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Guy made me deepthroat after first date?
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so I dated this guy for the first time and he seemed really nice. He was really being a gentleman and paying for everything, asked questions about whatI like and stuff. He offered a lift to my place and I let him in so I could give him a blowjob to thank him for the evening (I always do this if a first date goes well, and no I am not a slut, just not prude). At a certain point he grabbed my hair and started... well... making me deepthroat. And he was thrusting pretty hard. I worked on my gag reflexes so it didn't go wrong or anything, but I thought that's a little over the top for a first date. Especially for a guy who acted like a gentleman the whole evening. He said he really enjoyed it and I didn't get mad afterward, but I am not thinking about dating him again cause of this. What are your thoughts on this? Have you ever experienced this? ps: It's not that I hate deepthroating. It's just weird if a guy makes you do it on a first date without asking.
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13 20well not to be mean but he probably figured any girl who'd give him a bj on a first date to thank him for a nice evening assumed you'd be OK with deepthroating him too. basically he lost respect for you the minute you pulled his d*** out.
Giving all of your "gone well" first dates a BJ is over the top. Do you ever worry about catching something? (but keep doing what you enjoy) I do think that it was a little messed up for him to gag you, but at the same time I can't really blame him. If a woman was willing to suck my d*** after only a few hours of knowing them... a.) I'd instantly know that this isn't the chick for me considering she's giving herself away so easily.. b.) because of that I'd have my fun with her because I know she isn't relationship material...therefore take it as far as you can..he probably figured this was a one time deal at that point and just wanted to make it memorable and enjoyable. I can't get my girlfriend of 3 years to try this sh*t...f***!
Bite his d***. As hard as you can. Make him bleed. He won't try it again.
I think that's a little to much. I said I liked the guy and didn't really mind doing it if he would have asked. But at least thanks for taking my side on this one :)
You're welcome. I'm just saying...a bj becomes derogatory if the man forces the woman to do it. It sends an unconscious message to him that he can control you. If he asks and you agree, it becomes sexually pleasing for both parties. Just my two cents.
my feminazi radar is going crazy over here
Nope. But it's not reasonable for a guy to demand a blow job on the first date.
Did you swallow his cum?
i didn't want to be rude.. just curious.
Some shake hands, some give hugs. Me I would love a 'thank-you for a great first date' blowjob. May be a little much but who am I to bitch. Oh and since you are giving me head, can I return the favor or no?
Personally I like (and miss) the making out, the dry humping, breast massaging and sucking, even fingering her just to get a blowjob while on a date.
Yes you can! But its hard to stay in that realm lol
Well yes you have to work for your reward! First show her that you want to please her then she'll try giving you good head
I do not blame you. I hate it when a guy shoves his meat down my throat any further then I want it. Personally I hate being made to 'gag'. He was only out for his own pleasure. AND was forceful. Not what I would want in a partner, never mind as anything more. When I am with a female I would never "Force" her like that. Too me it is demeaning and close to a form of rape.
I would have scraped his shaft with my teeth or braces - accidently bit him. Ass wipe.
lol deepthroating is over the top but a bj isnt. lol and yes that does make you a slut.
If it makes her a slut for giving what does that make 'you' for accepting? Love the double standards.
its not a double standard its a different standard. men and women are different.
You sir, are an a**hole. I do what I want and don't need to be called a slut by you cause you're frustrated and never get laid. If you only want to bring negative vibes then stay away.
i get laid, also sure you can do what you want and that's fine. you're the one that said it makes you not a slut so I just had to correct you. if you didn't bring it up neither would i
the only guys who call girls sluts are the bitter ones who never get sex and so are jealous of girls and the guys who do get sex. and any guy who would accept a sexual favor from a "slut" is a "slut" himself (if you believe in the silly myth of sluts).
"men and women are different." "its not a double standard its a different standard." How?Both genders enjoy sex. If you call a woman who likes having sex a slut, then you should do the same for a man.
im not calling a women who likes sex a slut. that is an assumption you made. I'm calling a women who hands it out as a thank you so easily a slut
also no guys that get laid call women sluts too. I think this idea of only guys who can't get laid calling women sluts is what sluts tell themselves to make them feel better
Wanna know what I think? Every answer you type makes you look more pathetic.
not at all. it make me look more reasonable. every response you give me makes you look like you are just trying to justify your slutyness to yourself.
If a woman who sleeps with different men without having feelings for them is characterized as a slut, the same rule applies to a man who sleeps with different women without having feelings for them . Simple as that. Otherwise, it's pure hypocrisy.
sure they are categorized as the same thing, but they are not judged the same thing. that's just reality
well f*** reality cause that is just sexist. Now why do you keep ruining everyone's day with your sexist comments? No one gives a sh*t about your opinion on things cause that is just retarded.
who is everybody, and what is sexist about what I said? is our natural biology sexist. if so grow up young lady
What's surprising to me is not that he got aggressive in the heat of the moment during the blowjob you offered him...it's that you offered him a blowjob after your first date. Nothing wrong with that...it's just a little surprising.
I wouldn't judge him based on that alone. I'd give him a chance to show who he is.