Why is my friends with benefits pulling away from me?

[Anonymous]

I've been hooking up with my friends with benefits for almost a year. We became close friends and both admitted to having strong feelings for one another. He just graduated from college, and is moving back home to South America in 3 weeks. Everything was normal, but about a week ago he started acting distant, When he and our friends all go out, he doesn't ask me to hang out after and one night I was at his apartment, he didn't want to hook up or me to stay over. I don't understand why he wouldn't want to spend his last few weeks together after telling me how strongly he felt in April. Is he just trying to make things easier for him my distancing himself?

[HughR]

You figured this one out on your own. He was feeling attached to you and he's being awkward about breaking the ties before he has to leave.

I'm curious, though. Most of us guys, when we've been getting it regularly, aren't ready to let things just suddenly stop. What is he doing with all that pent-up sexual energy.

It's time for you to move on, anyway, unless you plan on moving to South America.

[no_bs]

Yeah, as he gets closer to his departure date, he wants it to be clear that he doesn't want anything more. It would be awkward if you fell for him at the last minute.

Let him know that everything's cool, that you don't want to continue the relationship after he goes, and that you should f*ck like rabbits before he leaves for good.

[katiesmuff]

I think you probably have solved your own question.

[islands7]

Yes

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finding replacements ASAP also helps mitigate such pains

[ThreeIn]

You already know the answer.

Yes, he's trying to minimize the damage.

[Anonymous]

He's now over you.