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I don't like giving blow jobs?
Anonymous
I think it's unfair that most guys expect blow jobs in a relationship, I don't expect anyone to give me oral sex, no one ever has given me it! But they have always expected me to give them a blow job. I hate it. Seriously guys go suck on a penis and tell me how you liked it! I bet you wouldn't enjoy it. Your jaws and neck ache after about 30 seconds, You Gag, All you can smell are sweaty balls and ass, feel cold hairy/spiky balls against your face, Semen tastes like crap, smells sweaty, salty, and disgusting. It is the consistently of runny snot. It's disgusting, uncomfortable and I hate it. But most guys will dump you if you don't do it. Besides it's bad for your health I don't want a STI in my mouth! oral sex is the main cause of oral cancer. Maybe I'll do it if the guy wore a flavoured condom... But no that's not good enough for them doesn't "feel as good". Selfish assholes.
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why are people still answering this? it's over 2 months old. No one's going to change my mind on blow jobs, ever. It was just a rant because I hate how guys are such animals about sex, it is disgusting.
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51 81I don't like recieveing bjs so there you go but there is no way I could not eat the p**** =)
i had a girl who didn't like giving oral sex. but she wanted me to go down on her whenever she wanted. so I decided there was only one place for this princess, and that was at somebody elses castle besides mine. the end.
It's always amazing to me how many people have very poor sex life, it's awful!
You are obviously very frustrated and I feel sorry for you, you clearly have zero fun in your sex life and that's a pity.
Forget about blowjobs, ask a guy to lick your p**** and come back telling us how good and wonderful that feels. That will be a good first step in the right direction. Tons of guys will do that for you.
Okay well where are these guys then? I have only met guys that want but don't give. I have never been in love or had a serious boyfriend and I'm 20, so yes my sex/love life probably does suck and I hate it.
These guys are everywhere! For all you know even the guys you have been with would have licked you! Post a question with a poll asking guys who would lick a girl's p**** and who wouldn't. You'll get a clear answer on the fraction of guys who'd do that, I'm betting it's very very high. That'll convince you mist guys loveto lick pussies!
Why didn't they then? closest I got was him putting spit on his fingers and fingering me! I don't want to ask, I don't want them to do it unless they want to. I don't really care if I don't get oral I just think it's selfish that they demand it and expect it but don't even consider doing it to me. Sex should never be one sided. I guess the guy didn't like me that much anyway I know I just got used. I'm really shy and a bit of a introvert so I doubt my sex life will be changing anytime soon.
You said they demanded a blow job from you, but you didn't ask for oral sex. I think you should realize it's important to be proactive in life. You say you don't want to ask and that they should do that naturally and enjoy it, on the other hand you'd never suck a guy unless he asks you to because you hate doing it anyway. Your attitude is all backward, sorry! I think you are very sexually frustrated, but it'll take one guy with a good tongue to blow your mind away and help you. Good luck!
I don't ask for it because I know what it's like to be asked to do somthing you don't want to do. You still do it becuase you want to make them happy, but really you hate it. If the guy liked giving oral he would just do it. Plus I don't really want someone to go down on me I'm self conscious of my vagina. I just wish I could find a guy who did't want blow jobs, but I guess that's pretty rare. It's a deal breaker for most guys. But there is more to life then sex. If he likes me it shouldn't matter
I totally disagree with you but I wish you to find someone you like and that you guys be happy
What part do you disagree with? That blow jobs are a deal breaker? Or that there is more to life then sex? Or something else?
Just your general pessimism, fatalism and passive attitude. It's your life though, you are entitled to do as you please.
Your guy needs to wash up before sex. Simple as that. Then you won't smell ass and vinegar scrotum, and all that sweet stench.
Guys will smell after a work out or a long trail hike, that's normal. You get used to it so long as it gets cleans before you put your mouth on it. As for mouth cancer, I don't have it and I've being giving felltio for over a decade now, plenty of times without a condom -- not bragging here, just letting you know it doesn't apply to everyone.
I don't have a guy. I'm just talking about past experences. Even if they have just come out of the shower it's still disgusing. It's not just that though it is actually uncomfortabe for me, it hurts my jaw and neck and I find it difficult to keep my teeth out of the way.
Your jaw muscles will strengthen and you'll learn to keep your teeth out of it -- depending on how big the guy is. If you like guys as I do, you'll find pleasure in this, in touching him with your mouth (just think about it -- you got a guys part in your mouth, it's very erotic when you think about it. With the right guy, you may grow to love it as I do).
I can't open my mouth very wide either, I'm only small. It really is not a nice experience for me. I hate it and I wish I could find a guy who didn't expect them but that's a hard thing to do especially at my age, all they care about is sex.
HOLY SHIT..this is funny as hell. You know what in many cases I agree with you. I don't really like to give head either. I get tired and my mouth hurts after awhile. I also try very hard to not puke on him. The way I see it is you have to take the good with the bad. Most men like it. If you ever meet a guy someday who doesn't ever ask you to do it...YOU MIGHT WANT TO...that's how it is for me..if he doesn't ever ask or make a deal of it..I kind of want to...
Here's the truth of the matter, well you might as well get used to giving head, because once you start dating another guy and you tell him you don't give head, he won't stick around very long.
if a guy only gets into a realtionship for sexual favours he's an asshole and I want nothing to do with him anyway. So I will be the one doing the dumping, not him.
well then don't expect to have a boyfriend for very long.
first off...BJ with condom on are lame and not worth it. Second you do not have to give a guy a BJ to keep a relationship. If that is the case you are better off them dumping you. Now...BJ's are a nice gesture but not required. It is something you should want to do for your boyfriend as a sign of love. But he should be willing to go down on you in return. It is only fair. I would hold out for equal ground on this one. Here is a good trick a girl did to me once.. Tell the guy you will give him a panguin blowjob. If he ask what that is..tell him...you will see...make sure he is standing...pull down his pants and his boxers...give him a couple sucks to make him hard...then stand up and walk away...he will try to run after you but will end up waddling like a panguin. lol
lolol -)
If your jaw hurts and you're gagging then you're not doing it right. First off, you suck on it (I usually alternate between sucking on the head and licking the shaft). You don't just open your mouth and bob your head up and down on it. For the gagging part, you need to relax your throat when you're taking him all the way in. If you're still gagging then simply don't deep-throat. As for the smell, tell your man to take a shower. My boyfriend never smells bad, because he cleans himself. Lastly, you don't have to let a guy come in your mouth (I only do when I'm feeling especially generous). Just ask him to come on your chest or something. Giving head IS a choice, you should never HAVE to do it, but understand that there is something to be said for being able to give a man incredible pleasure.
Really? I love it.
i didn't let my girlfriend do it until she was ready and the was three years into the relationship. and if she never wanted to do it then that would have been fine. I gave oral to her but I was happy doing it, she now loves giving head. just wait and if he pushes you, tell him no and if he continus then he's only looking sexual relationship.
I'm curious, don't you enjoy receiving oral sex?
Every partner I've been with except one initiated oral without being asked. Virgins who didn't want intercourse did it as something really special for me without compromising their cherry. Some others finished me that way as they didn't want me to finish in thier pu$$y for less chance of pregnancy. Some others thought it was a nice way to start things off.
The one exception hated the idea and never did it over a three year relationship. It is something I enjoy, but nowhere near as much as intercourse so I'd probably be happy if I never had another in my life. You'll probably find someone who it isn't a big deal to either.
> I'm angry and hate my life. Yes I am shy and introverted IN REAL LIFE
Sounds like you have been abused by some total a$$holes. Try to calm down though. The guys you go on to meet won't be the ones responsible for how badly you feel now. Give them a break until you have cause to dislike them, and you'll come over as someone more fun to know who guys will want to get to know and in time to love.
From the trail below you are obviously pretty obsessed on this one and though you have asked the question you don't seem to want people opinions.
For me 2 things stand out, you said "Unfortunately I have never had a good one. I'm 20 years old, never had anyone want to be my boyfriend..." That is very sad. Sex is mechanical, and if you are only putting out to be popular or keep a guy then the sex will not be good. Also you say you never asked for oral yourself! Well good reason, you can't shoot people because they have not done something they didn't know you liked/wanted.
Remember you are only 20 and at that age and level of immaturity lots of people, male and female, are not 100% on what they like never mind what their partner wants.
Go out there, find a man who wants you and don't let yourself get pushed into situations you don't like.
Your body is an amazing gift to give to someone make sure both of you appreciate that.
I didn't post this question to get pepople oppinions I posted it to have a rant. I don't want to ask for oral because I don't want it that badly. I jusy think it's rude a guy tells me to do it and dosn't even care about me, we had sex and he only cared about his pleasure then never even called me again. I got used and it made me feel like crap. I'm not going to go out there and find a man, no one wants me (other then to get themselfs off) so there's no point.
Perhaps next time don't post where the standard process is for people to repy and try and help. Your experience is from one night stands then? You are making your own rant sound silly. As I said get ourself out there and find someone who likes you for who you are.
No it wasn't from a one night stand. I'm not ever going to meet someone who will love me, I haven't yet and I'm 20 so why is that going to change? I'm too shy and don't have many friends, and have no way of meeting a man because all I do is stay at home or go to work, my life sucks I'll just have to deal with it.
No problem meeting guys at work or travelling to or from. I'm 37 and only had 2 proper girlfriends my wife I didn't meet till I was nearly 30. I don't have many friends but don't let that get me down, often. Meeting the right person can be difficult but it is worth it for the years of pleasure that you will experience.
Im never going to meet a guy getting to and from work because my mum drives me. I won't meet a guy at work because the guys that work there are older then me and already have wifes. I don't see how I'm ever going to meet someone.
You have to put youself out there it won't just come to you on a plate.
Yes I know that but I am not confident enough so I would rather not, it's not worth the heartbreak.
Cheekynicko is probably the most patient with you and positive. also which country do you reside in? in uk there a definitely free help lines you could speak to. and most guys do not find vagina's ugly we like them, hence we look at p*rn. also if you are simply going to say no to everything then there is no helping you. sorry. cold but that's it.
Australia. I don't want to talk to anyone on the phone I'm shy and don't like it. I will get over it guys arnt worth being angry and upset over I don't even know why I want one my dog is better company and she loves me for who I am. I don't need sex or a boyfriend, ever. So I don't know why I'm even upset. For your information not all vaginas look like they do in p*rn some are ugly like mine.
seen plenty of vag's never really found one that ugly, besides you get used to it. gonna take you decades to get anywhere on that, if you make it that far. good luck. bye
You've never seen one "that ugly" well they can't have all been attractive then. I don't think mine is attractive there is too much skin on the inner lips. Gonna take me decades to get anywhere on what?
You don't need to date guys who like blowjobs (which is about every guy out there). Simple solution.
This is like a guy saying he hates the idea of going to college. Tough s***! You gotta either beat em' or join em'. If you don't offer something that replaces a blowjob, then you will simply have lower value than most women who do.
You've just been unfortunately meeting the wrong guys. If he cares about you, he would eat you out and make sure you have an awesome orgasm before him.
then don't do it. if a guy respects your wishes then he's a good guy. if he's expecting it, well f*** him...not every guy is such an asshole although most are.
Maybe because its still on the website and still pops up. I still have questions from ages ago that still get answered. I love guys that are animals when it comes to sex. What a turn on Roar baby roar! lol
Obviously had a bad experience. Yes I def think your boyfriend needs to be clean, free of STI's and shaved down there to make there experience much better. Yeh def not good if it smells down there... but same as on a girl. We should shave/wax, shower regularly and look after ourselves too out of repect for ourselves and our partners. I love giving head! I swallow too a lot of the times I haven't even noticed he's come... I think if anything it tastes a little tangy/salty but pretty much like nothing so I don't think its all that bad. Why not let him blow on your face/t*ts/chest? I think its fun to watch them come on you and kinda turns me on! ;) I think its just like sucking on a big lollypop... surely you enjoy that? Maybe get some nice flavoured lube that you like start off with just a plain old massage on his d*** lube it up then go from there.. I think giving head is fun... mix it up try new things... and the pleasure of seeing my boyfriend squirm, making funny faces and then coming all over me is something nothing else can replace ;) Its an experience all on its own! ha ha Lighten up girlfriend and give it a go. Its always scary first few times but its not that bad. Really =)
you clearly have issues you say you are shy and introvert but don't hesitate in to insult my gender and are clearly not brave enough to actually put a name to your question.
life is much more important than sex but if sex and oral is not a big deal then it does not matter if you do it or you don't rather than judging everyone else. you clearly don't like yourself and makes me wonder if you self harm.
go talk to a counselor and sort yourself out because you are heading down a bad road. either that or you are a troll who just wants some reactions.
also sti's, you don't mind sti's in your vagina but not in your mouth? come on, think it through
you just sound pissed off and self righteous, maybe you are the ass hole. you've already said you are self-conscious about your vagina. why? clearly you have not had someone give you oral sex in a way that you may enjoy but don't want to even try and improve it.
both genders can do things to make oral sex all better, wash before it, shave or cut a little hair to cut down sweat. fruit juice and honey etc can deal with tastes. but dudes can change there diet to make it taste less bitter anyway. plums celery pineapples etc. avoid smocking and alcohol and read meat prior to sex exercise.
you are 18. how many dudes have actually dumped you due to oral sex being the "deal breaker" you got that from sex and the city didn't you?
also on oral sex
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I am pissed off I have been treated very badly by a guy, he was very selfish and he took advantage of me. I haven't had much experience with men, so I can only look back on the bad times. Unfortunatly I have never had a good one. I'm 20 years old, never had anyone want to be my boyfriend, never had anyone to love, just get treated like a pice of sh*t and I'm angry and hate my life. Yes I am shy and introverted IN REAL LIFE I don't care on here, I don't know any of you
and I don't have to be myself online, I can be angry and rant because it makes me feel better. Yes I'm self conscious of my vagina, most girls are I think it looks ugly, so maybe he thought so too that's why he didn't go down on me, probably not he's just a selfish ass. I know life is much more important then sex, but guys my age don't seem to think so I doubt I'll ever meet one who dosnt want it. No I don't like myself and I don't like my life. I can't afford to go to a councellor and I don't want to.
and you can get STI's in your mouth just as easy as in your vagina, and guys won't wear a condom for oral so it's pretty risky. At least they wear condoms for vaginal sex because they are scared of babies