How can I finger myself for the first time?

I´m a virgin, I´m 18, and before I start having sex I want to finger myself. I masturbate sometimes, but I´m so afraid of touching myself down there with my fingers, that I rub something against it instead of using my hand. Well, I don´t want to be afraid anymore and I want to know how can I lose this fear and how can I slowly and carefully start touching my clit and fingering myself without hurting me.

My biggest concern is blood and pain. I´ve seen my hole and it´s tiny because nothing has entered me before. I don´t think even my pinky could enter me, not that I tried before...

What if it bleeds? What if it hurts?
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  • I used to be the same way. Start with just rubbing yourself with your fingers. That was something I started doing really early cause I just happened to discover it at a young age haha. It isn't painful at all and doesn't make you bleed, only feels good! Once you feel comfortable with that, you can start with fingering.

    Fingering usually doesn't make you bleed. I'm a virgin too and it took me a long time before I was able to finger myself, because I was scared too. It does hurt a little at first, but if you keep doing it then it gets better quickly. However, I don't know if you fool around with guys or not, but if you do, consider getting the hang of fingering from someone else rather than yourself.

    For me, fingering still doesn't feel good when I do it. When I first started letting guys do it, it hurt to the point that I had to stop them. But if you have a guy you can trust, let him know to be really gentle. After a few times, it will stop hurting. After a few more times, it will start feeling good :)

    I'm also really tight, as I've heard from various guys lol; I used to think nothing would fit either, but we're made for things to fit in there! That's what it's for :) It was easier for me to get used to someone else doing it, but if you want to do it yourself that's totally fine.

    But anyways, there's no need to be as scared as you are! Baby steps will get you a long way. Good luck :)

    • Damn hoe lmao

    • @Ludfoe LMFAOOO

  • rub your clit for a while first to get wet, and then slide a finger in. It will go in easily, trust me. Every girl who's never masturbated freaks out about being 'so small' and 'nothing could fit in there' but it will 99.9% of the time. Soon you will be able to fit 2 fingers.

    Once you have your finger in (try index or middle) bend it in a "come here" motion, and repeatedly press on the wall that's there. Its hard to explain, but you really need to get down there and spend a while playing with yourself to find out what you do and don't like. This is just what works for me but you may be different.

    • Thanks for the advice!

    • Also, if you can’t use a vibrator (for any unknown reason because I’m very late) you can use an electric toothbrush or other household item. Those feel amazing and can easily turn you on.

    • Thank you so much for this is is helping!

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  • If you're an extrovert: Just do it.

    If you're an introvert: Wet your hands with water, just water, and then creep into your own underwear and molest yourself allowing you to get you in a way you never had before. When you're done go through that denial stage and then go through acceptance and do it again, and again, and again.

    Believe it or not it is unlikely you will break your own hymen. It takes quite a bit of pressure and ... well you'd have to do that in purpose.

  • Okay so, first of all you need to relax; it helps you calm down as well as making you enjoy it a whole lot better. Use calm music if it helps. You need to first get wet, and you can do so by massaging your boobs, and rubbing your t*ts as well as rubbing your clit. This helps you feel amazing and gets you wet. Since it will be your first time, just keep rubbing your clit to get really wet and don't think about the pain or blood because there will not be any. Slowly move your index finger inside your hole and that's all! Continue with rubbing your clit if you want to be more wet. But that is all there is to it and trust me you'll feel amazing :)

  • Please read this article. The story of your hymen breaking and bleeding, and ther eyeing a lot of pain the first time you are penetrated are largely myths.

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    • So relax, take your time, and use lube if necessary.

    • Thank you so much, that article was great!

    • You are welcome. Have fun

  • Listen, I know when teenagers reach a certain age their hormones get all jumpy and start goin crazy.. but your only 18 so even if u want to, dont do it at all. Just wait for the right time. So that way you won't have to bleed or feel pain. But if u were to do it.. which I hope its not now lol but the reson why it'll hurt is because the body is nit used to that kind of opening because your a virgin. But if u was to have it recently which u fidnt then it would've been alright and hurt less or not hurt at all. But honey I think u should just wait. K?

    • Bro I don't know where you got your information but that is all wrong. They shouldn’t wait because when they get to the point of being with a guy they need to know what they’re comfortable with and what they like in bed, I honestly can’t imagine a girl waiting until it gets to that point to do anything sexual.

  • Now that you're gooten comfortable how do you know if your doing of right

  • I want to try it too actually

  • it feels really good once u get use to it

  • Ok on a scale to 1-10 how bad does it hurt for your first time

  • What should I do if I can't feel anything?

  • U can trust ur guy he will help u... jst ask to be very gentle

  • It won't hurt and there shouldn't be blood.

  • Forgive me for saying this, but are you really a girl?

    • I believe it. It's better than the "my arms are too short what do I do?" questions.

    • "she" never even fingered herself in the shower or toilet, least to clean up and around after peeing? Sorry, something isn't right with this question.

    • What? of course I am a girl. And I have no problems cleaning myself down there or even shaving. I am a bit scared of feeling pain the first time something enters me and I would prefer to go through it by myself than with a guy. I think its weird that another girl doesn't understand this...all the other girls did. Maybe you are the one who is a boy.

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