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Are blowjobs necessary in the relationship?
Anonymous
Would you guys seriously not pursue a relationship with a girl you were interested in, if you knew she does not do blowjobs: non-negotiable? It doesn't matter why. If you pull out the unfair card, for example: why should I do oral on her, if she does not reciprocate? Then my answer is - I don't even care for oral that much. I don't mind living without it. All in all, are you telling me that you would be unsatisfied with only having sex, and no blowjobs?
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Honestly, I think the openness of sex in today's society has made most girls willing to do things they wouldn't have otherwise (I'm not just referring to bjs), while it has made guys expect a hell of a lot more than they are entitled to.
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Sex is not a relationship, and it is not love. Anyone who would break off a relationship because of sexual reasons, when they care about a person, is obviously not a worthy partner.
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Also, girls who vote can do so obviously, but I'm pretty much disregarding your votes, based on the fact that... you have no d***s.
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I appreciate all the comments and votes, whether I agreed with them or not. I don't expect people to say what I want to hear. I have given some up-ratings, but not a single down. Everyone is entitled to their opinion.
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I've more or less got what I wanted from this question. if anything, most of you have reinforced my views. Either way, people can keep commenting/voting if they like, but I'd rather stop getting notifications now. They're annoying. Thanks again.
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All I hear is blah blah blah blah. If I keep receiving notifications which I no longer care about, I will simply request for the deletion of this question, and you can all lose your points. Thanks.
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What Girls & Guys Said
17 55I'm going to be completely honest. I personally have a fetish for it, it drives me *crazy*. Without I most likely would end up cheating and I can't see myself doing that. The relationship would falter.
If I knew for sure she didn't do blowjobs, I would pass. It's too basic nowdays. It's one of the best things there are, a blowjob. Having sex is good but getting blown may be even better
Only having sex is too boring. I want more than just missionary and cowgirl. Put your mouth on there sweetie
I have dated multiple girls who would not give blow jobs. Don't get me wrong just like every other male out there I thouroughly enjoy them but you can live without. If the girl I like is not into oral that doesn't bother me.
they usually can't fit me in their mouth. but if they at least try ill go down on them. its the thought that counts.
Who the hell wants to go out with a self-righteous, stuck-up, selfish, conceited bitch that doesn't give blowjobs? Good luck finding a man.
That's what women wonder when guys bitch and complain about how nasty going down on a chick is.
And when have I ever done that?
I have a man, thanks.
Also, I happen to be a very hot, intelligent, self-righteous, not stuck-up, and somewhat conceited female. Perhaps that has something to do with it. Also, you've been blocked simply because I've seen your answers before and didn't like them, but now that you've commented on my question, I just simply have no tolerance for you. Goodbye.
Best Answer right here
Yes ! Guys like, he should return the favor ...
Personally me being a guy bjs are not necessary in a relationship (it has been a while since I last had a girlfriend I admit). If you are only dating for sex and pleasure why are you dating at all? the original point of dating is to find a soulmate (a human has a half of a soul their other half is eith their true partner) and live happily ever after. personally (again) I date to try to find that girl that I wish to spend the rest of my life with. you can have sex after your married to the man you truly love.
yes... its so pleasing!
but its just a by-thing...only thng tat matters is love
I am a guy and I honestly can live without them, yet I make sure my girl gives me a BJ once in a while to test her and see if she is still down. You know, make sure she knows I'm her man and she has my **** in her mouth. Totally honest. Pardon my french tho. lol
On a side note, I drive her crazy with my Oral to her, Wow she LOVES IT!
but she is not a big fan of BJs yet she gives me a sh*tty one Once in a while, I'm ok with it. (See explanation above.)
no. trust, commitment, confidence, love and honesty are necessary to relationships
Call me weird, but I like giving oral to a girl even more than receiving.
RESPECT BRO!!!!...RESPECT
If someone, man or girl, really likes/enjoys oral, be it giving, or receiving, (or both hopefully ;), why would you really start to date someone who doesn't? I can see making a compromise or simply saying, "ohh well, I can live without that", but, would you really be willing to give up something you really like and enjoy, possibly for a long time, as you enter a relationship? And, what is it that you simply would not give up?
I personally, have dated a woman who didn't give oral. But, at the end of the day, why should anyone have to give up what they like? I mean, just goes to show that maybe you two are compatible sesually, and rather you all say it here or not, being sexually compatible is pretty important whenever you both decide to have sex.
Just something to think about.
blow jobs shouldnt be necessary in a relatinship but if a girl is willing to give you a nice bj its the most amazing thing ever especially if she wants to
It comes down to the guy. Kinda like in high school some guys will pressure you to have sex and some just want a relationship and don't care about sex.
Personally sex is important for me in a relationship and I would be p*ssed if the girl wouldn't give head.
YES
I was never keen on give boys BJs,
only to my boyfriends
its a intimate thing, guy dnt think of it like tht but I DO!
i never liked it but now I love giving it to my man ,
u have control over them ! hearing them turns me on.
"u have control over them ! hearing them turns me on." im pretty sure that's why I'd love it
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yes the best thing to give ur boy friend is a blow job
why would a girl not give a blowjob? forgive the pun, but: suck it up. just deal. a blowjob is amazing to give when you try, you can feel them squirm in pleasure and pull your hair a little or push your head down a little. I love knowing that I'm giving him pleasure.
Bottom line better to deal with it out front as opposed to fighting about it for forty years. worse is when you do it for him while you hate doing it every time. Then h ou decide to quit and he feels like it a rejection of him since something changed. When actually all she did was what she would have done years ago had she not been afraid he wouldn't love her if she didn't do it for him. 15 years later,he still isn't convinced that it isn't about something he has done wrong or more aptly what he isn't doing well enough to deserve it.
i know guys who won't date girls who won't give them a bj