Girls: How long does it take you to decide on whether you would sleep with a guy or not?

[Anonymous]

I've heard it can take as little as 30 seconds but generally not longer than 3-5 minutes. I'm not saying you would sleep with him at that moment, but you would at least sleep with him at some point in the future. 1) Would you sleep with a man based on sight alone? 2) If "no" to 1) above, how long does is take for YOU to decide if you would sleep with a man or not? Bonus question: After you decided you would sleep a man, what are the ways a man can ruin it for himself (for you to change your mind about sleeping with him)?

[MoChocolate4U]

I would say we normally know if a guy is "doable" within 10 minutes. We are a little more observant, so we want to make sure (most of us) that he's the one. I think, at least personally for me, which answered your 2nd question. That doesn't mean that he would bed me on the 1st, 2nd, or 3rd date. Personally, it would really depend on how we got along, if he didn't do or say something that put me off, or a number of other factors that play into who I would or wouldn't sleep with. And no, sight alone would not make me sleep with anyone. What looks good may not always be good. An example of something a guy could do to make me not sleep with him; if I caught him in a lie while dating. If we are not in a serious committed relationship and he lied to me about anything; that would end it for me. Why lie, what have you got to prove? Not saying that it’s OK to lie if we were in a relationship. I hate liars; a little integrity goes a long way.

[luna33]

Well it all depends on the guy..to me I won't sleep with a guy unless I know him very well and see he is really interest it in having something with me..it might take a while..kisses hugs,etc ok..but sleeping with him that's another story...i wouldn't sleep with him because he looks good or whatever..there other things that will make me sleep with him..lies will make me change my mind..excuses that we can't be together when the decision is made and more LIES..i HATE LIES..THAT WILL TURN ME OFF COMPLETELY:D

[MoChocolate4U]

lol that's 2 of us on the same page...

[Anonymous]

I know within 30 seconds if a guy is f***able or not. If he isn't f***able then either first glance or him doing something that turned me off would be as soon as I need to make that judgment.

I won't sleep with most guys that try to sleep with me because I need a deep connection with him and to be able to trust him.

Now if a girl is open to hooking up it might be 3 to 5 minutes unless you do something to turn her off.

[7121uc]

I am not a gril, but I feel qualify to answer this question. A woman knows if she will sleep with a guy in 3-5 minutes. I know because this actually happened to me. I met this girl in school, we had mutual good impression about each other. I thought she was attracted and she thought I was attracted; This took 30 seconds. However, when we started talking to each other; her interest in me declined in 2 minnutes; she probably thought I was boring. So, you do have very little time to impress a girl.

[Asker]

I'm glad you answered. I have experienced the same problem on many of occassions. I have definitely screwed up many a good situation :(. It's all about banter and with and sometimes I got it, and sometimes I don't. I know that 1:30am at a bar, I usually don't anymore :).

[hayfa]

i think you decide pretty quickly but I wouldn't based on sight alone

Playing games, being dishonest, not genuine, being bossy, acting like he owns you. All these things would make me think twice about my initial decision

[JennieF]

Not long.