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Do most men think of other girls while having sex with their girlfriend? Should I break up with him?
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I have been dating my boyfriend for about 10 months now and when I want to have sex he would tell me that he isn't in the mood. Eventually he started to tell me something and then stopped as if he changed his mind. I asked him what he was going to say and he then told me that while we are having sex he thinks about other girls. He also told me that he has though about my girl friends from work or a woman on a commercial while having sex with me. I have never been more angry and I told him exactly how I felt. I told him if I'm not the one turning him on or the person on his mind don't try anything sexual with me. Now every time we do anything sexual I feel dirty wondering if he is thinking about me. He can tell that I don't feel right so he tells me " I was thinking about you." or " That was all you."
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What Girls & Guys Said
20 25He sounds like a jerk leave him.
i hope you got rid of him!
i would say he is an honest man, think... how many men out there can tell you something like that with straight honesty.
Even though you probably love him I would say you should probably let him go because you shouldn't have to wonder if he is thinkin about you when year having sex.
HE should not be thinking bout anyone else. Screw him, not literally and just break up with him
First off, this dude is a d***, I mean being honest with you is one thing, but specifically telling you who he fantasizes about especially your friends and coworkers, is waaaay messed up. I will say a lot of my friends that are dudes do fantasize about other women when they are with their girls, but not after ten months, and certainly don't elaborate about it to such a degree to their partners, I don't do that, because I have game, and I don't sleep with chicks that aren't hot or attractive to me, and I don't understand guys that screw girls they aren't attracted to, I don't even understand how they get it up. But seriously, my friend has his wife who was really hot when they got together, and now she got fat; he loves her, but he's not attracted to her anymore, and in this case I think its ok, but not in your case, it sounds like he's saying this to you to lower you self esteem.
Totally agree this guy is a d*** DUMP HIM DUMP HIM!!!
Oh man that's said so sorry...well you shud take this into play atleas he cares about you...he restrains himself from having sex if he thinks about another girl...it shows he has shame in that and he doesn't wanna hurt u...i say hold out on the sex make him want you and not some other girl...i think he has a lust addiction which means you gota keep him away from things that would catch his attention..in the wrong way.
i don't do that
what a sick f***! Dump him!
OMG, I've been in this situation BREAK UP. my boyfriend done the exact same thing, and then had the nerve to tell me about some of his last conquests sorry I would not tolerate that, I want my man to want me and only me
It's natural...nothing worried:P
he is only using you for ass I'm srry to hear that :'(
hm, not all...
but your guy? he's not the kind of guy which is right ..
he just take you for granted...
break him up!
your boyfriend is sick
sorry!
I think he's a jerk. And just my thoughts . . . you should dump his a$$. That is so disrespectful and you deserve to be treated with love. If he really care about you, he wouldn't say those types of things.
Once upons a time, I would say things to my wife (not the esact same things, but bad enough) that would just tear her up inside. I learned to show her care and respect.
Lesson being, if a man (or woman in reverse situation) care about his girl/woman, he will treat her with love and respect.
He should consider himself lucky you would still have sex with him after what he has said to you.
Can you give an example of what KINDS of things?
Why would you want to know what mean things I used to say. All that matters is that they were mean, and hurtful. They weren't me being a good person to someone I care about. A real man, won't hurt the woman he loves.
I never come unless I think of my first girlfriend ever, I told her that once and she cried for more than an hour.
You're disgusting.
Such is, not exactly thrilled about that myself. Cry me a river.
Honest though, kudos.
it might be tough but I think it's time to move on.
This really depends on how you feel.
My boyfriend and I Watch porn together sometimes, so naturally I know that the chesty blond With the unnatural looking tan is slipping into his mind...
BUT he should not have to think about other girls to get turned on. In other words... A thought here or there about other girls during sex is one thing, having to always think about them to get into the mood or have sex with you is something completely different.
So you have to think about whether or not you can accept that most if not all guys do occasionally think about another girl mid sex with their girlfriend, its definitely natural and common.
Yeah I've never thought about anyone else ever like that. That's f***ed up and he shouldn't be thinking about other girls while having sex with you. when I do things with my girlfriend I only think about her
If you can't stand this I supose you can't stand porn either, what do you think about during sex...do you use sex toys and play off thinking about exes or other people, if you don't dump him, try and find someone like you who doesnt, good luck...