Ok so I started this war. I gently hold my man around his neck (no pressure) when we're in missionary position with his back elevated. It my way of telling him, "Yes I love what you're doing to me, give me more"
But today he puts his hands on my neck and he was actually choking me. The more he saw my reaction, the more excited he became and the tighter his grip was. Admittedly, it scared me and while he was doing it, I started to wonder if he was
trying to hurt me. Stupidly, I didn't say anything, as he stopped after about 30 secs. I'm not sure I trust him enough for this2 0 1 0I agree with the chic above. Was choked for the first time recently and have been in this relationship for 3 years. Found it erotic yet trusted him that he wouldn't go to far.
0 0 0 0I like it, its hot. Its actually my fetish (the fear of being raped) but with someone you love. :D anyway. Its a dominance thing and a feeling of empowerment.
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Unless they know their girl likes that kind of rough play and likes their guy to be dominant like that, those kind of guys probably do that because they know she is a short term girl for them. Like to them it's fun to kinda choke them and get them gagging and any girl that takes that is about as low as you can get. They're just getting their rocks off and the more they can humiliate the girl the better. It like makes them feel big, strong and proud of their manhood to know they got a girl to take that shit and they have no respect for a girl that does. .
2 1 3 0I see your point but my guy knows I love it and we get rough but it doesn't mean at all that he's humiliating me I don't think, he treats me well otherwise. if he didn't treat me well otherwise than I would definitely see it your way.
Ok good, and thanks for your comment but you asked that question like you didn't know for sure why he liked doing that, so be aware of what I said. Most usually in a normal loving relationship, guys don't do that to girls they really love. How long have you been dating him or lived with him?
Ouch, that's really harsh.
yeah it's a little power trip. also if you seem to like it (and it seems a lots of girls sometimes like a bit of rough _play_) then he's playing that role a bit.
you never know, he might like the tables turned on him a bit, too.0 0 0 0I definitely like a little bit of rough play and the more we have sex the more he does it so he is just seeing what he can do with me and since I go along with it is why he is bringing a little more each time....thanks for the answer!!
Yep that sounds like it; it can be a bit odd to sit down & "discuss" this sort of stuff, as you know, so it's going to be a bit of trial & error, testing boundaries & so on. having said that if you feel things are starting to go a bit wild you should probably arrange a "safe" word where you agree to stop (make it something very obviously *not* something you might say in the course of play & is unlikely to sound like anything else eg "pyramid"). have fun ;)
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2 9Guys tend to want to be dominant, or feel dominant in bed. This is about having control over you.
1 0 0 0i only do it because she likes it
0 1 0 0Its a control/Dominance thing.
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80% dominance and 20% is that some guys actually like the idea of "RAPE" but they would never do it, so they just like 2 have rougher sex lol4 0 3 1I don't know! But some girls really go crazy for it! Do you might as well am why girls like it.
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