I hate being a guy, hate being a male, why does everyone say it is better to be a male than a female?

[Anonymous]

Seriously, whenever there is a battle of the sexes, gender debates, arguments, discussions, too many people say, both men and women, say it is easier to be a man than it is to be a woman, that men have life easier than women, or just guys have it easier than girls, more often times I hear guys say "i would hate to be a girl, I love being a guy" but almost never the other way around, the excuse that I hear people say all the time is that because girls have to endure child-birth, periods, pregnancy, etc. Why do people make such a big deal out of that? why do girls, women, make it out to be that is such a difficult thing to deal with? Besides that, how do males have life easier than females? Okay I will be honest, the reason why I hate being male, I hate being a man is because I hate having to always be the one to approach, I hate having to initiate everything, I hate taking charge, initiative, because I hate being rejected with a huge passion, I hate how we guys have to have confidence, be extremely comfortable and content with ourselves, we have to be responsible all the damn time, we have to want to always improve ourself, we have to not get validation or approval from others. So why should I be happy, proud that I am a Male? The reason why I wish I was born a Female, girl at times is because I bet if I was born a girl, I would have had a boyfriend along time ago, eventhough I'm straight, because girls do not need confidence, they do not need to be comfortable and content, secure with themselves, they can be desperate, want a guy for validation but we guys are not supposed to want a girl for validation. I hate all the work we guys have to do in order to be Masculine, a so-called "Man", and I still don't understand why it is easier to be a guy than it is to be a girl, a girl can have low self-esteem and get a guy but not the other way around. Seriously, it pisses me off so much about what girls expect in guys, the standards, requirements as to what makes a guy boyfriend material, it makes me angry so much it makes me want to explode like George Sodini did a few years ago.

[_Lisa_]

Lets face it, guys have it easy.

Just imagine being a girl...

You get your period every month for a whole week. A few spoons of blood? Haha, no way. It's a fucking bucket every time. Those nice pants/skirts you had - garbage. Those fun activities you planned - canceled. Not to mention the embarrassing moments of walking around the school with a huge, bloody stain on your butt. Every time you stand up or make a sudden movement there is a waterfall in your underwear. Nothing helps.

When it's time to get a boyfriend you have to look good all the time. If you don't have a shit ton of make-up, slutty clothes, and big boobs no one will like you. Being too tall or too fat means that you have a 90% chance of spending the rest of your life with only cats to keep you company. Also, shaving your legs is super annoying.

When you actually get married it's time to have kids. You waste nine months of your life carrying around a baby. You look very unattarctive, and can't even move around for such a long time. When it's finally time to give birth you're at risk of dying painfully, or possibly getting 500000 different types of diseases. If you survive, all you get is a red slimy larvae that you will have to raise for the next 18 years. Now it's time to cook, clean, and take care of the little brat. You will have to work 24/7 while your husband "earns money for the family". Oh, how busy he must be. Lets not forget you're much fatter and sooo much more unattractive than you were before giving birth, and husbands who cheat are not rare.

Yet another painful thing about being a woman is how helpless we are. We're so much weaker than men, and cannot fight back when a filthy bastard is trying to molest us. Sexual abuse is 10x worse than death, so we always have to watch out. Of course little boys can have that happen to them also, but unlike women, they're not going to get pregnant or anything.

Fuck my life, I hate being a girl.

[Dog19]

Oh... This is so negative...

[goflipaburger]

If you're looking for a reason to pity yourself, this is the way to go. I'm not going to harp on the lack of objectivity, but I will say that just because you wish you were female for whatever reason, doesn't mean all men should. I'm sorry you hate your gender and I'm sorry you can't just identify as something else, but you can't change that.

So what should you do? You have no control over the fact that you are male. What now? You put your thoughts to work.

Without harping on varying degrees of irrelevant material (such as pregnancy-- which 11% of pregnant woman are diagnosed with Post Partum Depression, several die during pregnancy, and others experience serious levels of pain--hence the high dosage of drugs available for them. so yeah, its a pretty big deal lol), you could do something productive and start reading philosophy.

Why philosophy, you ask? To collect your thoughts. Maybe you can even become a mens rights philosopher and find ideal ways to fix the problems. Sure, everyone needs to change-- there is always room for improvement-- but by not collecting your thoughts in a productive way you're really just kind of wasting time. truth is, society needs to change, but society needs direction. it doesn't just change magically.

and by the way, no gender finds low self esteem attractive unless they have a serious (and remotely creepy) fetish for people who have low self esteem.

[Asker]

well low self-esteem is worse for a guy

[hatethissite]

I would never suggest that women have it easier than men or attempt to downplay difficulties related to "periods, pregnancy, etc." Nor would I claim that low self-esteem is worse for a guy. Otherwise, I very much relate to the OP. I derive very little satisfaction from being male. I hate the role demanded of heterosexual men: having always to initiate and risk rejection (conversation, dating, sex, etc.). I'd much prefer to be approached (and receive the attention). Of course, this hasn't happened in 30 years. Sometimes, it seems like women are less attracted to men than to the way a 'good' man perhaps makes them feel about themselves. I want to add that I found Goflipaburger's reply unhelpful. If the "truth is, society needs to change" and it's suggested that MRA philosophy may "fix the problem," then why remark "If you're looking for reason to pity yourself..." That's not just unsympathetic, it's inconsistent. And clearly the OP was already investigating his thoughts, hence the post.

[Puffery]

"You have no control over the fact that you are male" I could not disagree more with that statement.

[test12345]

what an unsympathetic c-nt

[Robertcw]

Anger and self-esteem are different. Its possible to both love yourself and hate how others percieve and treat you. In fact, its possible to love yourself so much that you set out to take on the establishment wishing to exert your desires onto everone else so that rather than being the one who changes and conforms, you push everyone else to change instead and conform to your way instead of their way.

[EverythingReal]

Anti-social poor self esteem girls don't get boyfriends. Neither do fat ones typically either. Overweight boys have an easier time getting girls than the other way around. We need some type of basic social skills and confidence to get attention too.

ANYWAY.

I agree with you. It would suck to be a guy. I am so glad I am a woman. I don't get random boners/morning wood, I don't worry about the size of my genitals, I don't need money or car keys in order to date.

(Although society puts more pressure on girls to spend excessive amounts of time, energy and money on our looks. Not to mention our weight. And boobs. Essentially we just have to sit there and look pretty)

[Asker]

it's easier to sit there and look pretty than it is having to go out and get rejected all the time

[EverythingReal]

We still have to have confidence though. But yeah, rejection is one of the hardest things in life.

[Asker]

girls don't need confidence

[EverythingReal]

You're definitely the same guy on the other question I'm talking to. Why don't you just add me so we can actually talk instead of through comments? Girls do need to have confidence. No date worthy guy ever approaches the girl who hides in the back of the room whom's name never gets thrown around and is to insecure to talk.

[Asker]

i sent you a request now

[Asad1ONE1]

Right when you said "I'm glad to be a woman" is the moment I realized you actually hate being one. And mocking men's "boners" is further proof of that. Women also get morning/random erections but they are mostly internal. 🤡🤡

[aforiola]

I am a 21 year old male. Never had a fulfilling relationship, don't expect to ever have one. Think about it man, would you have sex with yourself if you were a girl? I know I wouldn't fuck myself were I to suddenly wake up in some girl's shoes tomorrow. Evolution isn't meant to be fair or comfortable, its driven purely by the preservation of the species. One very happy man could repopulate an entire city within a generation were all of his brethren to die in some foreign war. If all of the females in said city save one very unlucky girl disappeared over night, the species would be gone in a week. That's why if you or me ever find ourselves in a hostage situation, god knows they're going to negotiate for the women first, they're simply more valuable. My advice is to grow up, face the circumstances of your own reality and the overarching indifference of the universe.

Also, to all of you women out there, the worst thing you can say to an unattractive man is "you're just not my type," or "we should just be friends." Just as the worst thing to say to a fat girl is "you're not fat." Be honest with him, tell him he's a worthless hunk of shit. If he sticks around out of desperation then he deserves his own shit sandwich. Maybe people wouldn't be ranting on these sorts of forums if we as a species were introspective and dignified enough to admit these sorts of things to one-another.

[Robertcw]

Keep ypur head up. 21 is not that old. I'm 25. Same boat. I lost my virginity at 23. Haven't had sex since. Sex wasn't even that great. I've since gone MGTOW and went monk. What I realized is that the answer to these problems is to introduce doubt into female belief systems so that women begin doubting what they previously thought was attractive actually is attractive. If we do this, then we can change what they value into the traits that we have and valuerather than us give up our values to conform to them, we convince them to give up their values and conform to us. In short, we invert the social hierarchy just the same way socialism inverts capitalism.

[Anonymous]

yeah tell me about it, it pisses me off

[moniquinha]

It's not better to be either.

Each gender deals with it's own challenges and disadvantages. We also have our own perks and advantages too. Do you honestly think that women never deal with rejection or feel pressure to be "good enough" for someone?

In the end, we all just want to be valued. And women struggle with this just as much as men do, for our own reasons and in our own ways.

[Asker]

yeah but women are allowed to want or need a boyfriend for validation, to make them feel better about themselves, but it's pathetic, not okay the other way around

[violetkarma]

You have a very very long question with a lot of issues to address. As such, I'll only go after the main point-why does everyone say its better to be a male?

Women are considered a minority class because of how much power men hold. With power comes privilege. Male privilege refers to the special rights or status granted to men in a society, on the basis of their sex or gender, but usually denied to women and/or transsexuals. Here is a male privilege check list: link (go to bottom of the blog).

Privilege is simply the ability to not have to think about something that someone else always has to. For example: women/men & sexual safety. A male who is perceived to be straight can walk around at night and not worry about getting sexually assaulted. For a woman, it is very important to keep this in mind-where I can walk, should I call a friend, what can I do if I get assaulted? See what I mean?

This does not mean guys are bad. Privilege is just something that exists in our society because certain groups hold a disproportionate amount of power. White, straight males are the biggest shareholders of this power/privilege.

What you talk about deals a lot with how we perceive gender roles. That's a bummer too, because gender roles are particularly restricting for guys. But you have to understand it goes both ways. If a man adopts feminine characteristics-perhaps not being as outgoing or confident people may question his masculinity. But, if a women shows more masculine traits-such as being aggressive or strongly spoken she will often be perceived as a bitch.

Its a lose lose on all fronts really.

[Asker]

women can have bad social-skills, be shy, quiet, socially-awkward and still easily get a guy

[violetkarma]

guys can have bad social skills and still get a girl too. I feel like you didn't look at my answer at all. I mean, if you were just interested in why you perceive that its easier for girls to get guys then you should have stated that in the question instead of going into "i hate being a guy" angstfest question. I was trying to describe more general gender inequality to you.

[violetkarma]

Plus, a higher price is put on women's look, compared to women. Perhaps a shy women can get a guy easier than a shy guy, but a less conventionally attractive women will have a much harder time finding a guy compared to a less conventionally attractive man.

[Asker]

are you sure about that?

[violetkarma]

well, yeah. I wouldn't have put it down otherwise. I can try to find some research to back it up, if you want.

[Asker]

yeah, prove it that women are judged for their looks more

[violetkarma]

Women are much more likely to have eating disorders than men (10-15% of those with anorexia/bulimia are men), pointing to more pressure for conformity to a certain body type. link and link

I don't know if you can go through this link, but The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf discuses the pressure of beauty and how recently, that ideal has become very sexualized.

[violetkarma]

I don't know if you can go through this link, but The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf discuses the pressure of beauty and how recently, that ideal has become very sexualized.

link

[violetkarma]

link Study

link Excellent study " Differences between the subgroups in relation to internalization of the thin ideal. A two-way interaction effect was found between gender and sexual orientation, F(1, 277) = 6.00, p < .05. Gay men had the highest levels of internalization whilst men with a heterosexual orientation had the lowest."

[violetkarma]

"Differences between subgroups in relation to body dissatisfaction. A main effect for gender, F(1, 278) = 23.40, p < .001, revealed that women estimated greater positive differences between their self-perceived weight and shape and desired weight and shape than men, indicating that women have higher levels of weight/shape dissatisfaction and a stronger wish to be thinner than men"

[violetkarma]

link may as well throw that in too.

That was just from using google scholar for 10 minutes (plus time to read all the studies).

If you are actually interested in learning, you can look things up yourself. Go to a library.

[Robertcw]

Wonen have privileges too. The most important one is freedom of sexual partner choice. Its so easy for you. When was the ladt time someone you were sexually attracted to turned you down?

[h_i_n_e_s]

You have this so wrong.

You're saying girls don't need to be comfortable and content? That we don't need confidence? Are you shi***ng me?

We are so freaking pressured on a daily basis to attract the opposite gender, look as physically appealing as possible, and have what it takes to talk to guys and appear confident. If we didn't go to all these extremes to appear sure of ourselves and work hard at liking who we were, then we would all be dying of depression or loneliness.

And you're wrong if you look at the counter points too. Because you said that a girl can have low self-esteem and get a guy but not the other way around.

UMMMMMMMMMM the girls without self-esteem getting guys is because they're getting the guys who DON"T have self-esteem back as well.

And honestly, I think you need to stay and be happy as a guy. Because if you're bit****g this much about being a guy, then you sure as heck wouldn't survive being a girl.

[NothingGoldCanStay]

Best answer )

[Asker]

have what it takes to talk to guys and appear confident? no that's bullsh*t, girls do not need to know how to talk to guys but guys need to know how to talk to girls

[Dan876]

"Because if you're bit****g this much about being a guy, then you sure as heck wouldn't survive being a girl" FUCK YOU! If he bitched this much about being a guy he would survive. He would become a feminist. All women do is bitch. Do you have any idea how much your post isn't based in reality. When I worked at Walmart there was a woman in the break room EVERY FUCKING DAY bitching about her husband, her father in law, her uncles, and so on. And more women joined in. It is their fucking hobby to bitch and moan. The amount of complaining this guy does... in my mind he qualifies as a woman.

[test12345]

what an unsympathetic cunt

[Robertcw]

Did you ever consider that deep down you enjoy the rat race of competing with other women? Because if you didn't why would you keep doing it. Males are different from females in this way. We do not like to compete but when we are backed into a corner we will. Most of the time it is a female that is doing the pushing. Deep down I believe females love this. They coukd change everything very easily by simply wanting ti and then changing theit behavior accordingly, but they do not. I refuse to play along and am always pushing women to redefine what they want. I challange thier preferences in men, question their decisions and do my best to introduce doubt into their decision making. I am very much going head on against the norms on this -- some say against nature itself. But to me I'm just doing what I want and working tiwards the type of world I want to live in.

[Robertcw]

All these guys are grovelling about how to best cater what women are telling them they want and wonder why they don't have a world that they appreciate. That's not what theg need. They need a revolution that introduces doubt into widely held female belief systems. That addresses the cause rather than the symptoms. They need to tell women what they should want and why, not the other way around. Apple didn't become the first trillion dollar company by asking permision to sell iPhones before selling them. They design them first, and then tell consuners to buy them.

[NothingGoldCanStay]

I know you won't really listen but everything you just mention is true but you seem to ignore the other side of the coin. Any good thesis will consider the other side...

What about the concept of power and dominance. We can get away with more. We can be more straigh forward and act as we wish to act. Women who are bitches are quickly friendless, men who are a**holes are not. It is a character traits which people love to hate but still is necessary for our society to function. We also have more drive to compete. We are more likely to become a boss, a president, we have more control over our destiny...we are sturdier. Like you said we don't need validation. We don't need comfort. We can stride head high cause we don't need anyone's validation. That is why I prefer being a Man.

[Asker]

well, politics, economics-wise, okay that makes sense but I say women have it easier in the social world

[Asker]

women do not need to be secure and they can still get a guy

[Dan876]

Yeah and women are attracted to men with power and status. Honestly does a woman want to marry a man because he wants to be a stay at home dad? I am sure a woman thinks about that while she is pleasuring herself. Honestly who is more likely to get the laid the president or a walmart employee? We need power and status to get laid. This idea that women want love, well it is a Disney lie. Work hard and get yourself a career. Men NEED careers, power, and ambition. Women don't.

[NerdInDenial]

It's because we can stand up to pee. Also, orgasming is easier for a guy. Sure, there are some bad aspects, but overall, things are a bit easier. If you want a girl, you just have to look for her, and expect to get rejected. However, I've seen many ugly guys obtain girl friends. Thus, it can happen to you.

[Asker]

yeah but girls, women, do not have to initiate anything

[prociona]

Orgasming may be easier, but getting an erection is harder.

[MissMc3]

Thanks for breaking my faith in humanity.
Honestly, you definitely SOUND like a woman. Obviously you don't have enough testosterone and that is why you are so emotional right now but the fact that you think it's easy to be a female? Well there is no excuse for that, you're just retarded.

Have you endured childbirth, periods, or even just the feeling of being less than beautiful? A man can be ugly and still have a chance with girls. If a woman isn't beautiful she will NEVER get a decent man.
Having to be the initiator? ARE YOU FUCKING SERIOUS? Men literally have to do nothing except be the first to talk to us and you think that is bullshit?

[NoOneLikesMeEver]

You're the retarded one, feminazi. Childbirth and periods are NOTHING. And men have to not only initiate, but create sexual tension, flirt, tease, and touch the girl WITHOUT coming off as creepy. Not easy for most guys, especially if you have Asperger's. Women don't have to go to war and get shot, lose legs, and suffer lifelong mental problems due to defending freedom. I hope that Donald Trump wins the 2016 election because you feminists need to have your mouths surgically removed. Cheers!!!

[MissMc3]

UHM excuse me, have you went through periods and childbirth? Also, do you understand that there are female soldiers as well? And men are not obligated to go to war, women have no choice in periods and pregnancy, it is a part of their body. I honestly hope you are joking, because if there are people who think like that then we have failed as a society.

[NoOneLikesMeEver]

I'm not joking, I'm serious. Female soldiers don't exist you uneducated retard! And studies have shown that women actively exaggerate the pain of periods to make society feel sorry for them. Society is failing because of feminism, in addition to n gger rap music and increased sexuality in the media. There's a reason to why WWII was called the "Greatest generation" of America. Because women had to be in the kitchen and men took authority in a decent society. That's a perfect example off hey modern feminism is crap.

[Dog19]

I'd rather be a woman than a man. Woman have it easier

[Words_and_Wisdom]

Women often get this idea that men are privileged when we really aren't.

[Dan876]

Have you ever heard of selective service? I am willing to bet a million dollars that when women are equal to men at everything in society, that they won't give two shits about the problems men face. We will have an all women congress, surpreme court, and a woman president all at the same time before male problems are take a care of.

[IHateBeingaMan]

oh well, what can you do, unfortuneately it won't change

[WooHoooooooooo]

really? cuz I get approached by a lot of woman lmao. its not hard to get woman. you don't always have to walk up and ask them out. most of the time I just find a girl I like and hit on her. If she flirts back then the rest is easy, but If she doesn't I walk off and find a new woman. lol

[Joe3378]

I wouldn't want to patronizingly suggest that women have it better, because that's evidently not true. Granted, I don't live in fear of sexual violence.

That said, I can relate to the extent that I loathe being a hetrosexual male -positively hate it. I don't want that kind of power - it's a total disease.

The sooner men and women are just people and are free of these poisonous conventions and expectations the better. in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

You are born male, but if you don't identify with the male gender then you can be gender neutral, gender fluid, a transgendered female...

[Robertcw]

This is true. However its also a great way to be sure tou won't get sex. I know because I identify and behave agender.

[Anonymous]

I feel the same as you do. I would love to be a woman and live as one.

[Anonymous]

i'm thinking it's because of the whole men age like wine, women age like milk

[Anonymous]

uhh trust me you don't wnna go through PMS emotional drama with yourself and the menstrual cycle. you don't want your cervix stretching 6-10 inches to give birth either.

[Asker]

at least you girls don't have to initiate anything

[Opinion Owner]

i asked my ex out! I also added him on Facebook and made effort to get to know him =D I was more of a man than he was

[Asker]

how long were you and him together? seriously, why is it the masculine, manly thing to do to know what you want and go after it?

[Anonymous]

AWKWARD!

[Anonymous]

tl;dl but just on the title question alone I can tell it's false. I wasn't aware everyone says it is better to be a male, probably since they don't.