Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health My boyfriend and I have only been dating for 2 months. The last time and only time we’ve had sex was on Valentine’s Day (which is about a month ago from now). We fucked 3 times in a row, it was fucking amazing, the best sex I’ve had.
Now every time since then he doesn’t want to have sex with me. Side note: I have a high libido, very high, I could have sex everyday. I try and try to initiate sex with him but he keeps brushing it off saying “Not yet, I’m low in testosterone, but we’ll have sex soon”
But the thing is, is that he masturbates (not often but at least twice or once a week)
and honestly I never cared if my partners masturbated because I also masturbate. It’s just frustrating because when he masturbates then he doesn’t want to have sex. I just don’t understand why he rather masturbate then actually have sex with me.
There have been many times where we would make out and I was hint towards sex and he’s say no. And the moment I leave to go home. He masturbates.
i can’t help but feel like the problem is me. It makes me very insecure, like I’m not sexy enough. Or that I’m bad at sex. But I always ask him what I can do to improve and he’s says there is nothing for me to improve, and that I’m already good.
I don’t know how to feel about it anymore, I feel disappointed, sad, insecure, angry, and emptiness. I try to stay neutral and pretend like it doesn’t bother me, but it really does bother me.
I would really appreciate to get another mans insight on why my boyfriend would rather masturbate then have sex with me.
Why does my boyfriend not want to have sex with me?
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2 26You said it there yourself... you're not sexy enough... If you was he would wanna do you instead... Time to accept the hard reality
Probably, I’ve been insecure by the way that I look and how my body looks ever since I was 6 years old. but that’s just because my mind plays tricks on me. I feel as though In reality that i have to be a least a bit sexy, I have an OnlyFans and men compliment me left and right. So I don't know.
if u are actually sexy, and he's still acting this way, the only likely reason i could think of is that he thinks wanting or having sex with woman is disrespectful to them or something, and now he's trying to clean up his act of previously being a fuckboy/ horny dog... and now he's trying to be respectable by not fucking much
He probably found someone else.
I honestly don’t think so, and if he did I don’t see why he wouldn’t tell me. I love women too and I have no problem with him having sex or looking at other women. And he doesn’t mind if I have sex of look at other women.
You sound like you're in a position to make him an offer he can't refuse.
That was a line from a famous movie.
Lmao! That’s a good one. I mean yeah I’ve offered threesomes and we both want to do that. But we haven’t found anyone to join us. Plus he said that he would need his testosterone to be higher to be able to fuck two women at once. I don't know if he lying
I listen to a podcast by a swinger couple. They went to an anti-aging doc in California. I remember that testosterone was one of the tricks of the trade, but there were more tricks than that. I don't remember them, but now they are having lots of fun. The man is so funny, and he could be a stand up comedian. I'm divorced so I can tell you that being married is good until it's not good. I think being single is better, but it gets pretty lonely at times. I've had a long time to think, and I think that some kind of alternate solution would be better.
Sadly reminds me I was not sexually active this very young unfortunately and I assume the relationship started off just like how they normally do
Well, he is sexually active and has had sex with many women before me. He stated that he had sex almost everyday at some point. He told me all the wild things he’s done with other women.
Sounds like he got many girls in high school
He definitely did. Which I’m low key jealous of those girls, like damn he could fuck them but apparently not me. Sorry I get a bit salty thinking about it. :( lol
I get kind of salty as well as I'm sure tons of other guys do because lots of guys enter their 20s or later as virgins
As a man, it's difficult for me to sympathize.
It really doesn't make sense, new couples usually have a lot of sex before one gets bored. Maybe you just aren't compatible, but it's not you, it's him.
He is probably just a lousy lover.