so many girls fake-orgasm lol
you have noooo idea man. you must be very inexperienced. go out and LEARN something before coming here and making the only choice selfishness
He didn't make that the only choice. He made they don't care about the man's pleasure and I'm asexual as choices too.
@Fauzillic_Bolt not caring about the man is selfishness and being asexual isn't an opinion
Choice D was I'm asexual so it was an option he listed.
@Fauzillic_Bolt omg you're slow. being asexual is not a REASON. it is a LACK OF REASON. therefore the only choice that actually matters are the other choices. which are the same. SELFISHNESS.
Yes but he named it as an option.
@Fauzillic_Bolt sigh
Oh, okay.
l will never let you down honest
also that book was written by ian kerner. a man
Because when a guy cums, he's usually done. He rolls over and goes to sleep.
You’ve got issues and must be a Virgin.
Why?
Because if you had a clue about sexuality, the show is usually over after the man cums. Most guys can’t maintain an erection and continue to penetrate a girl after he’s finished. If he doesn’t help to give her an orgasm first, she’s going to have to do it herself or be left wanting. My guy always makes sure I O before him, sometimes multiply. Your poll choices are either ignorant or naive. I ether way, that’s why I’ll assume Virgin.
Do you ever give your boyfriend multiple orgasms before you orgasm?
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Cam Newton > Tom Brady
Cam Newton’s season is over. Brady’s is not. Brady>cam.
so true
1) that book was written by a man
2) it's because many (not All) MEN are too Selfish to make sure the woman orgasms after they themselves do. sure they go flaccid but it is no excuse. fingers and tongue exist.
Not all of them take forever 😂
Seriously it feels so good for the guy when his woman has an orgasm
I can confirm this. It feels good, the only thing better is when it happens together at the same time.
Getting her off orally is something I have done w/ 90% of lovers. I never know how long its going to take me to get back in the saddle, esp. if 1st was very intense. There is nothing more of a turn than watching (tasting, feeling hearing) a girl coming. It turns me on to the extent that I become a more ferocious lover.
Because for most men, his clumax is a given. A lot of men are selfish lovers. And usually after he has cum, her changes of getting one are nil.
It's because once the man cums, they often don't get what they need.
I figure it's more a sort of insurance for her, so that both get off, instead of the man cumming and then not being interested in finishing her, since women more often than not are more complicated and thus take longer to cum.
i prefer to make a girl come first, then i can focus on cumming rather than lasting until she does. otherwise anything is fair game.
that book looks crap though.
If she doesn't have multiples before you come, you're not doing your job properly. Besides, getting her off is at least half the fun.
The survey didn't have opinion on both sides so that's why the majority chose "I'm asexual''
You're looking too much into the title and assuming that it's sexist. It just appears that way to use due to not having any context. It's a book illustrating ways HOW a man can get a woman to orgasm, not that "She has to come first", it's a witty title and you're just assuming sexism.
I don't think one or the other should orgasm first, I just think both should orgasm. women generally find it harder to orgasm, and it generally takes longer for them, coupled with the fact some guys don't give a fuck about their partner as long as they get off, women are generally left "orgasmless".
Granted, it's a really small sample size, but...
I've only been with one woman who was a selfish lover. And even then, she wasn't insistent that she orgasmed first (or even at all).
Other women I've been with (and again, pretty small sample) were concerned with my pleasure above their own. And of course, I placed their pleasure above my own as well, which lead to the best sex I've ever had.
I don't think it matters if a woman is "selfish" or not in bed. If she lets you fuck her, you're going to cum. Not much else is required.
@raspberry0416 That may be true for some men, but I guarantee you there's a good percentage who require wayyyyy more than a warm body to get off.
Dodgers is right also. Not every man just wants a warm hole to stick it in or whatever. Plenty of men have different ways they reach orgasm, and it's wonderful if both partners are flexible and caring enough to learn each other, without prejudice, and just experiment and play until they find the magic combination that makes them both delighted with the experience.
@MlleCake I've never met such a man, and I've been with a lot of them. Usually if the guy can't perform or orgasm it's because he drank too much or is on anti-depressants or something. I think physically it's supposed to be easy for a man to cum. That's how they are designed.
@raspberry0416 Yes, there are cases where the dude is physically incapable. That's true. But that's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about men who aren't interested in fucking someone if that person isn't into it, too. I mean, we're not robots. Even the most sexually promiscuous, emotionally detached men still want their sex partners to be enthusiastic; to be desirous; to be human. Outside of the physical pleasure we experience, the best part about sex is that someone else invites us into their most personal, most private space. They've chosen us; they want us. And that invitation is even more meaningful when you're sleeping with a woman, as she's got a hell of a lot more at stake than we men do. TLDR version: go find a dude who'll just lay there completely expressionless as you fuck him. Do you imagine that being a fulfilling -- or even exciting -- experience? Because it sounds boring as fuck to me, and I don't need boring sex.
Ok I see what you're saying, but that doesn't mean the woman is a selfish lover. It just means she's inhibited or not enjoying the experience. Men who want to have sex with women who don't like it are rapists, and I would hope that most men aren't rapists.
@raspberry0416, I appreciate what you're saying. Most men can and do orgasm from vaginal intercourse, but not all of them. Different men like different things too.
@raspberry0416 "Ok I see what you're saying, but that doesn't mean the woman is a selfish lover. It just means she's inhibited or not enjoying the experience." It doesn't always boil down to these two choices. There are, in fact, selfish lovers who also happen to be women.
I just don't see why lying there and not responding is a selfish thing to do. If she is experiencing pleasure she will show it. But maybe you're right. I can't say since I don't have sex with women.
@raspberry0416 It may or may not be selfish. It can be, if she's not taking any action to really improve the pleasure of her partner. But at the same time, if he didn't offer her pleasure with enough foreplay and the right kind of touching, I also don't see why she would be motivated to do more.
@raspberry0416 Unfortunately, there are plenty of selfish lovers who enjoy the sex without making an effort to please their partner. And of course, it's not just women either -- I'm definitely not claiming that at all. I'm well aware that men are the typical culprits.
Can someone explain why this is important?
Because sex is important to the vast majority of people.
very
@BOUNTYGUY9 I get that, it's just the orgasming first part. Like if you both orgasm on that night, then is it really important?
its very nice if the two people orgasam together but you have to get the timing right wich is not easey l love to make the girl cum with lots of forplay l always like to please the girl always before my self what a turn on that is for the both of us lots of guys only use the girl for what they want as they dont know or dont care about what the girl likes girls have wants as well and needs just like us guys god l love girls l wish l had a girl with me right now to plese
@BOUNTYGUY9 o ok
cool with that lol
Deserve? What? Who ever finishes first, there is no deserve! If you finish first, finish her off second. If she finishes first she can finish you off second. You have sex, you ejaculate, if you just go with out finishing her off that's selfish, as selfish as she finishes off and let you and your hard on and go. Plus women/female orgasm is majestic and powerful in sex so i love to make my partner reach orgasm when and where ever she wants.
I've never really heard a woman say this, but what I have heard A LOT of women say is that for a lot of guys, once they orgasm, it's over and they are done! Like I'm sure if the guy continued to please her afterwards, she wouldn't care. But a lot of guys don't do this. They leave, go shower, whatever. They've orgasmed so it's over. I'm not like this, but a lot of guys are apparently.