Do guys expect to have to pull out?

Question

So, I recently had sex with my boyfriend for the first time.  As I have been on pills for years, which he knew, I didn't make him put on a condom.  I kinda figured that was unspoken permission to finish in me, but he pulled out at the last minute just as I was getting close to my O.  I probably should have said what I wanted in advance, but my question is this.  Do guys always expect to have to pull out until they are told otherwise?  I'd like to hear perspectives from both sides.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Until the day comes where parental status is determined on the basis of actual consent and not just biological affinity alone (i.e., DNA), then maybe I'll consider trusting a woman when she says she's on the pill and I can finish inside her.

Until then, the guy is an idiot in the first place for putting it in without a condom. Not only do I wear a condom, I wash that sh*t out and flush anything inside down the toilet. When that condom goes into the trash, it's completely empty. I don't take any risk or give the girl any chance to use my sperm to get herself pregnant. And no, I don't trust her when she says she's on the pill; I assume she's always lying or "forgot" to take it.

Why? Because if I'm actually wearing a condom and it breaks, and she gets pregnant, and she doesn't want to be a mom yet at this point in her life (but for some reason, I really want to be a dad), all she has to do is take the morning after pill or go get a safe abortion by a licensed physician. If, on the other hand, she lies to me about being on the pill, gets pregnant, wants to be a mom (but I don't want to be a dad), I can't do anything, all she has to do is wait 9 months, order a DNA test, and have me subsidize her dreams of being a mommy and having a baby for the next 21 years.

No thank you.

Warren · Accepted Answer

As odd as it might sound it's something I bring up beforehand -- if there's time for that I mean. Unless it's a one-night-stand, there's usually some talk about sex before you actually get down to business, especially if you're the sort (as I am) to see both get tested. I've had a vasectomy so I'm sterile, and women haven't had a problem with me finishing inside of them so long as that has remained true.

Prior to that I always used a condom unless I knew for sure that they were in favor of abortion in the event of a birth control failure. I realize the pull-out method is almost as effective but the one thing I feared more than anything else was a pregnancy. Pulling out sucks anyway, it's like pausing the film at the best part. Even if the girl does the selfless thing and takes you in her mouth or offers the use of her hands after you pull out... the rhythm is broken. To say nothing of the fact that I hate when women do the selfless thing at the price of their own pleasure.

COCOCHANEL · Accepted Answer

my boyfriend always gets so nervous and afraid that he'll accidentally release inside me, it's so cute :3

most boys in japan ask when they are getting close to climax "can I release inside?" and I love it because of course they can barely get the words out and it's half moaning omg so cute

"c-can I aaahhhn ahhh inside?"

Betwyn · Accepted Answer

I'm perfectly fine with a guy cumming in me or on me...

and if I don't say anything, one way or the other, what I've observed to be true...

Guys who are inexperienced.. come in me...

Guys who've been around, pull out...

linds34 · Accepted Answer

If they pull out the first few times I would tell them it's OK - but he might have just wanted to come on you instead anyway.

renogaza · Answer

interesting, I'm just here for the view lol, carry on :> eats popcorn and drinks huge mt. dew*

NewYorkCity · Answer

Of course, I can't afford to have a child right now besides maybe he doesn't really like you that much as you think or maybe it is you who don't like him as much for him to be a father. Pulling out is ALWAYS a great option, especially if you or him have a second thought and different plans about you that you or him doesn't know. Child is an anchor that ether will bring a lot of happiness to both partners if they TRULY love each other or a lot of misery that will reflect not only on both of you but on child as well. Child is not a toy remember, your future child will be a 100% reflection of you and only you, so you can't blame him or her if they end up been a bums because it will be your fault or you can be super proud if they be smart and super successful because it is all you, you made that happen.

clashcity22 · Answer

There's a lot of stats out there on this. BC is between 95 and 99.9% effective. Depends on the brand. The chances of a pregnancy are between 20 and 40%. Some BC do different things. Most allow an egg to be released, but don't allow the egg to attach to the uterine lining. Basically, an egg can fertilized, but it has nothing to attach to and just passes on through. My girlfriend and I never used condoms and she is on BC. I always finished inside her and that was well over 150 times and she never got pregnant. I just never liked the lack of sensation caused by a condom. I'm not saying she won't get pregnant. There is a chance. If you want to be safe, then use a condom. Pulling out is ever 100% effective. Pre come may have sperm in it and can get a girl pregnant and a little bit can make it out before the guy cums.

katiesmuff · Answer

I would think more would stay inside unless told to pull out, but I have always been very vocal letting guys know I wanted them to ejaculate inside me.

KimmyB · Answer

D pretty much sums up my answer :o)

Arrowdynamics · Answer

I had a vasectomy so I'm bustin all kinda nuts in them sugar walls

madhatters4 · Answer

if a girl is on the pill I would assume it's OK to finish inside.

on the rare occassion that I go bareback (maybe 2 out of the countless times I've had sex) with a girl who isn't using any contraception I don't even allow myself to get close to climaxing before I pull out.

TheGodEmperorLeto · Answer

Using a condom even if you're on the pill or other forms of birth control is still smarter. And I would probably only finish inside if I had explicit permission from the girl. Why would I want to just assume anything? But ya. We'd generally talk about all this well before even engaging in sex lol.

yaddayaddayadda02 · Answer

Some guys do, but I've never pulled out as a rule..but I mostly used condoms when I was dating.

norcali · Answer

Hey if the guy is a virgin or has not had it but maybe a time or two is going to be the one that does not mean to but because it is such a intense sensation that's increasing and it doesn't happen when men "Pull Chain" just inside her.  So he won't know or get caught by surprise and he will be the one saying sorry over and over and trying to clean up any mess he has made...    But there is two types of  guy out there,1) who takes a girl home and barebacks it and if she has not said not to the "Nice guy type" or Gentlemen will just pull out,  then 2) the others if you allow him without a condom I would plan on getting it inside you...  and I think most ladies will agree that condoms are terrible and girls or "Most" actually like it...  and you know what kind of guy you have too,  a good one or a disrespectful ass

quantumdefender · Answer

birth control has been known to fail, I'd use condom every time, I have NO desire to be a father

justincider · Answer

#1 leading cause of pregnancy is NOT pulling out.  Even if she is on the pill or some other form of BC I pull out 90-95% of the time.  Even if she asked me to, I wouldn't finish insde unless she was just about to get her period and had some of the pre-period symptoms. I know some girls really like it, but it also ruins the coochie for round 2 or 3 and makes it funky.  Not like I'm gonna go down on her after I finish in her.  Its just not necessary all the way around

Kabluie · Answer

I chose A. As I'm like you, it is kind of unspoken permission to go all the way and usually it is someone you are seeing for awhile. But yeah, a little reassurance always helps (and can be hot if your whisper it) if you want your partner to come inside and not pull out.

jacquesvol · Answer

There's a name for guys who don't use condoms: They're called 'dads'. or 'infected'. I suppose he doesn't want to become a father.

hannibal214 · Answer

i don't pull out.  if you're allowed to penetrate bareback, it's assumed that you're going to nut in her p****

Anonymous · Answer

I always pull out unless she tells me it's OK. If they're on birth control, they usually say something after busting a nut on her belly a couple of times. If not, I just keep pulling out.

Anonymous · Answer

Sex without a condom is a green light for a guy to come inside me, however, I'm perfectly fine with them pulling out if that's what they want. If they ask, I tell them inside me or on my tummy.

Anonymous · Answer

That isn't effective but it doesn't matter either way.

Anonymous · Answer

Are people on here stupid? Pulling out before ejaculation is barely even safe at all. Precum, anyone? And as for your question, no. Not in my personal experience, anyway.