Would you have sex with an ex?

[goldielocks2]

Someone you once deeply loved, but you broke up for whatever reason. Does the attraction ever go away? Will you always want to make love to them even when you're with someone new? I'm talking pure sex and attraction here, not getting back together.

[Anonymous]

It's funny you asked this...
My ex wants me to have sex with him right now.

I'm torn, because I haven't had sex in a year and he did have some hot sex. But at the same time, I don't want to be hurt or feel used, and I have a feeling that if I gave him what he wanted, then that's all he's see me as- an easy lay (which I'm not.)
So, in short, no.

And by the way, I would leave the guy who's still hung up on their ex alone. Cause it sucks to feel like you're competing for love and attention from a guy, period.

[HGStebbins]

Don't open that door. If you're on the fence it's better to just stay behind that fence.

[goldielocks2]

yeah, I have left him. that doesn't stop my love for him though. I guess I was partly asking for myself too, like I don't always want to feel attracted to him, I want to be with someone else and be fully theirs. And I don't think you should have sex with your ex either. You'll just get emotionally attached and end up hurt. It's not worth it, just leave the past where it belongs.

[HGStebbins]

The feelings are going to remain there until you find a way to move on or find someone else. Even then, you still may have thoughts. That being said, you're flirting with Pandora's box.

[Opinion Owner]

I think you made the right decision- you shouldn't have to worry about the ex, if he really did love you. And see, I still am attached. It's been a year. But I think it's only cause he's the father of my child. Everyone else that I have dated, it was easy to move on from. But yeah, it will just complicate shit even more.

[HGStebbins]

You add a child into the equation and you're moving from Algebra to String Theory. It just messes with all the variables.

[goldielocks2]

oh no :( I can understand that completely. Whenever you think of giving in though, think about how he will treat you after he gets what he wants. You're a challenge and he's going to keep pursuing you until you give him what he wants, but you shouldn't. If there's no future potential for you two, I would leave it be.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, I'm determined to not get seriously involved with him emotionally or sexually until I am exclusive. (Which may be never, but I'm at that point where I just accepted that.) I have not acted out on anything thus far.

[tinyclit]

You're with someone new and you're thinking of cheating with your ex? I think that's probably a bad idea.

[goldielocks2]

I never said that. And that isn't the case. I'm actually in love with someone who is still hung up on his ex. that's the reason for my question.

[tinyclit]

It depends on just how hung up on her he is. It's possible to love more than one person at a time and he'll probably always love her even if he loves you. But if he's still sexually involved with her, that's probably a bad sign.

[canderson23445]

A real ex. Not just a moment in time girlfriend. But a true loved one, especially your first. Always. In my single life they can come back whenever they want, and no matter how much I dislike them for whatever they ever did to me, if they want to have sex, they can get it from me even if I'm in denial. Everytime. They can seduce me like wild fire. When I'm with someone new, I may not act on that desire or think or acknowledge it, because that's messed up to your partner. But the truth will always be the trut

[goldielocks2]

this breaks my heart in a way you can't even understand. :/

[canderson23445]

Your with a partner and he loved his ex or something? Or am I just an ass for admitting what everyone else won't? True love never dies.

[goldielocks2]

you are not an ass! I liked your answer, but you got it right, I love someone who feels the same way as you. He's over his ex but I think where there was once love, there will always be love. It's just sad, he's my first love, she's his first love. That's what breaks my heart. Thanks for your honesty.

[canderson23445]

Personally, my First and I were together from middle school to college. We had a kid turning 19. I'm not even 21 yet and we aren't together anymore. She now gives me a life of hell trying to take my kid from me everyday of my life. I can't say I hate her because that term is way to strong, but I hate what she is doing to me. For some reason though I still have a sexual desire for her and it's like a double negative, when my hormones are gone I dislike her again. I know it's pretty weird, but I think it's because I'm not sexually active and have no one to fall onto. If I was in a relationship or had a partner, her love and sexual desires for me would triumph over my dumb sexual desire for my ex. My next love would be greater than my ex love. The fact my ex could have sex with me is purely sexual and not loving. If I was your boyfriend I choose you over her anyway. You would be on a higher pedistal. You would receive all of my heart. I'm sure you boyfriend feels the same. Don't be hurt.

[goldielocks2]

oh wow, that's quite the story. You're young though, I'm sure you will both figure it out eventually. The child should always be kept away from any drama you two have going on, but wow, you have my sympathy.

[ScorpioMoonChick]

Boy can I relate! I dated mine throughout high school and had a child with him too. Sorry man.

[AustinMan]

No because I'm a guy who has a really hard time letting go. I'm not a stalker. It's just incredibly painful and once I'm past her, we shouldn't have sex because of the risk of rekindling those feelings. That said, if she came to me wanting to be strictly disciplined, I might well be up (so to speak) for that.

[Keiran1995]

No it doesn't go away not really

[canadachic]

No, sex with an ex is opening up a can of worms.

[SarahsSummer]

Guilty.

[NJ_Casanova]

I would with my Ex.

[Offthelist]

Never been in the situation.. Honestly dont know.

[Cjanes]

Nope, if I break it off its most likely the sex was meh anyway. For me sex is 50% of the relationship

[JoeCensored]

You can always have sex with an ex again. I've done it several times years later just to prove the point to a friend who didn't believe me.

[RaggaMon]

Nah, after a while of being broken up I start to find them repulsive and don't wanna be in the same room as them.

[Joc4Position]

Nah. I don't think so.

[AidenBlue]

I have. Was fighting with current girlfriend. My ex still wanted me and our sex life was hot and freaky. I saw her and we just had the hardest most passionate sex ever. It was crazy hot. Later that day I patched up with my current girlfriend. I didn't want to be with the ex for well known reasons but the sex was hard to resist.

Maybe not my best decision but the memory of that epic animalistic lay will be with me for a lifetime. Hot just thinking about it.

[DiogoRibeiro]

It definitely goes away, after a while.

I think getting involved with an ex is always a bad idea!

[_Steven_]

Umm I don't know about that, sounds a bit weird to me. (But thats just my opinion)...
Lol but the question is catchy though!!😃

[Casstiel]

Sex is a complicated situation. You should live sex with your next not your ex. Its about the love. I don't like robotic sex I'm not an animal I have feelings.

[slimstiffy]

Sure. Why not. Tap that ass one more time. Sounds like fun

[daremetwo]

If I'm not getting back together sex with him is out of the question

[TheWorldEndsWithYou]

No I wouldn't lol

[abc--123]

Yes I would

[Anonymous]

I don't see why not. Sure, I'm still attracted to her and I sure would get horny if she was in the mood too.

[Anonymous]

If there's still feelings involved, even by just one of the people, it'll just complicate things in my opinion.