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How can I find someone who is NOT a "boob guy"?
Anonymous
It seems all my male friends are boob guys... judging from p*rn and the media, it just seems that all guys are boob guys. My ex was a boob guy. The problem? I have small t*ts. Small as in, just a handful. Not completely flat, but definitely no head turner, and I have to wear a very good push up to have cleavage. My friends who have big boobs get a ton more attention, even though they're overweight and I'm not. I have a big butt, which some uys have shown interest in, but let's face it, there are lucky girls who have big boobs and a big butt. My ex left me traumatized. We started going out and he was all chivalrous and charming and I fell for him. So when he started making comments about other women's big boobs and my own lack of size, it was too late, also he used the old, tired line of "I love you for other reasons, boob size doesn't matter, I prefer big, so what? get over it". Yeah, yeah, how would he have felt if I'd told him "Hey, I prefer someone taller, but I love you for other reasons" or "Hm, I'd prefer it if you were 3 inches longer, but get over it, I love you for other reasons!". In the end, it just made me feel self conscious. I don't get why he told me those things, why he had to talk about other women's breasts, knowing mine are small. But what I just don't get is if he was such an obvious boob guy, why waste his time and mine by being with me if he obviously wanted someone with bigger breasts? I don't wear padded or push up bras often, so it should have been evident that I wasn't "well endowed" from the beginning. I mean, I get some guys like big boobs but aren't too bothered and are just as attracted to small boobs. But he expressed dissatisfaction with mine, so what was the point of dating me? With the huge amount of boob guys out there I'm afraid that I'll go over and over this again... so how can I find a guy who is not a boob guy without needing to take a survey? I found out I don't like being with guys who settle for my body, or who think I have "shortcomings", since I don't go out with guys I'm not attracted to physically (not that I have high standards, as I'm really flexible when it comes to physical attraction).
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What Girls & Guys Said
5 43i am a butt guy, not into boobs at all, if anything the bigger the boobs the more, it turns me off that girl. so are most of friend are into the butt.
if guys are not dating you cause of your boobs, then they are not worth it. maybe you should look else where? maybe you are hanging round with the wrong type of men. don't get surgery just cause no man likes for small.handful boobs. there is plenty of men that don't about boobs.
Im more of a booty guy. Boobs I prefer around a b or c cup, but if I had a choice id take a nice ass over boobs any day of the wk. Its just each persons preference really.
I'm sorry you had a bad experience with a guy. Unfortunately there are probably more people that aren't compatible with you than are in this world. Your amount of boobage (can I call it that? lol) sounds great to me but some other guys might crave more than a handful which is their right but when they get judged on their d*** size they get even more sensitive than girls. Size really doesn't matter that much, we all have our little fantasies but I've never heard of any of my guy friends dumping a girl over small boobs EVER and I've never heard of a dude getting dumped for a small d***.
the question is how can I find a guy who digs MY size and doesn't want what I can't provide (like my ex)?
Find a guy that likes you for your personality. Only younger guys and p*rn addicts are obsessed with breast size as a status symbol type thing. Most guys do not care, honest! If a girl has a great personality and her lifestyle and dress style are compatible with mine her breast size is last on my list of priorities. Don't let my answer make you think I have less of a desire for small breasts, my most intense crush ever was on an A cup girl and I fantasized about sucking her.