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Are blowjobs necessary in the relationship?
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Would you guys seriously not pursue a relationship with a girl you were interested in, if you knew she does not do blowjobs: non-negotiable? It doesn't matter why. If you pull out the unfair card, for example: why should I do oral on her, if she does not reciprocate? Then my answer is - I don't even care for oral that much. I don't mind living without it. All in all, are you telling me that you would be unsatisfied with only having sex, and no blowjobs?
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Honestly, I think the openness of sex in today's society has made most girls willing to do things they wouldn't have otherwise (I'm not just referring to bjs), while it has made guys expect a hell of a lot more than they are entitled to.
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Sex is not a relationship, and it is not love. Anyone who would break off a relationship because of sexual reasons, when they care about a person, is obviously not a worthy partner.
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Also, girls who vote can do so obviously, but I'm pretty much disregarding your votes, based on the fact that... you have no d***s.
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I appreciate all the comments and votes, whether I agreed with them or not. I don't expect people to say what I want to hear. I have given some up-ratings, but not a single down. Everyone is entitled to their opinion.
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I've more or less got what I wanted from this question. if anything, most of you have reinforced my views. Either way, people can keep commenting/voting if they like, but I'd rather stop getting notifications now. They're annoying. Thanks again.
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All I hear is blah blah blah blah. If I keep receiving notifications which I no longer care about, I will simply request for the deletion of this question, and you can all lose your points. Thanks.
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What Girls & Guys Said
17 55Necessary? No. But they are a helluva lot of fun.
I think, for most cases, when you find someone you really want to be with, your willing to engage in almost any sexual activity. Not everything of course, but oral sex is one of the most personal and intimate. It's only a sign of "degrading" or "callous" nature if your looking for a reason for it to be so. Or if you simply make it so.
It would be a turn-off for guys if their girlfriend doesn't give them bj's and they like it. Just like how girls have a lot of emotional needs in relationships, guys have physical needs. I wouldn't break up with a girl, but then I wouldn't be as into a relationship sexually if you didn't do it. And there's always a chance that he will meet some girl out there who's very sexually compatible to him and he might be unfaithful, even if he never intended to do so or didn't wish it.
Would you mind if he got it from someone else? A relationship with someone else who strictly gives bj's to him because you wont, like an escort. If a guy had bj's in previous relationships or escapades, its kind of hard to get into a relationship without it.
alright, but that's not what relationships are about?
What the fuck is this dude talking about
would you give up oral? :P
I don't even WANT oral lol
For real now? :O
me and my girlfriend are working out fine and she never ever gives me a bj and I don't ask I give her oral because I love o do it and I know she loves it also. just because she doesn't feel comfortible doing somthing why would anyone leave them or not want to continue the relationship.
personally I don't find bjs necessary, they are fun. no big deal if you don't want to do it.. don't do it
but why the need to bitch out at men for wanting bjs.
If your girlfriend isn't sucking your d***.. get another gf.. if your boyfriend doesn't believe in oral and won't eat you gooch, there are plenty of other willing dudes!
This is just to express my opinion..
turn off the f***ing email notifications if you don't want to see it!
Im answering this question for anyone ELSE who may also wonder the same thing as your originally posted question.. why> its a good question.
doesn't make you the lord of this question just because you have been satisfied with an answer.
grow the f*** up and l2 disable email notifications (l2 = learn to)
or better yet!... UHH stop responding to them!? duh!
You have a vagina so you don't have to suck d***...thats why its there...
A blowjob is a requirement in the book of love. lol jk.
I couldn't really care, Just as long as your doing things hint hint that your not leaving the guy to hang. It doesn't have to be oral just as long as you both enjoy it.
I don't want my girlfriend to do some thing she doesn't want to do and I expect the same.
Thank you. I appreciate your answer.
Cool
Oh just give him a blow job. Go on.
Ask him to give it a good wash first and eat no cheese for a week and then just do it.
DO IT!
Love,
Pedro
I'm going to be very honest with you. Every guy on the planet (straight, gay, bi, whatever) NEEDS oral sex. This is non-negotiable.
I know this may seem like a generalization but trust me on this: any guy who tells you he doesn't need bjs is lying to you or is settling or is afraid of being alone or cannot get it up anymore...
I don't trust you on that because you don't represent every guy, and I've met such guys before. You don't believe it because you cannot fathom it. There are many different kinds of people.
Fair enough. Okay, let me say that 90% of males need bjs...if you're not gonna give it, they'll find it one way or another to get it....I've had this conversation with my male friends and some even go as far as to say that they'd choose bjs over intercourse if they had to choose...the passion for bjs cannot be rubbed out of most men....it just cannot be nor should it be...but, I guess there are guys who don't need it...well, to each his own!
I would and I think a lot of would guys. although a lot of definitely will not guys will not
As guy I would not care if my girlfriend did not performed oral sex on me and I did on her, as long as she is comfortable and happy that is all I care about
Sounds like she wouldn't be very fun sexually, I'd have to pass.
I didn't expect this to be a deal breaker to so many guys. Its not a deal breaker for me though.
I Could Easily Live Without Them.
They Are Nice, But A Warm Wet Pussy Is Better ;-)
And Sure, I'd Still Go Down On A Girl, If It Makes Her Feel Good About Herself.
yes, absolutely she gets dropped immediately. I don't care if she won't let me come in her mouth, but she needs to be willing to give it a good sucking.
Regarding your update, "... made guys expect a hell of a lot more than they are entitled to...":
Speaking only for myself, I don't expect anything. I don't believe that I'm entitled to anything.
But I know from experience that there are plenty of girls in the world who have needs, wants and desires that are compatible with mine. All other factors being held equal, there's a much better chance for a happy relationship if that compatibility can be established before two people have invested months or years on something that's doomed to fail.
My willingness to give oral has never been dependent on reciprocation.
My willingness to stay in a relationship... That's a different story.
not neccessary imo
I don't know any guy who doesn't like having that done to him but like if I loved her and stuff, why should that matter? I like this girl and she is a virgin and thinks that it is really gross and degrading but I think that it is sexy that she has that self respect. It wouldn't stop me from going down on her though.
As a clearly very biased answerer, I really like and appreciate your answer. I realize a lot of people feel that you should be comfortable to do anything with a person you love and trust, and that's fine. But it also needs to be realized that not everyone is like that. Love and trust should not be measured by how open you are to varying sexual activities. I am willing to respect the views and comfort zones of my partner as long as he is willing to do the same. It's about loving the person.