Why does he always wanna nap after sex?

My partner always wants to nap after sex whereas I just wanna cuddle while watching a movie as part of our aftercare.

Sometimes I wanna go again but he is always saying he’s too tired for back to back rounds.
Do I maybe have a high sex drive compared to him? Or he just got post sex blues?
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  • Unfortunately active sex depletes the glycogen levels in the male's muscles causing drowsiness. It's a natural bodily function gor males to want to sleep after sex, give him a half hour snooze then stimulate his punishment and balls with your hand and gently wake him up both from sleep and wake up his secusl desire and he will be ready for another round.

    • * his dick not punishment

  • You maybe to much for him. You wear him out like its an exercise session. Bc of your high sex drive.

    Nothing wrong with cuddling. That's a form of resting after the fact.

    The post sex blues is way over thinking. Just enjoy the moment of the after glow.

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  • To be frank, the chemical experience following sex are significantly different for men and women. Women can often get ramped up (oxytocin is released, i. e. the bonding chemical) and want to engage in further intimacy, whereas men experience a drop in desire to be physically intimate.

    In a long term relationship the desire to go for multiple rounds is going to be diminished- there's no longer the hurry to get as many sex sessions in as possible knowing that the "pairing" is temporary.

    • So it’s best to not smother him after sex?

    • It's not about what's best according to his preferences, but you should adjust your expectations. If you want to cuddle for a few minutes because it makes you feel better I think that's perfectly acceptable, but to expect an "aftercare" session is a bit much. If you want to go multiple rounds then understand his timing (we have a refractory period where we literally cannot have sex) and plan it out rather than have it where you're just feeling it, and he's done done.

    • This is just not true. Even in long term relationships it's normal to go multiple rounds. This guy is just lazy and needs to step up his game to take care of his girl

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  • Simple: He's tired.

  • Don't let him nap. Wake him up for round 2

    • Wouldn’t that be selfish and inconsiderate?

    • It'd be selfish for him to be satisfied and leave you not satisfied

    • Sex and ejaculation is really physically taxing for males... you do realise that?

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  • Because you're 24 and probably make him do all the fucking work

    • I don’t let him do all the work

    • Good 👍 Most girls your age do

    • I enjoy riding too much to let him do all the work

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  • Lookup prolactin. Men release different levels after orgasm and the more released, the more tired they become immediately after

  • He has an adrenaline crash. Adrenaline is a drug like hormone and when it washes out, you get withdrawal. Why guys will have a cigarette or cup of coffee to get a lift.

  • One of the classic difference between guys and gals.

  • Fucking is a LOT of work for a guy! You girls have it easy!! You just lay there with your feet in the air!
    Next time you fuck him, YOU get on top and do ALL the work and see if you wanna go again.

  • It could be the things you mentioned or if he's doing all the work it could be that.

  • Sex is a lot more work for men than it is for women.

  • Quite literally we store energy in our cum. And to just get to the point of cuming takes energy, to orgasm takes energy. And to orgasm relaxes our entire body, we get sleepy because of all them things. And to make more cum takes energy. It's Biology

  • He is tried

    • So I’m probably just overthinking the whole thing?

    • Maybe but I'm not 100% sure sorry

  • I'm surprised by the amount of women that don't understand the male anatomy and or things like refractory period... I'm not saying this sarcastically just an observation. Especially people in their 20s and 30s. I learned this in health class. I wonder if curriculum has changed since I was a kid because of fear of what they're being taught now.

  • Don’t let him, tell him you want to go again

    • But it takes a lot of time and energy for a male to be ready for second round.

  • Tired maybe

  • It is a guy thing that is in his brain. He just ejected millions of sperm cells.

  • you wore the poor chap out

  • Most guys need a recharging time. I need at least 15 minutes before I can go again, but I prefer at least an hour

  • When a guy cums he feel tired like his energy is drained from him and you may like to go again but it's not as easy for a guy to get an erection again for at least 30 minutes

  • First, what the "f" is aftercare? Second, it's physical, the make body releases a hormone after orgasm that puts us to sleep. google this. Its' STRONG and trying to ruin this sleep makes us want to choke the shit out of you but we don't say anything because we don't want to turn off the pussy faucet. Trust me though, the hate is there and it builds. Give your man 20 minutes of naptime, and hell be much happier and loving and probably ready to go again. You can use this time as "me time" and then you and your man will be in perfect alignment. Trust me, 20 minutes and he'll be a new man

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