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Does this make me gay?

when I was in grade 7, just hitting puberty, my friends and I would have sleep overs and stuff. we used to show each other our penises and compare sizes. eventually we became so open with each other that we started masturbating in front of each other every time we had a sleep over. this all happened over a span of 2 months. we were young and confused and horny, but had no girls because at that age, no girl is going to be sexual. anyways, I was having a sleep over with of my guy friends on Halloween night after we went out trick or treating. they all noticed that my penis was substantially larger than their penis, I was about 12, it was about 6 inches long, while theirs would only be like 4 erect. my friend asked me if he could touch it, I was hesitant for like an hour, they were like "come on man, we're not going to tell anyone", so I let him jerk me off, about half way through he asked me if he could suck it.. I told him NO, but he started sucking it against my will, but it was my first blowjob and I couldn't resist the feeling. by that time my other friend wanted to join in, so he started sucking it instead I eventually came in his mouth and we were all kind of weirded out. we went to sleep and stopped talking about it, we kind of (took it to our graves) .. the first friend who started doing things and I were closer. he slept over on the weekends all of the time. something came over me for 2 months where when we would go to sleep I take my pants off and tell him to suck my d*** and he would do it whenever I asked. I would always feel disgusted with myself after I came in his mouth. it was never sexual. we didn't turn each other on and we never kissed or anything. it was more so, he was doing a service for me. one night I was really horny and asked him if I could stick my d*** in his ass. he let me, we did it for 30 minutes or so before I came in his ass. after that I got so disgusted with myself that I stopped all together. we never told anyone and that was 8 years ago. I have had girlfriends, I'm only attracted to girls but what was that, why did I do all that? what was wrong with me
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Are you gay? No.

    Except for this one guy...

    Why did you do it? Because you had someone available for sex when you were horny, which, once you think about it, is pretty reasonable. Just so happens that this "someone" was

    a guy.

    What would I label you? I wouldn't; situations like this are *precisely* the reason I think that labels are mostly idiotic--because they paint over the important details of a person's life and relationships. Put a gun to my head, I would call you heteroflexible, but that makes a lot of people queasy.

    By the way, some of queasy disgust is useless guilt; it's not your job to conform your sexuality to anything, so let yourself off the hook.

    Also, when someone blows you to a finish, that's sexual; You don't come when you're not turned on. Another part of your queasy disgust is that you're telling yourselves very complicated lies to make the blowjob work. The sane mind knows that people telling themselves very complicated lies have begun to go crazy, and going crazy is queasy and disgusting.

    So again, let yourself off the hook and rethink this, SANELY: you got your blowjobs and your anal sex with a dude. You haven't done it since, you haven't been hot for a dude since (?) You've moved on, and it's NO BIG DEAL.

    Right? Good. Peace, man.

  • How old were you during the anal? I'm 13. Is it normal to do that kind of stuff with good friends (besides the blow jobs and anal sex)? Would it be weird if I were to compare sizes and jerk off with friends?

Most Helpful Girls

  • First of all, you seem to be thinking of homosexuality as a bad thing. I suggest you try to be more open and change it.

    Secondly, you're most likely not gay.

    I've heard that in the Middle East, it was a regular practice for boys and men to do what you used to do. Doing favours for each other, that is. The main reason for that in the Middle East is because the women are all hidden entirely from the male population and men will never be able to have one to themselves until they are married.

    What you and your friends have done is probably not unheard of in first world countries at all. It's simply friends doing favours for each other.

    You're the only one who would know if you're gay or not. If you know that you never got off to the thought of men and that you are only attracted to girls, then I would have to say that you wouldn't be "classified" as a homosexual.

  • It's just experimentation. I don't even think it necessarily counts as "curious," like other people are saying.

    My first sexual encounters were with a girl when I was about 12 years old. I wasn't attracted to her or turned on (unless I pretended she was a guy). I don't even know why we did it. I guess we were bored :P

    Anyway, your experience is pretty extreme, but you said it yourself: "I'm only attracted to girls." As long as you're being honest with yourself about that, there's nothing to worry about. Not that being bisexual would be awful, but you know what I mean.

  • no it doesn't make you gay, hormones can be very overwelming and you needed release wich is completly understandable. the fact that you were desgusted with yourself after wards just proves that point. Beleive it or not a lot of girls do some thing similar when they hit pubeerty as well so it is 100% normal. don't be hard on yourself over it

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  • There is nothing wrong with being gay.

  • It's experimentation... it's normal, fairly common... and you shouldn't feel guilty.

  • Its called a bi curious experience it doesn't exactly make you gay.

  • you are bi. no straight guy would f*** another guy in the ass

  • I don't know if that makes you gay, but it's pretty close.

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