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I found my underwear in my roommate's room, and then another surprise.

My roommate is a 24-year-old guy. Yesterday when he had just left for work I went into his room to borrow his phone charger and I saw a pair of my thong underwear and my bra sitting on the floor beside his bed. I gave him the benefit of doubt and thought maybe it was another girls that he had over and maybe she had the same underwear because it was a common matching pair from Victoria secrets. I went back to my room to check and see if my underwear was still there and needless to say those were the two missing. I walked back over to his room to take them thinking and hoping maybe they just got caught up in the laundry. Well when I picked up my thongs I felt that they were soaking wet. I looked a little closer and they had come all over them and more come inside the cups of my bra. It grossed me out, I had his stuff all over my hands. I drop them back on the ground and left the room and washed my hands for like 20 minutes. I don't want the underwear back now I might as well just tell him he can keep them. I later went back into the room and set my underwear on his dresser to see if he notices they moved. It's not a surprise to me that he masturbates in his room, I know every guy does and I am fine with that. It just pisses me off that he went into my room and stole my underwear and then ruined them, not to mention I keep my private toys in my underwear drawer. How do I confront him? What should I say or should I just not say anything and see what he does now that I noticeably moved the underwear? Thanks for the answers in the meantime I will be washing my hands still.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Write up a bill, for the cost of the clothes he ruined.

    Give it to him in an envelope, and simply say "Pay the bill and never do it again, and we'll say no more about it. Otherwise, we're going to have a problem."

    Then leave the room.

    Let him open the envelope and see what the story is, on his own.

    If he gets shamed while you're there, he may react negatively - denial, aggression, something else. Don't make his shame public, and avoid the possible negative reactions. He'll know he got off lucky. And you get money for some new clothes.

    Or a new room mate.

  • I suspect he wanted you to find the evidence, otherwise he would have got rid of or hidden the evidence. As a longtime masturbator, I assure you that even after cumming most of us take care to hide the evidence from people we don't want knowing about our solitary pleasure. On other occasions, I have left signs of solitary pleasure where they would be seen, e.g. a tube of lube by my bed but I've never stolen anyone's undies. Either you confront him and live with the consequences or get a new roomie.

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  • Go to him casually and say,

    "I've been missing a bra and underwear have you seen it?" describe the way they look.

    If he seems to not remember, then say, "I could have sworn I seen them in your room. Why do you have them there?"

    Bring it up that way.

  • Tell him to stop stealing your stuff and he owes you a replacement because he ruined the other set. He will know what you are talking about and probably be so embarrassed that he won't do it again.

  • Get a lock on your door asap and give him what for. Invasive, thieving creep.

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  • That is like really weird.
    I have no real answer on how to confront him about it.
    If you want to be sneaky, ask him to go shopping with you. Then go into VC's and get another set, and have him pay for it.
    Or, ask him for a pair of his. Then return them with lube dumped on them. Add some capsaicin cream just in case, nasty little surprise.

  • Guys probably won't notice the small details. That's why we get caught a lot because after we come it's like some natural roofie. We miss a piece of evidence because we are feeling that woosy effect like a heroin junkie. Women are meticulous and are naturally suited to be a mob cleanup crew.

    I'd sit him down and ask him if he finds you attractive. Set him straight that you aren't into him. Let him know that you found your pair in his room that just might get him $50 if he dropped it off at a sperm bank by how much seed is in them.

    One thing to keep in mind, he might be the type of person to hide a camera in your room or even in the shower.

  • Is there n update?

  • don't forget to use liquid soap because water is not enough.

    just tell him you dislike what he did because it disrespected your privacy and was considered a steal.

    by the way, if you think you still need to wash your hands then what about your keyboard ?

    • lol true I think I'll wipe down my keyboard too

  • Use your words. "Don't go into my room. Don't take my things, and don't masturbate on my things."
    If this continues to be a problem, you need a new roommate. This is not acceptable behavior.

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