Does your clitoris "stand up" when it gets hard?

[Bruce]

I always give detailed, straight forward questions and answers, and hope the women will do the same...either anonymously or with your screen name. A woman lover told me Friday that she wanted me to "feel my clitoris get hard and 'stand up'"...any man that has rubbed or licked the clitoris KNOWS that it gets very hard and stiff, but somehow I never paid attention to the fact that it STANDS UP like an erect penis stands up. I have pushed the hood back on the clitoris with my fingers so that I could lick directly on the 'head' of the clitoris but in doing that never paid attention that it was in fact...'standing up' from being parallel with the outer lips of the vagina. Does your clitoris actually 'stand up', somewhat, like an erect penis, and if so, does it ever push out through the outer lips of your vagina ? This sounds like a naive question for an experienced man, but I never paid attention that the clitoris was 'standing up' The next part of this question has to do with masturbation and the fingers you use to rub your clitoris with, Most women that I have watched, tend to use their middle finger to actually 'rub' with, and rest the other fingers on either side on the lips to keep the finger positioned directly on the clitoral shaft and head. One friend tells me that she rubs with her index finger only, and I have not watched her masturbate...yet. The third part of this question has to do with keeping track of the clitoris when rubbing it, from a man's point of view as it is much easier to keep it lined up with my tongue, since my tongue is the same kind of mucus membrane tissue as the clitoris. My partners all rub their clitoris very fast and it is difficult to watch exactly how their fingers move, either on the shaft, on the head and exactly which finger is touching it at any given second, that makes it difficult to know exactly how to use my fingers in the same way that she does to get the same result that she gets. I have video taped a woman rubbing and watched it over and over and yet can not see exactly how she is rubbing because it is inside the outer lips and concealed. A woman does not have this same issue in learning how to 'jack off' or masturbate a man since the penis is out in the open and she can see EXACTLY how I or any of you men rub it. So , exactly how do you rub, direction, motion, (circular or up and down), and which finger or fingers do you use on the shaft and the head ? I am going to ask a female friend and / or a female relative how she does it ,if she will be that candid. Until I learn to use my fingers in a more effective way, I am going to continue using my tongue, rather than my fingers. Please reply in a detailed fashion if you are so inclined as it may be a help to other men who feel that they are experienced P.S I am most interested in if the clitoris 'stands up' If your like , you may reply to my email [e-mail]

[zickzack]

Yes it stands up, but not like a cock, because this would mean an angle of 180 degrees. In such a state the clit. head would touch the belly. This will not happen. It`s already much, if a clit stnds up in an angle of about 90 degrees.
Same with stiffness, the clit gets stiff like a halfstiff cock, but not more. Would it be more, it couldn`t be bowed in direction to the vagina. Don`t forget, the crura make a sharp bow to the shaft! And isn`t it so, that you can bow the clit. shaft without any problems and pain? You can never bow down a stiff cock the glans to the scrotum, it would be broken your penis and the pain will start very quick and also the resistance against bowing of the cock. shaft.

[openhearted65]

No women masturbate the same way other women do except by chance. In fact all women masturbate in many varied ways. My ex who had long inner labia loved to put her fingers either side of her prominent inner lips and the crease of her outer lips and squeeze and pull them tight whilst moving her fingers like she was rolling a piece of dough. She would blow feeling her lips squeezing her clit. The times she went direct to her clit she would use two fingers on the hood and wank like a foreskin over a micro penis.

[Chrissy1986]

well that is a very detailed question in deed. I cannot answer for anyone but my self here, so here it goes. When in a state of arousle my clit does stand up and away from the hood in a simmilar fashion to an erection, however it does not eise so much that it is above the otter lips. When masturbating I tend to ust my pointer finger, with a slight preasure I move my finger ither straight up and down ( meeting my inner lips), side to side, as well in small circles while keeong a constant preasure on my clit. I tend to alternate directions randomly as well as adding preassure very slowly

[Bruce]

Thanks for your answer and I don't know why the 'down arrow' ? My women friends seem to feel that I SHOULD try to keep up with and do what they want done when it comes to this kind of women's issures Bruce

[stratford]

Thanks for the great description. Do you also dip your finger betwen your lips to bring some of your wetness onto your clit for extra stimulation?

[pierre7i]

That is an especially nice answer, and I love your detailed description of what you do when you masturbate yourself I actually love it when a girl guides me what to do to make it feel beautiful for her and to help ensure she has the most excitingly orgasm pleasurable ! How about when you're being sexual with a guy (or girl) ? Do you feel able to guide them how to best pleasure your clitoris?

[pierre7i]

*excitingly pleasurable orgasm

[pierre7i]

Wow @Chrissy1986- that is a wonderful (and very hot) description of how you masturbate your clitoris - it"s perhaps even an especially good tutorial lesson for guys (me included) on how to make sexual foreplay an even more beautiful sexual experience for women.

[madiocre]

I'ver notived it gets harder and bigger but not sure if it stands up out of the hood.

I tend to use mainly my index and middle finger on either side and rub up and down very quickly and quite hard.

[Bruce]

Thank you for being so candid

[Tanisha69]

Yea it stands up a little but only if I am totally horny like if I have been teasing myself. if I really get to teasing, stop and go, that sort of thing I can get it to stand up but like I said I have to be REALLY hot.

[Bruce]

Thank you for your answer

[Tanisha69]

your welcome. you know I'm going to be trying this next time just cause of this question. lol

[Bruce]

I was glad to get your answer, but was honestly surprised to hear another answer since it has been more than a year since I posted it...thank you anyway...and GOOD LUCK Bruce

[Bruce]

The technique you are describing, of teasing, stop and go...is what a lot of men do when masturbating...we call it "edging" meaning getting close to ejaculation and then stopping, and then starting again and stopping...That give a tremendous ejaculation when we finally do ejaculate, and the penis stays semi erect for a long period of time afterward...man and women are more similiar that most think.

[pierre7i]

AI live your candidly detailed answer, you've made me want to imagine you doing that next time I m*****bate !

[pierre7i]

* I love your...

[Tanisha69]

I agree. Sorry I am not on here much anymore. But yea. Guys and girls are more similar than we like to admit.

[Tanisha69]

@pierre7i haha well hope it helped

[becca123]

Well since that area is equivalent to a female penis in many ways, the short answer is yes.

[Findingmyway]

I have never felt a difference enough to notice from unaroused to aroused. Mine is small so assume that is why. So no standing up in my case.

[LittleAmyP]

Yes my clit gets harder and a little bit bigger when I'm horny

[pierre7i]

Do you orgasm mainly, or only, from clitoral stimulation @LittleAmyP ?

[Nazgol]

I use a vibrator for that... just up & down mostly and holding it on it directly

[im_justaguy]

Do you *actually* get emailed replies? Seems unlikely

[jerry3au55555]

Yes, All the Clits I've encountered CERTAINLY got "stiff"

[daddyfu]

Well in all my years of experience I hav noticed that a woman is aroused the clit will get stiff. not the same fashion as an erection but will in the same form get stiff. i have have had a lot of women cum in my mouth n in the process of licking the vagina be stuck on the clitoris because it will push her closer to a orgasm than any other part of the vagina that you give attention. So if you are down there working with your tounge make her pull the top straight back will you lick directly on just the clit n you will feel it that there will come a stiffness in the clit that will make her enjoy your action more!

[poochie22]

Yes., mines gets hard when I'm horny or ready to make love. After rubbing it for a while starts slow then speed it up. Next thing I know it be numb and feeling so good. No it doesn't stand up like a cock.

[Pranali71]

It swells a little and becomes harder, and emerges a little out of the hood. It does not rise up as a penis does, but it's a great feeling. My partner says it looks wonderful, as if it is eager to be rubbed. He says a woman with an excited clitoris is the sexiest sight in the world.

[stratford]

Your husband it 100% correct. An erect clit is so sexy and licking one makes me rock hard!

[stacybutlerwashere]

Mine gets very hard and firm, yes.. it's normal.

[Tanisha69]

DOes your drive really go up in your 40s? I've been wondering about this.