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He called me someone else's name during sex...
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He said it didn't mean anything... And I really don't think he's cheating on me. He said the name he called me isn't someone he knows in his life, or has had sex with. And that he doesn't know where it came from. But I'm really, really hurt and I don't know what to do. We've been together for a little over a year, and everything has been great, so I want to try and get through this, as long as it doesn't happen again. He wants to make it better, but neither of us know how. I can't see him or think of him without crying or feeling like I want to die. I feel so ashamed... What should I do? What should he do? Should I forgive him?
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What Girls & Guys Said
33 31maybe she was on his mind don't read to much into it
jst give him a second chance
YES!You should forgive! I have Called out one of my EX's Names out during sex... my situation I was really drunk and the Jack was talking for me... I was near passed out when this happened I remember her on top and I said Rachel... when her name was Elsa... I literally thought it was Rachel ... she slapped me a few good ones and said what's my name... and I kept saying rachel, rachel (rachel was an ex of mine and when we dated she turned from stripping into an escort and then a p*rn star))so she was a slut in my eyes for doing what she did behind my back and ruining our really good relationship... and I freaked the hell out... And Elsa just beat the crap out of me... the next day she was upset... and told her Rachel would never be a girl I would sleep with or have sex with ever again.. and said she doesn't even live in this state no more and I have Stopped communication with Rachel for 2 years at that time.and I really don't care where that girl has been... and I thought I was dreaming and I apologized.. So that's my story... it happens. there is more to your story I bet...just like I explained in mine...but you should always forgive... because if you love him then you must trust him...and don't let that get in your way when it was just a mistake...
hey you should let him go because mere calling you some ones name means he is not thinking about you but the other person he is screaming out , run for your life before its late.
God,
I imagined this if it happened to me, I would go ballistic!
Find out what's up, and make your own decision from there
Lol I flip out when someone calls me a different name just like that, but during sex it would be DONE with lol. There's no excuse, at least for me, I would bounce. You have to respect yourself.
Was he drunk? I don't make sure it really isn't someone from his past? I would not like it. And if it really came out of no where isn't that just weird and if it keeps happening you will just end up feeling uncomfortable every time and eventually uncomfortable to even have relations with him and eventually the next man... things drag out it starts with one little thing and they just keep coming worse...
id say you have to pick your battles
Well its a hard situation because there could be many reasons the top 3 I can think of are 1 that he is cheating on you and was lying 2 you 2 he called you a name to make it seem sexier and 3 he was calling you a name from a previous relationship
Ouch!
I'd say its worth it to forgive him.
But at the same time... that's got to mean something... Lets hope its just a fantasy girl and not an actual chick.
Get to the bottom of it, or let it go... Its your choice.
Unless it was 'Oh God', I would probably be a little suspicious too. I may not keep on him about it, but I would definietly have my guard up...tuck it away and see what else plays out.
I hope it was a girl's name, at least.
wow..turrets syndrome..maybe
Was he behind you grabbing your hair and holding on for the ride? This is a 'rodeo' move where the guy holds on and calls out another girls name. She bucks like a bull. If he knows your female BFF's name, he'd use that.
He knows who it is but isn't going to admit it. But just see what happens, I can tell you this though, he's obviously in contact with them. There's no way you accidentally say someone's name that you haven't spoken to in a year. Try a week. I'd confront him and tell him how little sense he's making claiming he doesn't know where the name came from.
Hes not over who ever it is he mentioned, was thinking of them. Most people still think about exs you don't completly get over them, or forget. If its a deal breaker deal with it otherwise just accept he has a past and baggage as do you...
My friend used to always joke about an ideal girl, and he'd always give her a name like Ginger or something. We don't know any Gingers. In fact, he uses this name so often, I wouldn't be surprised if he repeated this mistake as well!
As for why your man did this, only he knows the answer. It's natural for you to be upset and take this as a warning. During sex though, that's pretty serious... and a simply tell you "I don't know where it came from" is a common cover-up lie that men use on the fly.
I don't know about your personality, but personally, once someone damages the trust between us, it's pretty much done for. Friendship or relationship.
"And that he doesn't know where it came from."
That's a lie. I don't call out random names during sex and I don't know anyone else who does. He knows this girl, I don't know if he knows her well or if he saw her in passing, but he knows this person, was fantasizing about her while with you. I do think this is a big deal and that you need to get to the bottom of it
Find out who it was... it was probably just an accident, but you can't really know without at least knowing who the name was. You shouldn't feel ashamed! It's 100% his fault.