Sexual Relationships 
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Guys: Is sex your top priority in a relationship?
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I've been having a conversation with someone on GAG and they said something that I was curious to get your opinion on: "if a woman isn't fulfilling a guy's sexual needs, the rest of her good points won't matter. What guy says, "We don't have sex, but it's cool because we have such deep, meaningful conversations?" or "I don't think she's attractive, but she' s a great cook, so I'm happy." Guys crave certain stimulation -- visual appeal and sexual release that is both regular and novel. Without that, they will not love you." To give a little more information, the user said: "Ah, but keeping a man sexually fulfilled -- which means not only giving him sex 95% of the time he's in the mood, but also doing new things and making sure his orgasms are "intense" enough IS a male-female thing. If a female isn't sexually fulfilled -- it's considered her own fault, she's a "prude." If a guy isn't sexually fulfilled, it is also her fault." So, guys, is sex the most important thing in a relationship to you? If a woman doesn't satisfy you 95% of the time you're in the mood, do her other qualities not matter and you won't love her? This seems really far-fetched to me, so I'd like to know what you guys think.
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What Girls & Guys Said
5 24sex wouldn't be a top priority in a relationship for me. it would be nice to get some, I am not going to lie about that. I want more things in a relationship than just sex. otherwise I would just have a sex buddy. I would like to think if I am with a nice girl, and sex is not satisfying either of us, we can work on it, until we do satisfy each other. sex is like anything else, should be worked on. nothing is going to come easy.
something has to be challenge in a relationship? otherwise its going to be boring. I wouldn't like my girlfriend not to turn me on straight away. I see it as making the partner work for you to have an orgasm. sex should be adventurous. if she turns on straight away, what would be the incentive of her or me trying new things in the bedroom.
sorry, I meant I would not like my girlfriend to me turn me on straight away.
to be honest I can't really answer your question, never being in that situation, were a women has never satisfied my 95% of the time. how important is sex to in a relationship compared to other things? I would say its the same importance. all I can say its not a top priority.
The answers on this are very depressing...
Acknowledgements that some guys wouldn't want to be in a relationship if they wouldn't get to have sex? It's so shallow and depressing to think about. Since when is it just all about what the guy wants? (Oh, that's right, since forever.) I don't know why I bother with men and relationships anymore... things like this make me feel sick. I know sex can be good for a relationship but wow. What's the point anymore.
sadly I agree with your answer. but for me I just can't answer this question properly. let put it this way I would just like a girlfriend too spend the rest of my life and have a family. I don't want sex all the time for her for all my life. once I have had my family, sex can go out the window for me. I haven't sex in 30 years, I am not 30. what difference is it going to make with a girlfriend. I just want a family to settle down with.
Well, wasn't the question more about quality and frequency of sex? I mean...males & females do have sex...right?
i am now 30 sex is going to make sod all difference to me now. sorry I don't really care what other guys think of what me saying this. I know what I want in life. I only make it important with the partner I am with. and she feels about it.
well its face it, taster, its human nature to be never satisfied with anything. people always want more money, nicer cars. bigger houses. better time in bed. we always something bigger and better. what is quality sex? if my girlfriend gave a really good handjob, next time I would want a better one. after a while I would say. she is not satisfying me, because she is not upping the game. how do we define quality time in the bedroom? once a month, once a week, once a year.
It's possible I took her too literally...but she said this: "guys wouldn't want to be in a relationship if they wouldn't get to have sex?" Why have a marriage? Could just live with a male or female friend?
I think he's rather saying, men and women can't be just friends. Which is of course, true
Well, the conversation was about relationships. So like, if you got into a relationship with a woman who had a lower sex drive than you, her other qualities wouldn't matter to you and you wouldn't love her? Unless she had sex with you 95% of the time you wanted it, you wouldn't love her?
As long as she's having sex, it's fine. Relationships consist of sex, otherwise it's a friendship gone haywire. Which of course, isn't true because women and men can't be just friends
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"doing new things and making sure his orgasms are "intense" enough IS a male-female thing. If a female isn't sexually fulfilled -- it's considered her own fault, she's a "prude." If a guy isn't sexually fulfilled, it is also her fault." that part is not true.