Sexual Relationships 
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Help! I don't know what to do sex has gotten to be so bad with my girlfriend that I dread having sex with her.
Anonymous
everything is perfect in our relationship except the sex. For example this morning my girlfriend woke me up with a back massage then said “now its time for your happy ending”. She started kissing on my neck we started making out, we took off each others’ clothes then I started kissing her all over her body then she got on top of me grinding on me, I got on top of her running my hands up and down her body and when I was moving my hand down from her breast to her vagina she didn’t thrust her hips up like she does when she turned on or do any of the other things she does when she turned on. This really killed the mood for me but she then grabbed me and tried to put me inside her but she was completely dry so we grabbed lube and started having sex. About 10 minutes went by and she got on top of me started riding me and said “whats wrong I can tell you don’t want to have sex” I said “idk I'm sorry baby I'm just not really in the mood right now” then she got really upset. Sex with my girlfriend use to be amazing but now I dread it 9 times out of 10. Although she tells me she still finds me attractive and sex is amazing I can tell she is lying. We have only been dating for 4 months but we have been having sex for 10 months. For the past 2 months 90% of the time no matter how much foreplay we have she is not turned on before sex. she says she is turned on but I can tell she isn't. She is never the least bit wet before sex but that's not the only reason I think she isn't turned on. I have been having sex with her for 10 months I can tell when she is and isn't turned on. I've tried everything to turn her on like kissing her all over her body.. slowly getting more aggressive and making my way to kissing her neck down to the insides of her legs, talking dirty, being rough with her,.. all the things that use to drive her wild. The foreplay is always longer than 20min. The only thing that still turns her on is having sex places where we could get caught or if I use a sex toy on her. Anyways so after we've had 20-30 minutes of foreplay and she still not turned I no longer want to have sex cause I feel almost embarrassed. But if I don't have sex with her after foreplay she asks me why I won't have sex with her I tell her why and she gets really upset so I usualy have sex with her even though I'm no longer in the mood. Because she isn’t turned on it takes at least 40 min of really fast and hard sex for her to come whereas 2 months prior it only took her about 10 minutes to cum. I ask her what I can do to turn her on more she say she loves everything I do. I ask what I could do to make fingering her, eating her out, and sex feel better for her she just tells me I'm amazing at all those things. She won't help me find out what I can do differently or better to improve our sex life. She masturbates everyday so its not like she doesn’t know what she likesI just feel like she doesn’t want to be turned on by me anymore.I just don’t want to feel like this anymore and I don’t know what to do
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i don't really mean our sex life is bad I just put that because I knew it would draw more people to the question. the wetness has little to do with why I feel she isn't turned on. but thank you all for helping me out
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What Girls & Guys Said
33 46hi
im a male
She's cheating
Ouch. Jumping the guns a little?
Women like a guy who is in control of everything including sex. For my girl and me. I get her worked up in foreplay and intercourse and tell her... no I demand her not to cum. She's not allowed to cum until I tell her she can. She loves it and she has huge multiple orgasms.
When she tries to be in control of the sex she gets anal.
Go caveman on her. I promise you she will like it.
Sometimes we want to be fuxked to get turned on. And need more them 10 min of it.
Sexual chemistry is incredibly important. If it’s not there and you care about her MAN UP TELL HER AND FIX IT. If she legit cares about you she won’t be insulted and it’ll be better for everyone
Add new things, public sex, make it risky, try 3somes etc
Oh yeah...
I know from personal experience that if I get myself off, I don’t feel need the need to have sex? Maybe tell her to stop masterbating everyday and see how that goes.
Abstain from anything sexual for a bit and then anything sexual will turn her and you on really fast
Either she has a horomonal problem or she’s not attracted to you or you suck or something else
Dont do sex straight forward, tease her for a few minutes before going inside untill she begs You to
she's prob cheating on you the turn on and interest seems to be lacking but just my opinion
Eat her pussy and make her cum she'll get wet :) satisfy her first before yourself.
That's what I like to do, and then she will have had bonus orgasm pre sex if she cums during penetration then she has that much more to be thrilled about.
Maybe take a break and let it happen naturally. I know for me it's not just a physical thing, it's emotional. Maybe try a romantic date- no pressure so if it's there, cool. If not, enjoy each other's company