Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health This guy I’m seeing is really nice and seems really attracted to me but sometimes I feel like he wants me to lose weight. For instance when we were cuddling and I was sitting on his lap he asked me if he could carry me as if he wasn’t sure if he could carry my weight. When I mentioned that I was tired all the time he suggested we should walk more and talk less and take a look at my diet. I feel like he wants me to lose weight but he still wants to sleep with me every time we meet and calls me sexy and cute. When i asked him if he considered me too fat he seemed a bit flabbergasted and didn’t understand the question and said that everything was fine but I don’t really believe him. Would he really be so into me if he considered me too chubby?
Guys, Would you call a girl sexy if you found her too fat?
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(3)Honestly. I am being dead serious here; this is the honest truth. At 20 years old, if she was fat... I had no interest in here. But at some point, in time, it becomes less and less about that. If I am putting in the time and making all the right efforts, and the chemistry is right. Then trust that. Thats all you can really do.
If you are insecure about your weight then that is a you problem, and you best course of action is not to put it on him. But again, I will be completely honest, here. Because he has made dieting and exercise comments...
I am 47 years old. I am very fit and active for my age. I have date some very sexy and attractive women, that one might say are chubby. But they are very cute and sexy to me. With that said, I know she is not going to get any younger, and in as the years go by if she not taking herself now, how will be in 5 to 10 years?
So, there might be a little bit of that at play. So, you can be insulted about it, or you can ask yourself honestly. Are you doing the best things as far as diet and exercise today, that will allow you to life a healthy and balanced lifestyle later. Because by all accounts he things you are great right now. But there might be some future concerns.
But why would he assume that I’m not taking care of myself if he doesn’t find me at least a little bit too fat? It’s not like I’m short of breath or walk slowly
What is your Impression? Does it really seem to you like he wants me to lose weight?
I cannot answer that question, because I do not know. But I will say this. At this pion this is something that is bothering you, so if he is truly the guy for you... then you need to be honest with him and ask him directly. If he does not give you straight answer... then yeah, he thinks you are overweight. BUT.! If you ask him then you have to accept the answer and not punish him for it. But if it is really bothering you, then you have to find the courage to ask him or over time it fester inside of you, and you cannot blame him for that either.
I asked him but he claims everything is fine
He always beats around the bush or denies everything completely.
Then you need to accept his answer... if you asked and he answered then you need to accept that or move on. Next time you think he is beating round bush then ask him what he means by that?
Probably not.
Of course not