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I found a missing condom from my boyfriend's "stash" - should I assume he's cheating?

So I have been with my boyfriend of five and a half months. We started having sex a month and a half into our relationship and we are just fine, or so I thought. I know that he is into me and he knows that I am into him. We have had a couple of small disagreements but no large fights or anything like that to where we wouldn't speak to each other. But I noticed that he bought two boxes of three condoms each when he tried having sex with me when I was on my period about a month ago. So two weeks ago and last weekend we had sex. So two condoms being used. I see this morning that a box of condoms were thrown in the trash and there was no sight of a third one but I saw the other box nearby on his desk. We didn't have sex last night. I saw a used condom in his trash can but I can't judge from when that occurred. I haven't confronted him about the missing condom but I asked if guys "j.o.'ed" with a condom before and he said probably but he hasn't though it seems to make sense to an "easier clean up". I asked if his roommate and girlfriend have had sex and he says he doesn't wanna know (so eliminates giving one to borrow. His other roommates are single as can be and don't really go out and talk to girls at all). So now all I can think of is he either used that last condom for a very weird thing or cheated on me which I wouldn't know when that would've happened because I'm talking to him every night. But I do recall him saying that his roommate's girlfriend dropped off late Valentine's gifts for him and I on his desk and he didn't know about it until he got home from class or work (forgot which one). So maybe she stole a condom though he doesn't know if they'd have sex or not? (doubt that's the reason). So I'm not sure if I should assume anything or let it play cool until I see another missing one or what. What do you all think?
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Now looking at everyone's answers, maybe I am paranoid. I was cheated on in the past a lot by a particular ex and missing condoms was a way I found out. He has never cheated in any of his past relationships, they were the ones who would screw him over.
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Maybe after you talked about the idea of using a condom to masturbate, he got curious and decided to try it. Or maybe he gave the condom to someone else or they took it without asking. There are a lot of possibilities. I think it's unlikely that this is any real sign that he's cheating- I mean, if he WAS cheating and trying to keep it a secret, he would probably be a lot more careful with the evidence, I would think anyway.

    But I think if this is bothering you, you should just ask him about it. You don't need to be accusatory, just say you noticed that a condom got used up since the last time you two had sex, and you're curious where it went. The boxes are small, so it's not that weird that you would notice this.

  • I don't think he's cheating. Unless there have been a history of cheating or other incidents that have occurred then I would not be worried. You two sound good to me and him cheating now would not make sense to me. Next time you are together you can always bring it up casually and ask what he did with the other one. It doesn't have to sound confrontational. Just practice for it to sound very laid back. There are so many possibilities that can explain the missing condom anyway.

  • Honestly, I think you should ask him. If he's a good enough guy like you say and if he's really into you like you believe he should be willing to give you a straight up answer.

    You have the right to know if the guy you're giving your body and heart to is faithful to you. All I can say is I hope you won't get hurt <3 I really do.

    But if you have suspicions ask him. Get your answers :) I wish you luck!

Most Helpful Guys

  • I think it would be weird to let him know that you knew the exact number of condoms he has and now he has one less. Just keep your guard up for now.

  • You shouldn't be snooping. That's what I think.

    • It's her right to know. If someone is cheating on someone else, they have a right to know the truth. If you were cheated on wouldn't you want to find out?

    • It's a woman's right to jump to conclusions.It then causes endless problems,until they find the truth.

    • Communication is the key.

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  • odnt you think that's a bit paranoic? maybe he just inflated one because he was kind of bored... besides, do you really keep count of your boyfriends condom stack?

  • A friend may have needed one, and he offered to give up one of his. It happens

  • no, ask him where it went

  • he fuck another girl get over it

  • Pardon, this was a triple box? And he used two out of it?

    Have you considered he might have just tossed the remaining one in a drawer, or in his car, and threw away the box? Sheesh, girls are paranoid.

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