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Girls, are virgins a turn-off?
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Lets say I guy approach you in a club and then admits he is a virgin, does that change anything? Is it a turn-off or maybe it's even a turn-on? And a last question, if he comes off as a confident guy, would you assume he is lying?
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I might also add that I am 22 years old but look like I'm about 25.
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Just to make my question clearer. Don't focus on if it is brought up in a good or bad way, I am just curious if the knowledge that someone is a virgin will change the way you look at him and your attraction towards him.
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What Girls & Guys Said
104 16Depends on how it's brought up.
Good example - Girl: "I bet you're a player"
Guy: "Nah, I'm a 40 year old virgin" - cue laughter and her being all flirtatious and 'aghast'
*proceed to high jinx*
Bad example: *dancing with girl, cue nervous mumble* "I er have something to say. I er, don't know much about girls. I'm...er...a..virign."
You'll kill most attraction with most girls. You might get a sympathy f*** or maybe she's just really horny/ and/or desperate if you are really lucky.
Umm it he would probably look different in my eyes. But I think that would be in a good way. I would find him more genuin and I would feel like I was not just another girl.
I think is a turn on, but it's weird that you tell that right away...
But if the guy was good looking and hot I wouldn't believe him...
Why would a guy admit he's a virgin at a club? I think it's something that should be private, and something that you should be proud of.
personally I think that if your a virgin, it is all the better. for some ladys, but not for all.
I think its a turn on for a guy to be a virgin. It can be kind of hard to believe that a guy is a virgin...but I mean why would a guy through all the trouble and lie and say he's a virign...BUT IT IS a CLEVER trap. Some guys lie and say they are virgins just to get laid.
yea def. weird if that convo happens on a first meeting but no not a turnoff...it would be nice to know that not every guy has slept with a million girls
it is NOT a turn off!
Being a virgin myself, I prefer virgin > non-virgin. And being a virgin or not is not really a matter of confidence, but personal values and whatnot. Though I have to be honest, if I heard this in a club, from a guy, I would think he's lying, which is a HUGE turn-off--especially if I'm meeting him for the first time! It's just TMI.
Kind of. Because he might not have enough experience. Its not a turn-off. Its just ackward. If a girl has already done it lots of times and the guy is still a virgin than yeah it is a turn off. But if your both virgins then I guess not.
That would be a very good thing to me!
For your first time I think it's best you don't have a one night stand, but have it with someone you're more confident with or someone you know is also a virgin.
No matter what, you shouldn't say you're a virgin. But I'm not answering your question (though I'm still assuming you asked for indirect reasons, you don't simply want to know if telling someone you're a virgin will make a difference for the sake of it)
But yes, the psychology changes. It doesn't take an expert to tell you that.
The girls at the club don't want to hear that your a virgin.There's nothing wrong with being one its just the club is the wrong place to say it at, and realistically you don't go around saying your a virgin to every girl you just met.
True, I agree.
uhm I find it a turn ON if he's a virgin, a sense of innocense is attractice, but id hate it if he lied about it I like the truth as most girls do. its a turn on because it seems as if it won't be a night stand and he might have been CHOOISING to wait for the right girl...which makes me cute and not a man ho :)
I would def. be turned on by that, finding a virgin guy is WAY to hard
definitely NOT! I would love to date a guy who doesn't care if people know that he is a virin.
but yea, if he seemed overconfident then I might suspect that he is lying. but sadly, there's no real way of knowing =(
yyyyyyyyyumm, I looove virginss. they're so sweet and innocent, I love teaching them how to do it and showing them how good it feels. I also like having that one thing that no one else can take & the fact that I'll be remembered for a lifetime.
I need to find a girl like you!
@cakelin What if the virgin guy was in his late twenties? (28 for example)
It's a turn-on if the guy's a virgin by choice. However if it's not by choice, then yeah we have a problem. Turn-off.
I never assume someone's lying until they give me reason to.
Can you elaborate more on this especially on the choice part.
I'm just saying that if he is a virgin by choice, be it for religious reasons or whatever, then I think it's perfectly fine. It's not a deal breaker. However, if he's a virgin because he just can't get any, then that's just pathetic and sad.
I think guys who are less sexual than me are sort of turn offs because you have to be on the same sexual level, have the same sort of desires but virgins are fine. I like guys who are sort of experienced because then I don't have to do any work but I think virgin guys are sweet. Any girl that rejects you for being a virgin is a moron. I don't think confidence is a red flag reading virgin/liar just be cool.
No it's really rare to find that I think it's cute I'm a virgin also