Do you deny sex to your wife/husband?

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Do you deny sex to your wife/husband? How do you explain that you are not in the mood and what's the most common reaction?

redeyemindtricks · Accepted Answer

This is something people don't realize or acknowledge enough, but:

*** When you're married...
SYSTEMATICALLY DENYING yr partner physical intimacy... IS INFIDELITY. ***

Yep.
Shutting yr partner out... IS CHEATING.

It's the SAME transgression as going out and fucking someone else. The only difference is that it doesn't involve a third person.

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Think about it for a sec. Think about what the words "faithful" and "cheat" mean.

My delivery woman is "faithful". She comes between 2:30 and 3:00 PM basically every single day.
If she WASN'T "faithful"... that wouldn't mean she was running around and making extra deliveries to *other* people. It would mean she DIDN'T come and make her usual deliveries at the usual time.

... Or, imagine that a sports team is running laps together after practice (in solidarity with one of the players who had to run the laps as a punishment).
If one player says to another, "Don't cheat!" when the coach isn't looking... what does that mean?
"Cheating" wouldn't be running *extra* laps outside of practice... nope.
"Cheating" would be NOT running the laps that the player has promised to run.

Etc. etc.

PROMISE-BREAKING is "infidelity".
PROMISE-BREAKING is "cheating".

If you go out and fuck someone else -- unless that's specifically the agreed nature of yr marital commitment -- that's PROMISE-BREAKING.
It's cheating.
It's infidelity.

···••• IN EXACTLY THE SAME WAY •••···
If you DON'T give yr partner the intimacy she/he deserves, and that you PROMISED to her/him as part of yr married life -- that's ALSO PROMISE-BREAKING.
It's cheating.
It's infidelity.

We need to stop pretending that one of these things is worse than the other... Because it isn't.

Keep yr commitments.
Keep yr promises.
Keep yr love alive.

RaeSheBae · Accepted Answer

My husband and I have great sex since day One.
I am a very emotional person, I often have a mid full of bullshit.
So being like this traps me a lot mentally and I deny sex somtimest also, because my man loves having sex and he would do it everyday he never denies me he is always ready for it...
I also love playing hard to get, I love making him wait because Its funny and we have a lot of fun.
we also have our toys and bondage set so whenever it happens after me denying it lets say two days after I make it up to him foreal! hahahah

Tammy94 · Accepted Answer

There's not being in the mood or under the weather or just too tired, and then there's withholding as in a punishment or to bring some sort of pressure on him. When I'm just not up to it I just tell y boyfriend, although sometimes I "take one for the team." It has almost never caused an trouble. I think once, maybe twice, I was mad at him about something and would have withheld it in the punishment sense, but he was to smart to try.

cth96190 · Accepted Answer

I deny sex to myself. - lol
I have not touched a woman for 15 years.
There is plenty of female interest and women hit on me more than younger men would believe. There is even the occasional indecent proposal.
Thing is, I am no longer interested.
I am straight and I like sex, but the legal risk and pile of bullshit that comes from interaction with females is not worth a few seconds of ejaculatory release.
When I was a teenager and then a 20-something I could almost not get a date, because I was not a bad boy, or some other variety of scumbag or knuckle dragger.
That changed, big time, after I was on the wrong side of 30. By that time, I had decided that the female collective and the bad boys deserved each other, so I walked away.

PhoenixItalian · Accepted Answer

I do not and when I'm married we belong to each other and she should be free to use my body whenever she wants and vice versa assuming there aren't any extenuating circumstances. The main thing is you should never be manipulative and deny sex to manipulate someone.

kaylaS91 · Answer

I do tell my boyfriend that I'm just not down for sex once in a blue moon. Not often, maybe like... 2-3x over our three years of being together but if I'm exhausted and/or not feeling the best due to being ill or something, I sometimes just can't get into the right mind-set. He's usually pretty bummed but it's not like he won't see me again the next day or in a week when I'm back in prime condition and ready for action. 👌

Wonderer89 · Answer

Rarely, only if I'm sick or so completely exhausted that I'm already falling asleep.  He's the same, it's not often we say no to one another

lovydoey · Answer

I mean just because ur married doesn't mean u will just have sex every time even if one doesn't feel like it.

MadeInAmerica · Answer

Only if I'm extremely pissed which isn't often. I been denied plently of time it just bother me most times, I just move on and put my energy to something else.

RJGraveyTrain · Answer

Honestly, at this stage in my life I rarely ever deny him. There has been maybe two instances where I've said no and it was due to being ill.

HOAAH · Answer

I just tell him to go sleep in the living room

fauchelevent · Answer

I don't have a husband, I have my boyfriend who I've been with for five years though. If I'm not in the mood, then I just tell him that I'm not in the mood and I don't wanna do anything. His most common reaction is to shrug and say it's fine. That's my reaction when he denies me sex too.

Bluemax · Answer

We didn't deny each other.

Courtney90 · Answer

If were not in the mood we simply say so. Its not that we don't love each other, we just aren't in the mood. More often then not we say no cause we're tired or busy. With kids it's hard to even have the time.

When we were engaged we both felt like we had to do it no matter what. There were times I would be selfish an almost beg if he said no. We eventually had a argument over it an we just came to the agreement it's ok to say no.

BeautifulPromisesx · Answer

I would try to always be down whenever wherever as a married woman.  Unless I'm dying and seriously sick then yeah but otherwise you gotta keep it passionate and fiery.

UnderlyDedicated · Answer

I'll just hug her and won't respond of act on her advances. She gets mad and usually still gets it but I'll be asleep during. That's only when I deny her when I'm super sleepy.