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Boyfriend wants me on birth control. I don't want to?
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Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 + years. Out of the blue today he said he doesn't feel comfortable just him wearing a condom when we have sex, and says that he'd feel more comfortable if I was on my own birth control. However I don't want to go on birth control. Last time I took the pill it left me in a low mood, and also I don't fancy any of the other options. Just funny about putting stuff in my body. What do I do-do what he says? I'm worried that he'll stop sleeping with me altogether. by the way we don't see each other much as we live far apart-so maybe once every two weeks. So its not like we sleep together loads anyway which is why I don't want to go on birth control. Does he have the right to tell me what to do?
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What Girls & Guys Said
21 19get an IUD, they are the most effective forms other than a hysterectomy or a vasectomy
get an implant.
If you're not comfortable with it, don't do it. It's your decision ultimately. But he does have a valid concern-condoms aren't 100% effective, and unwanted pregnancies can cause major issues and moral dilemmas.
Maybe research in more depth, and see if there are any alternatives or other options with less side effects?
Hopefully male contraception will be available soon and it won't be all on the women
There are various types of condoms. Surely he would find one that really suited for him.
I told my wife to be to get off of birth control and stay off of it because of the health issues it causes. I told her I was willing to use condoms instead! We want kids 1 day!
I heard from a friend that there are different kinds of birth control. Maybe you should check it out.
Heard from a friend? Are they not teaching you about this stuff in school? That's scary!!
@Sara413 I mean different kinds of birth control effects you differently
Yeah but that's stuff you should be learning in school at like 13 - 14.. not from a friend!
@Sara413 haha I agree but at least in the UK it's glazed over -perhaps mentioned once in a rare sex ed meeting. Afraid moat people do learn stuff like this from a friend! Cheers live happy for your advise I am going to check it out
It's probably up to you...
But definitely not up to a bunch of strangers on an Internet forum...
Try using different kinds of birth control and talk to your doctor. I dont believe it affects any mood hormones so it shouldn't be doing that. The Choice is 100% yours though as its your body. Keep in mind, condoms break. Are you ready for a baby? Both of you, not just you. My boyfriend and I use condoms, I'm on birth control and we watch me cycle to see when I'm ovulating so we dont do it then. I initially started birth control for acne, so its good for other things too!
does he want you on birth control just so he doesn't have to wear a condom?
He says he just wants it for the maximum possible protection but... I don't know that could also be on his mind
If he wants as much protection as possible, he should just not have sex. There is always some risk and its not his body that will be affected by the pill so you should tell him that. Talk about other options with him. The way you decide to protect yourselves should be a mutual agreement.
Tell him to get a vasectomy.
He has the right to not have sex with you if you refuse to take both control but that's it.
Double up on condoms as in he wears one and you wear a female one.
The whole 'my body my choice ' is total BS.. You are in a relationship which means its two of you. You are a team and have to make decisions together because that is how relationships work. It's all about compromise, you give your views he does the same and you find a middle ground. At the end of the day he has to look out for himself the same way you have to look out for yourself.
I can't cum with a condom on. Plus they suck sooooo much. Just from a guys point of view. Maybe suck him off more and he'll forget about it. Or tell him to tell him to just deal with it