In media, we are oversexed. Everywhere you look, sexuality is the norm because it sells and gains attention. But in society, we are repressed. People don't have casual sex as they used to because of selfishness, feminism, disease, career-obesssed and other factors. The fear of sexual harassment doesn't help either. When you can't even look at women without fear of harassment let alone asking for dates, it's a major problem. In addition, we are still quite uncertain about a clear-cut unified stand on prostitution. Either we like it prostitution or we are vehemently appalled with it. Religion also adds to the fire of sexuality here in America.
It's also about WHO's getting sex. Is it the hot people with wealth or is it everyone? The natural reaction is the young hot looking people and the rich. Does either/or represent all of society? Hmm...0 0 0 1Americans are neither over- nor undersexualized; they're badly sexualized.
You get to enjoy sex if you're a married, monogamous, conventionally heterosexual couple, or if you're a corporation selling a product. Otherwise, your sex life is worthless, any lie whatsoever can be told about your sexuality, and you're a target for any attack from any quarter, no matter how vile.
So, we prefer sex based on rules, lies, and commercial products, over sex based on conversations, and truth, and people.
We have what we deserve.1 0 1 0very good answer! I just think it's a shame that it has to be that way.
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You are so right. I new here and realized this fact, but on a personal level I think thr real problem is people are so concerned with what others perceive them to be.
That's why here someone will act so nice when in fact they don't like you, here you have to be mindful of the tjings you say for fear of being called weird or horrible.
What about being you and when I say being you I mean not being afraid to express yourself in the way you feel.
I don't condone being overly mean or rude but we are all humans and have these feelings just like sex. Especially women here seem to suppress their sexuality because of the fear of being call slut or any other derogatory name.
I embrace me, living breathing person with emotions and sexaul needs and I like it very much!
PS stop blaming the media for everything, we all got a brain.0 0 1 1yeah, I don't blame the media, it's more that I think the media is a often a better representation of what our society deems acceptable in reality vs what we actually ADMIT to deeming acceptable. it just shows that sex is obviously at the forefront of all of our minds...why do we repress that and not embrace it, men and women alike? I get the fear of being called a slut, but what wrong turn did we make along the way to make our society like that in the first place?
I like you Kitty, and I agree with you once again. Here's my thought, I try to always keep it real {at heart) and it is what it is. I teach my girls (16 &20) that there is sex & Making Love. As long as they know the difference..Which is very important...I'm good! F**k what you see on t.v... My girls are tall and shapely, they will never be a size two & I would never want them to think that is where/what they are supposed to be. Confidence!
I think media is overly sexualized in the wrong way. It mainly expresses the wants of one gender onto another (therefore, making women in media over sexualized for men) and doesn't really address or express any other type of sexuality.
People are more open about sex, but we're still such prudes that when a woman likes to have multiple partners the words whore and slut come to mind. You even see this in the media. We're so prehistoric that when someone gets raped, we STILL find reasons to blame them.
Our society and media are both sexualized in the wrong way. People should be open about their sexuality, even if it means a man wanting to wait for the right woman (so we should stop hating/self-hating virgin men), or if a woman wants to have multiple partners, or a man wanting another man.1 1 1 1so are you saying (about projection of wants of one gender on the other) that men just naturally want sex more than women? or that it's learned/forced behavior due to societal standards? what is it that makes us incapable of just saying to each other, "hey, I'd like to f*ck you" and just doing it with no guilt and no outside judgements?
no, I'm saying that men ran the industry for the longest time and advertised to and for men-- which is fact.
oh OK, I see what you're saying. and yes, that is true. but my greater question is what is it about men and women that we can't seem to see eye to eye about embracing our sexuality? I just feel like we should be advanced enough as a society to let go of the "slut/stud" double-standard, and just run around doing what our respective genitals tell us to do. for me, I feel like that's what drives me naturally, but I'm forced to go against that because what the rest of the world thinks. but I don't..
I live in the UK London and the talk about sex is quiet open they teach sex ed in primary school which is children before 12 and in secondary school 12-16 they show them a lot more than I was they talk about STI to even how to put a condom on for girls and boys too
we have shows on TV aimed to young teenager all about sex and even a show that talks about how to be safe but also the fun you can get up too so we don't hide about it at all this weekend there is even a comedy show on that all about sex love and relationships so I think we are open about it and that why we have site like this where we can talk and many others0 0 0 0interesting! glad to hear the UK is more open about stuff. the US is still a very religiously-controlled nation...even if you don't believe in what you're preaching, you're at the mercy of the religious faction when election time comes along. I know the UK is a christian country, but I also know that historically, the anglican church is a tweaked version of catholicism because one of the old kings wanted to divorce his wife, so you guys don't mind adjusting the rules, hahaha.
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2 8Ithink you are both right. We're oversexualized in entertainment and media, yes, and the rich and privileged can indulge with limits set only by their concern about rampant STDs...
But we are, as you say, very represessed in expressing sexuality in a healthy way. We aren't generally allowed to tease and experiment with each other as we have the urge to do..there are myriad taboos and of course our women in the US usually respond only if paid well...0 0 0 0I agree that the society is too oversexualized. Porn is a big enemie. I HATE porn. I think it's unhealthy to watch. Just wish that porn didn't exist. It's more about lust than love.
@Guineapiggies Here, here. It exits because of the absence of real love and intimacy.
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Society isn't enough, while its representation through the media is too much.
0 0 1 0well..we are far away from anything "natural"... we have created our own world..its own rules. and if you intend to do one thing by nature's law then you need to change your entire life view...the way society lives..all its moral codes. it's not something simple. if you want to go natural then you need to go full natural on everything...and that is very difficult to do right now
1 0 0 1that makes some sense. I'm just the type that thinks humanity took a terrible turn when we stopped being animals like we're supposed to be. I think the people who really have it right are the scarce few that run around butt-ass naked and chase down their dinner every day. I respect the hell out of that. the rest of us have all gone soft. problem is, I'm too used to xbox, NFL football, the internet and electricity to put my money where my mouth is and move to the amazon, haha. I'd last two hours.
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Not sexualised enough.
Come on, gay people still can't get married, Planned Parenthood gets defunded because stupid people think it's an abortion clinic. Schools and parents are too terrified to teach sex education to their kids, and think it's someone elses responsibility. When Janet Jackson bared some boob, the country lost it's f***ing mind.
America is a very prudish country still.1 1 1 0that's how I feel. all that stuff you mentioned is outrageous. people seem to embrace sexuality so much more in places like scandinavia, eastern Europe, and south America, for example. and my immediate response is to blame religious influences, but all those places are largely christian like the US is. and everything else here seems so advanced, in terms of indulgent behavior, it's a picture of hypercommercialism. so why is one of our favorite recreational activities, one that appeals to...
...literally almost everyone, a major taboo to discuss, but the media still revolves around it. crazy!
You think Scandanavia is religious? Guess again.
Nope, we aren't enough.
Especially I the USA...0 2 1 0
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