Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Guys, would you feel this way about a vibrator?
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I proposed getting a vibrator to my boyfriend so that I could enjoy sex as much as he does, but he said the idea makes him feel weird. He says that he's had sex with a girlfriend who used toys and it didn't feel right to him because it felt like the toy was doing all the work; that he was just an extra part to it that wasn't necessary. He would rather me be able to cum with just him, but it hasn't happened in the year we've been together. He said he would read some articles on how to give me more in bed and practice foreplay more (which so far he hasn't made much of an improvement, but he is taking a little more time with me than he used to. Baby steps!), which I'm glad for, but the way he rubs my clit feels so uncomfortable that I have to tell him to stop or push his hand away. I feel gross touching myself when we're getting intimate too, so I told him that we should try the vibrator if things don't improve within the next month or so. The one I'm looking at is only $8 and the size and shape of a lipstick tube. So guys, if your girlfriend said she wanted to get a vibrator or some other toy for the same reasons I gave, would you feel the same way or different?
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What Guys Said
(20)Ask him if he feels like less of a man because he uses a hammer to drive nails into a 2x4 instead of punching them with his bare fists.
He can either be an insecure pussy, or take control of the toy and use it as an extension of himself to get you off.
Lol I'm not too sure on the hammer analogy but I could try to convince him on the extension of himself part. He's open to other perspectives.
You could always tell him how it feels and guide him to make it feel better. It will probably take a bit of exploration.
Exploration how? Like spelunking? I know my little bean pretty well but I suppose not the rest of it.
Then show him what you like. He needs guidance.
Yeah I need to get over my shyness with that... And also be more assertive. He likes to jump right in most of the time regardless of whether I'm aroused or not. Which is something else I need to talk to him about.
I've got too much pride. It would make me feel like less of a man honestly
That's what I fear he would feel too. But I also don't want sex to feel like so much of a chore anymore.
And that's entirely on him. He can't have pride in his game if his game isn't worthy of it. I'd feel enough shame to fix the problem at least.
I think he feels a bit ashamed, which is why he said he would work on it. We've only had sex once since I talked to him about it and it was because we hadn't had sex for a while and I knew that was bad for the relationship. It was a quicky for that reason (plus we heard my mom walking around upstairs, which is always disconcerting), but we'll see if he does anything different next time. Part of me thinks he's capable of doing cool things to me; it's just that he rushes into it too quickly.
As long as it's not going in me I really don't care
He sounds like a pussy. If he isn't getting the job done, then he shouldn't be afraid of something that will help. He should understand that if he can't do it, you will most likely find someone else.
He's worried about that before, and I think he still worries about it. Honestly, I've thought about what I would say on a date after him and I would say that the reason we hypothetically broke up is because of sex. I still love him though and I'm not at a point where I want to leave him... But I can't just call him a pussy to convince him to use a vibe lol.
I was being a bit harsh. You shouldn't call him that. I'm just saying he should man up, swallow his pride, and do whatever he needs to get you off, or you will eventually find someone who can.
I would be game. I had a girlfriend in the oast that had a cpl. One was huge ! I totally got horny using that in her. She would usally push it in then even go in deeper then I was with it. Amazed how she took this thing. I was much bigger then my fist. I said that once and she said I could use my fist.
That was the first time I did that.
I guess she's the one that got me turned on stretching pussy so much. She loved it. So did I. She could really stretch that pussy i tell you.
Amazing.
I miss her pussy some times. Often I think about her big pussy. And she was a tiny girl too.
Do yes ! Get your boyfriend into playing with a vibrator with you. Maybe go bigger and bigger. See if he starts to like pussy stretching. Amazing
Ahh, I'm pretty sure he enjoys my pussy being tight as it is 😅 Thanks for the feedback though.
Hell no! I am all for it! If your happy, then he should be happy! But to me, it's all about your pleasure in the 1st place! I would love for you to use a toy while I was having sex with you! That's fine with me! :-)
Haha thanks, I'll keep that in mind for if we ever hook up.
I'm open to including toys, but would be disappointed to be reliant on them.
Do you reach orgasm when masturbating?
Yeah, I reach orgasm through masturbation.