Would u be bothered if ur partner was watching tv while going down on u? Ladies and guys? And how much of oral is ur mind actually wondering?

[jgirl99]

So its happened a few times, and i haven't said anything at first cause i wanted to see if it was a recurring thing, but sometimes while my boyfriend is going down on me i can feel him turing his head and watching tv for a few seconds before turning back, so it makes me feel like im so boring im not enough to keep ur attention? And also makes me feel like something is wrong with me so he needs to Take a break from it, makes me wonder if he's actually bored enough to turn to the tv, what is he thinking when he's down there? "Ugh can't wait for this to be over"? when I'm giving him head, yea honestly if its been a while that I've been down there my mind might float to a song lyric or w. e bit never long enough to wanna watch t. v all I'm focused on is making my man cum and pleasing him, so i thought it would be the same. I don't know guys, please no rude or negative comments, they're not helpful to anyone...

[Makeushiver]

Yeah I would mind. Going down on a woman requires both of our complete attention. There is a certain rythym to a woman's arousal that can lead to a mind blowing orgasm if I'm completely in tune with what level of arousal & how close to her first orgasm. Esp? not I want to tease it out of her I want to hear any change in breathing, feel any change in hip or pelvic movement. Etc. Once she's ready to cum, she can answer all the questions on jeopardy and she will still cum but if rythym is lost it may be difficult to recover.
I suspect you're talking about role reversal though. I've heard guys talk about it about it & I think it's one, a good way to ruin a blow job and 2 call me corny but disrespectful

[jgirl99]

Yes it is disrespectful, especially since he initiates it, i never ask him to go down on me

[NamerOfStars]

Maybe a little TMI here, but my last girlfriend was an oral master- to the extent that we had to move to the bed because I kept falling out of my chair. While I learned to get her going pretty well, I knew I'd never match her (we had a form of competition between us); she just seemed to have a natural gift for it. Even then, if I'd looked over and seen her looking past me to the TV, or fiddling with her phone, or even checking her watch, it would've hurt.

I don't blame you for feeling that way; I would, too.

[ohshee]

Well if the tv is on put porn on for I don't watch tv so I wouldn't care if he watches anything it should be the change of color in your cheeks the way you breath or move your hips or even moan if he is focussed on you and only you then that means he wants to make it all about you for you

[TonyV]

I do t think I'd get bored, maybe frustrated that I can't get you there sooner, that with disappointment might make me just want to give up. How often dontounask him too? If its every night maybe I'd get bored. Do you ask him when he's already watching something? Like your pulling him away almost like a test to see if he cares enough to please you?, cause that could annoy me a little.

[jgirl99]

No i never ask, he just starts going diwn on me, he always initiates it

[TonyV]

Of he wants to start it then I dont know why he would act bored. Maybe he's not bored at all, maybe it is just such a casual thing to him that he just want to do it and watch tv. It is a tv tho right? he's not watching on a laptop is he?

[jgirl99]

Yea its a tv, we have in on in the background to block out any noise that might be made

[TonyV]

Oh ok, I was just a little worried he may be glancing at a camera or something, like he's recording without you knowing.

[jgirl99]

Oh yea no i definitely don't think that at all

[RxMc2401]

Is he making you feel good? Does his tongue make you feel so good your hips lift off the bed to feel him deeper? If so, then who cares what he’s watching.. If not, then give your tight little pussy to someone that wants to make it feel good

[ecfresh]

I would wonder what has her attention

[jgirl99]

I don't know, i guess my body is just too boring for him now

[ecfresh]

Does he get an erection with you?

[jgirl99]

Yea, but he only wants oral now, not really sex ever anymore

[ecfresh]

So your body isn’t boring if he gets an erection. But I would say it’s takes two to keep things new and adventurous in the bedroom. Men and women are stimulated by novelty, the new and exciting and pushing the limits. If the expectation is just a naked body will always be enough to stimulate that’s not enough. That body can be part of a new sexy story, playing sexy games, a striptease, dressing up, role play... countless ways to spice it up and not just rely on bjs to satisfy sexual needs. Obviously he’s gotta come with his own energy and ideas and romance to desire you and keep things edgy. It always comes back to communication. If it’s true that he just wants BJs and that’s it, something broke down in your communication between you two. Of course you feel unloved, you feel used, and you feel unmotivated to think sexually and bring that sexual energy right now. Tell him and get on the same page because it’s not like this will fix itself.

[jgirl99]

Yea i get that, but we already try a lot of new things, i cuff him sometimes, blindfold, flavored lube, lingerie, teasing, i wake Jim up sometimes with a bj, suggest new positions.. I don't know what else i can do honestly

[jgirl99]

Him*

[ecfresh]

That’s all good stuff. What all does he do for you?

[jgirl99]

He restrains me sometimes,

[ecfresh]

Somethings off here, you listed like 7 things and all he does is restrain you? He should be seducing you, craving your body in the middle of the day, sending you naughty messages, suggesting new places to make out, reading up on new positions to try... he should be applying more effort. When you ask, why doesn’t he?

[jgirl99]

I don't know, i haven't really brought it up or thought much of it tbh

[ecfresh]

That’s why I said it comes back to communication. If you don’t ask for it, he’s not a mind reader. For all he knows, he is being romantic enough and you are satisfied.

[jgirl99]

Ik, i just brought it up to him and now were kind of in a fight, I don't know maybe i went about it the wrong way

[ecfresh]

Maybe. You can reassure him by telling him how much he means to you can how much pleasure he makes you feel.. that you want to have fun with him and are only looking to get even better sexually. You aren’t trying to criticize

[jgirl99]

Yes i wrote him a letter saying that and more detailed how why what happened triggered me so. much. i said i think he's reacting this way cause je tjinks he's the reason i don't orgasm much, but its not him at all I'm just new to all this stuff

[ecfresh]

A letter a good start. Hopefully he can talk about it and feel confident and help you learn this new stuff

[jgirl99]

I hope so. Back to not hearing from him tho

[DrippingHoney]

I would feel horrible

[jgirl99]

Thank you, i did. I cried when he left the room

[scooogy]

@jgirl99 You truly deserve better

[banana75]

yeah... somewhat. transfer sex to the bedroom... or your bedroom also have a tv? LOL

what i love though is my partner goes down on me as i am watching tv or on my computer typing stuff.

[jgirl99]

Yea in his room cause he had roomates

[banana75]

maybe that's why? he is not fully into it cause he has roomate?

[jgirl99]

No thats not it trust me lol, i just think he's bored cause he always gets to cum first, then he has no interest anymore. Thats why women are supposed to cum first cause guys always get bored with sex after they cum

[banana75]

what about try going down on him again after he cums to get him excited again?

[jgirl99]

He usually cums a few times when I'm down there, I'm pretty good at it, by the time he stops me he's got nothing left and is having 'dry orgasms'. He wants oral more than anything else, we having been having much intercourse cause he always wants oral

[jgirl99]

Like i go there for 4 days, he wants oral a lot so we only had p in v sex once out of 4 days

[banana75]

wow... your boyfriend is a lucky guy. all guys like bj. Yup... you must be pretty damn good for him to ONLY like bj. try giving a 1/2 ass blowjob.. LOL

[jgirl99]

Maybe i will

[DiversityHire]

While my mind is never on what I'm doing when performing oral, as it helps me ignore the jaw pain, watching fucking television would be insulting. It's like he is implying that going down on you is a chore, as opposed to a treat.

[jgirl99]

Right, I'd rather he not do it at all

[DiversityHire]

I'm sorry, that's really shitty of him.

[jgirl99]

Thanks, I'm just not gonna let him go down on me anymore

[DiversityHire]

I wouldn't be spending much time with his dick in my mouth either, if I were you. Not until you two had a major talk.

[jgirl99]

Yea thats true, i won't be honestly. I brought it up to him yesterday, he said its cause his adhd and he feels weird using toys on me cause he's never done that before so he got bored cause he felt awkward but either way its not okay, and its hurtful. So definitely have to talk to him in person about it. I just wish hed communicate better. Makes me feel like. I'm not enough

[DiversityHire]

Like a white girl discovering Starbucks is out of Pumpkin Spice, I can't even... He felt bored and awkward? That's the best excuse he could manage? 🤬

[jgirl99]

Ikr, thats how i feel, not rlly a valid excuse

[DiversityHire]

I know it's cliche, but you deserve better.

[jgirl99]

Thank you

[Wise4myage]

If a girl was doing that to me, it would be a total turn off. Because it would make me feel she was more interested in what's on TV than pleasing me.

[jgirl99]

Yes exactly how i felt, it hurts my feelings

[Wise4myage]

Sorry to hear that, he obviously doesn't appreciate you.

[jgirl99]

Thanks

[Wise4myage]

Anytime sweetie, I hope you stopped tolerating his behavior.

[jgirl99]

Well i just brought it up yesterday, i told him that I don't know if i want him to keep performing on me anymore cause of it

[Wise4myage]

Tell him from now on, the tv must be turned off or you won't give him head anymore.

[jgirl99]

I'm just not gonna let him go down on me anymore, i like it but its not worth crying after sex

[Wise4myage]

Sounds good.😊

[crmoore]

I'd feel the same way.

[COMMODOREII]

It sounds like he is watching tv while eating his meal. 😂

[Juxtapose]

Who cares? I'd comment on the show whenever I saw her looking and not really care.

If it annoyed me, I'd just turn it to a channel she hated. Boom.

[Twalli]

I just pause whatever we're watching

[GreenGold1992]

Nah, never hurts to multi-task lol

[bklynbadboy1]

Have you talked to him about it? If I was you I'd turn the tv off.

[jgirl99]

I have talked to him after it happened a few times he said its just his adhd, but i have it too and i dont do that, and the tv kinda needs to be on cause he has roommates

[bklynbadboy1]

How long has this been going on

[jgirl99]

Like almost every time if not every other time except for the first time i let him do it

[bklynbadboy1]

Okay cool I understand

[jgirl99]

Yea so I don't know if I'm gonna let him anymore

[bklynbadboy1]

In box me I want to ask you something

[jgirl99]

I did

[Jerre]

If I go down on a girl, she has 100% of my attention. I want her to cum. The same if she is giving me a BJ. I want 100% of her attention on my cock.

[CharlieDMX]

Most people have already answered. But before cutting him off, have you tried doing it with the TV turned off? That way you can try to see if he is really distracted and confirm your suspicion

[jgirl99]

We can try. But tv helps block out the noise that we might make

[jgirl99]

And its not meant t to be a punishment or anything, i just dont know if I'm comfortable being that exposed to him now, he's reopened a few of my insecurities and fears about sex, now i can't stop thinking, 'he's not attracted to me anymore' it is what it is

[CharlieDMX]

If you have a speaker maybe you could put music on your phone to that effect

[jgirl99]

Yea thats a good idea, I don't know maybe. He had to kind of earn that back now

[jgirl99]

He says how much he loves giving oral, hut he dorsnt seem that into it with me. Maybe its me, my body. I don't know

[scooogy]

Had he placed a mini tv between your legs? 🤣

Sadly I can't relate here, as my coffee machine takes longer to make something come out than I used to do when going down on a girl, like 2-3 minutes.

[Tonythecreator]

Just turn the tv off

[gandolph3]

depending on the position, I like to look at her face when I have mine in her pussy

[fett253]

I don't know why they do that, but I'm fully engaged, it's too much fun in pleasuring.