He wants me to get an abortion... help (text messages attached)?
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So, me and this guy who I’ve been messing around with for over 3 years. No relationship, just a lot of sex and a bunch of confusion and stress. We had sex 2 weeks ago and he came inside me. I’m on birth control and I take it everyday at the same time but lately, I’ve been feeling really sick (stomach/ovary pains, muscle/body aches (in thighs, legs, lower/upper back, shoulders and arms), mild headaches, mild nausea, sore and heavy boobs, fatigue, etc.) so, I decided to take a pregnancy test Saturday and I don’t think I took it right, but it came out to be negative. I waited 3 more days and tested again Tuesday morning and it came back negative, but I looked at the test the next day and it was a faint positive line. I know I’m not supposed to look at the test after a certain time, but I feel really weird/uncomfortable and I’m thinking I could possibly be pregnant. My birth control “period” is supposed to come next Wednesday (in 6 days) and I’m trying to test again. I’m so confused because the white pill in my birth control pack is the pill that causes me to bleed, but it isn’t an actual period. I don't know when to test again. He hasn’t texted me since last night. He hasn’t made sure that I’m ok or anything and that sucks because I’m really losing it over here and I can’t stop crying and I feel like complete shit today. He hurt me yesterday and basically told me I shouldn’t keep the baby. I don’t want an abortion, I couldn’t live with it. He’s being a complete asshole right now and I just know he doesn’t care about me or my wellbeing. Pls help and give me advice.
Because of your lust, a child will die if you get an abortion. What weird people!
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Asker
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Who said I was getting an abortion? No one. I don’t believe in abortion. Lmao some of you guys are so annoying on here.
RoBesPieRRe
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OK, then.
Anonymous
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First of all you should discuss the "what if I get pregnant?" Before you have sex with a guy. Secondly get rid of this guy and take care of yourself like everyone has already said and lastly if you are pregnant be sure to take this asshole to court and make him pay his share in child support.
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Anonymous
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Okay first of all, you can have that child if you want to. Second, it may be best to wait until your period and then seeing about getting another test if it doesn't come.
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Anonymous
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He could be in the same state as you. He was just presented with the possibility that he's fathering a child. Yet it's all about you and your wellbeing? But he's being the asshole? You're both in this situation. He's got shit running through his mind that he has to deal with too.
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ciitruskiwi
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Its understandable that he is in shock but he doesn't have the right to be disrespectful. "We're not gonna have that hoe" who calls an unborn baby a hoe? Even if he is in shock he is still an asshole
Opinion Owner
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You're freaking out too and calling him an asshole. It's hardly a situation you can expect someone to handle perfectly. I think it's disrespectful to be worry about bullshit like disrespect at a time like this. What do you think about that?
Asker
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You sound stupid af
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Opinion Owner
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Exactly, it's stupid. So be sensible, think it through, grasp the full scope of what's going on and deal with the issues that actually matter.
ciitruskiwi
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I didn't say he had to handle it perfectly. There are lots of guys not expecting a chick to say she might be pregnant. Most of them don't call the unborn baby a hoe and tell the chick to get an abortion.
Anonymous
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Congratulations!
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Anonymous
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Seriously, what is wrong with both of you. There exists a fucking condom, why use pills that is not good for your health. And now you are ruining both of your lives with that child, you can't take responsibility, you can't afford another 20$ and you think you can raise a child? Seriously what is wrong with you people. And how the fuck did you come to like that guy, he wanted only sex from you. He will not help you nor take responsibility. With other words, you are both fucked.
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Anonymous
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I doubt you are preg having that many negatives. When the tests sit for awhile usually all lines will fill in which is why it is invalid. You should wait until after a missed period to check bc it sounds also like pms type which are similar to pregnancy. But honestly if he is that assy and you all can't even take care of yourselves you should certainly consider abortion. Being a single parent supporting 2 is super hard.
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12 20Because of your lust, a child will die if you get an abortion. What weird people!
Who said I was getting an abortion? No one. I don’t believe in abortion. Lmao some of you guys are so annoying on here.
OK, then.
First of all you should discuss the "what if I get pregnant?" Before you have sex with a guy. Secondly get rid of this guy and take care of yourself like everyone has already said and lastly if you are pregnant be sure to take this asshole to court and make him pay his share in child support.
Okay first of all, you can have that child if you want to.
Second, it may be best to wait until your period and then seeing about getting another test if it doesn't come.
He could be in the same state as you. He was just presented with the possibility that he's fathering a child. Yet it's all about you and your wellbeing? But he's being the asshole?
You're both in this situation. He's got shit running through his mind that he has to deal with too.
Its understandable that he is in shock but he doesn't have the right to be disrespectful. "We're not gonna have that hoe" who calls an unborn baby a hoe? Even if he is in shock he is still an asshole
You're freaking out too and calling him an asshole. It's hardly a situation you can expect someone to handle perfectly. I think it's disrespectful to be worry about bullshit like disrespect at a time like this. What do you think about that?
You sound stupid af
Exactly, it's stupid. So be sensible, think it through, grasp the full scope of what's going on and deal with the issues that actually matter.
I didn't say he had to handle it perfectly. There are lots of guys not expecting a chick to say she might be pregnant. Most of them don't call the unborn baby a hoe and tell the chick to get an abortion.
Congratulations!
Seriously, what is wrong with both of you. There exists a fucking condom, why use pills that is not good for your health. And now you are ruining both of your lives with that child, you can't take responsibility, you can't afford another 20$ and you think you can raise a child? Seriously what is wrong with you people. And how the fuck did you come to like that guy, he wanted only sex from you. He will not help you nor take responsibility. With other words, you are both fucked.
I doubt you are preg having that many negatives. When the tests sit for awhile usually all lines will fill in which is why it is invalid. You should wait until after a missed period to check bc it sounds also like pms type which are similar to pregnancy. But honestly if he is that assy and you all can't even take care of yourselves you should certainly consider abortion. Being a single parent supporting 2 is super hard.